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nameofthegame

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About nameofthegame

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  • Birthday 11/08/1962

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  1. hi, Well, I have 'bi' in my profile, and I'm constantly getting queries (queer ease?) from men who have "straight" on their profile. $0.02
  2. Eh? No attack was meant. Honest. My point was that you're direct in your opinions. There's no way to mistake the point of view. That isn't a bad thing. No offense was meant.
  3. Yes, I've told her and she's very supportive. That's a huge load off my shoulders. So far she hasn't really voiced any concerns.
  4. Thanks for mentioning that. Yes, I've told her. But, you know, thats something that bears repeating pretty well. I'll make sure that message comes across loud and clear.
  5. I like MM and MF porn. Honest. I don't really like FF porn.
  6. FWIW, I simply can't see myself living a completely gay lifestyle for any length of time. I enjoy sex with men. I could probably 'live' on it for a time. But I could *never* stop enjoying sex with women as well.
  7. I saw your question last night. It really got my head spinning. That's a good thing. ;-) Here are my thoughts: Well, my wife knows that I'm bi. I've been able to work up the courage to tell her. As far as swinging is concerned, yes I would like to be involved in conventional swapping. But, I also relish the idea of exploring the bi aspects of that for myself too. Frankly, even if my wife were to say N.F.W. to the idea of swinging, I can live with that as long as she accepts my bisexual feelings. That's what matters most. I've been able to confide in her about my sexual desires. That's been great. I will be asking about swinging, but getting my own confusions dealt with is my first priority. I don't think it would be fair to hit her all at once with everything -- especially if I'm not clear on my own stuff first. I have her as a life partner. That won't change. I would like to have her as a partner in the lifestyle. She's now aware about my bi tendencies. If she can live with my sexual feelings but isn't willing to swing, then I wont take it any further. Np. Those are good, honest, questions. It isn't fun to contemplate, but they help me to sort things out. So thanks for asking.
  8. Yeah, I've thought about it. No, I'm not gay. I still *really* enjoy sex with women. I'd say I'm 60-70% straight and the rest is gay. I enjoy men as a nice addition to women, but not as a substitute. I wouldn't like to be limited to sex with men only.
  9. Valid point. Well, in my younger years, it was something I wanted to ignore about myself. Eventually, I had hoped, it would simply go away. As I get older though, I'm beginning to think it is a 'need' and not a 'want' situation. I'll certainly not die from wanting it, it isn't like a vitamin deficiency, but it seems pretty strong. Dunno. I'm just mostly confused right now.
  10. That's brings up something else I hadn't got around to asking. Is your own bisexuality something you feel you _have_ to fulfill, or something you _like_ to fulfill? I'm not being moralistic, I simply want to hear about other people's experiences.
  11. My preference would be for her to be a part of it *if* I decide to 'scratch the itch'. I'm not sure what I'm going to do, frankly. She is now. And, she was very understanding about it. I think she is a little shocked, but she definitely isn't having a negative reaction to it. That's a big relief. Yep. That's part of the reason I told her. In the past, when things got emotionally rocky for me, I tended to see refuge in sex with other men. Well, I'm in a rocky spot right now (just got laid off), and I'm starting feel the need to 'act out' again. So, by telling her, and openly acknowledging it to myself, it will allow me to be more responsible in dealing with it. Or, that's the plan. Yes. I don't think it will kill the marriage, but she will definitely see me differently. I'm convinced the gamble is worth it. That's a good point. You're right. And, it isn't being negative to have an honest opinion. Will do, and thanks again.
  12. Thanks. I have. Partially from my talking here, and thinking it over myself, I finally told her. Same here. Its always been a part of me, but I didn't dare say anything. I think mostly it was somehow counter to how I wanted to see myself. Yeah, I think I'll try to do that.
  13. Mostly. Thought I can't deny there is an emotional element. Someone before. No, there isn't anyone in my life now. Good question. I haven't worked up to asking yet. ;-) If she wasn't there, it would probably be easier for me. I wouldn't feel good about it. I would rather she knew about it. Understood. True. The SF area is a kind of mecca for alternative lifestyles. Was thinking it should be easier to find like-minded folks here than some other areas. Dunno.
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