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luvnksstyle

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About luvnksstyle

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    Contributor
  • Birthday 05/31/1958

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    single female
  • Location
    Grinnell, Kansas
  • Interests
    music, dancing, reading
  • Occupation
    meat processing

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    luvnksstyle
  1. Happy Birthday

  2. and the other thing , is if you are each other's first and only?? if each other is the only sexual experience either of you have had, then, the experience of inviting others into the bedroom is going to be a long exploration of discovery. But, also, one , i think, produces its own rewards and satisfactions, and i think you said it yourself, that the communication is a lot better, and more insightful, maybe?? meaningful?? it's kinda like discovering each other's likes and dislikes all over again.
  3. I, also, was raised Catholic, and what I would recommend is discuss the beginnings of your sexual relationship together. If you waited til months after the wedding , til you were both comfortable in that situation, then, I would say , you are both in for another long journey. But, if you, like many other Catholic friends I know, shared those intimate moments and make out sessions out in the boonies LOL, then, I would say, going to your first meeting or club, will be a lot like that. Cuz, altho, you may not know if you'll find a couple that you'll be able to form the rare swing friendship with, I assure you , there will be plenty of beautiful people there that you're going to be attracted to, and wondering what it would be like to make out with them. After finding a possible playmate, the rest is just a matter of communication.
  4. it is with great trepidation , that I entered this thread..... cuz invariably, once you claim someone else is a predator on newbies, it reflects back on me, double ..... but being a single female, there does seem to be a tonload of 'em out there, that just pounce on new meat ...... thank god , I'm now 50 and stubborn and independent, and I believe, word is getting around that I am no pushover....... it takes a lot more than some pretty words and a pretty face to catch my attention. I just hope , "those dirty, horny , old men" think twice before they approach their next target!!
  5. i think all of these points .. point ... to one thing ... your personality, what you feel comfortable with and what you don't.. Obviously, you know how you feel , so , i'll try and give you some insight into how and why i make the choices i make.. (1) at what point , do i decide to have sex with someone?? pretty much immediately. it depends on my gut feeling , and what i see when i look in their eyes . being online is a lot harder , cuz people can pretend to be what ever you're looking for. i'm not sure if your age is listed , but at my age , i always presume that the guy i've just met, and is makin me wonder what it would be like to have sex with him, has other relationships , others who are close and dear to his heart. i never presume that i am the first , nor the last person that feels this way in his presence. my next decision has to do with regret. if i never am able to see this person again , will i regret giving myself to him sexually?? will i regret the fact that he prefers to be with whomever he's been with before me?? and so i decide , yes, being with this man , if only once , will be worth it ... will somehow enhance my life , and brighten my outlook. IF you're the type of person that is always in need of reassurance that you are lovable , or feeling that "your" guy is giving "the other woman" more attention than you, the LS will only magnify , if not intensify those thoughts and feelings. (6) i'm not a swimmer, but in every aspect of my life , i , too, also answer that voice in my head. like when i lost my virginity. i remember thinking ... "am i really ready to wait for a lifetime commitment ( not to mention the doubts i had about anything lasting a lifetime ) to experience sexual passion and physical desire" .... i gave my virginity at the age of 17, to a 17 yo guy, that i had never seen before , and haven't seen since. my only connection to him was his older brother. sorry, i get so wordy , but once i get on a train of thought , i just go with it ..
  6. y'all are dating . i presume you've had sex . well, the time table will probably match how long it took for you to have sex with him. if you only have sex as an expression of love for someone, then it will take you just as long to feel comfortable with swinging. swingers are a bunch of great people. and i know using the word love is probably too much, but no one is ... or should push you before you're comfortable enough to test the waters, so to speak. and no one here is looking to break up your relationship, but if your relationship isn't strong enough, then ya shouldn't enter into the LS .. as i always say... be you !! pursue your desires !! and believe!! if ya start doubting or feeling left out, the LS will just make ya feel worse. so be confident in who you are , what you have to offer ( what i can only assume ) to the greatest guy that has captured your heart and ... depending on your swimming style .... DIVE IN!! or just get your feet wet
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