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About JoCoCpl

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    a/k/a KStateCpl
  • Birthday 01/20/1967

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Married Couple
  • Location
    Olathe, KS
  • Interests
    We love live music. We enjoy spending time with friends, going to dueling piano bars, sporting events, and the occasional bit of karaoke.
  • Occupation
    Education
  • Swinging Experience
    almost 8 years

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    KStateCpl
  • SwingerZoneCentral Username
    kstatecpl
  • Kasidie Username
    kstatecpl
  • Favorite Club(s)
    KC needs some new clubs!

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  1. I figured that was the case. Thanks for the info.
  2. We are going to be in Colorado Springs in July and were wondering whether any clubs are operating there? We can't seem to find anything in our searches. Silhouettes is listed on several sites, but their website doesn't seem to exist anymore. Thanks for any insight.
  3. Hey everyone - We'll be traveling to Colorado next month - the Denver, Boulder, Estes Park, and Rocky Mountain National Park region. Can anyone tell me which swinger site is most popular this area? SLS? Kasidie? Something else? Thanks!
  4. Yeah - the main lifestyle matchup site we use just had a forum question similar to this, where the private party hosts were asking all attendees to provide first/last names, address, e-mail address, and phone numbers. I was surprised at how many people were in support of the idea of requiring this info, as well as the number of people who do so for their own house parties. The reasoning given by many was so they would have contact information "just in case something went wrong." Another justification was that the hosts are giving their info to potential guests, so it was only fair for the guests to do the same. IMHO, hosts voluntarily give up some privacy, but guests shouldn't have to just to even the playing field. There was one who even ran background checks before guests would be able to attend. Many respondents went on to say that those who balked at giving this info were paranoid and being unreasonable. Bottom line: we feel that hosts can feel free to ask for whatever they wish. Those considering attending can feel free to take this into account and decide accordingly whether to attend. We would choose not to.
  5. The problem with some kind of jewelry, apparel, etc. is that once knowledge of the sign goes outside the lifestyle, it's no longer discreet. As popularity/acceptance of the sign increases, so does the likelihood of the word getting out outside the LS. Just my two cents.
  6. Here in the Kansas City area (and through most of KS, MO, OK, and AR it seems), C4P has a pretty strong share of the market. SLS doesn't have much as far as events in our region, though there are a fair amount of subscribers in our area. SZC doesn't seem to have much around here at all. We haven't really checked into Kasidie much at this point since C4P serves our needs for the most part and is less expensive.
  7. Sometimes it seems as though life would be easier if everyone just knew. However, we both know that most of our family would have a difficult time being accepting, and my co-workers would certainly look down on it and ridicule us. The latter doesn't necessarily bother me, but I'd just rather not deal with it. I'm 46, and of the 8 teachers in our little corner of the building, only two of us are over 32, so we do have different friendship circles anyway. Besides, it's kind of fun when we talk about going out with or hanging out with some friends. Because of our age, they probably assume a rousing game of cards or going to listen to some "old people" music somewhere for a very boring evening out. We like thinking "if they only knew...."
  8. C4P (ClubForeplay) carries a lot of punch in the KS/MO/AR/OK area. We're also on SLS but didn't have as much luck there so we've gone primarily with C4P.
  9. Since we use a site other than SLS for our primary resource, I can't speak to the "certification" standards there. However, on C4P the "validations" are specifically designed to be a notation that you have met someone - nothing more, nothing less. Unfortunately, not everyone there seems to understand that even though it's specifically stated on the validation pages.
  10. Very wise. Swinging is not something I would push at this point, but it does appear that getting your private sex life on the same page is a very important topic of continuous discussion. Good luck!!
  11. I agree as well, and it's really too bad that it happens. I hate seeing people who do things in the LS that they really don't want to do. That's not what it's supposed to be all about. Would I love it if the Mrs were bi? Absolutely (and yes, she knows this)! But I'm certainly not going to try to pressure her to try to be something she's not. If she decides to experiment someday, awesome. If not, that's great too. All of this is for her just as much as it's for me.
  12. I am a married male who has gone to our favorite club alone on a couple of occasions. Maybe our situation is different because she is as "into" the lifestyle as much as I am, and we typically frequent this club together and have many friends there. Regardless, I still felt "guilty" about going even though my wife practically pushed me out the door. So, before you go, be sure of two things -- make DAMN sure she is truly OK with it, and second, make sure YOU are OK with it. I'm not sure I'll ever go alone again, to be honest. Just doesn't feel right for me. It might work for the two of you, and if so, that's great. I would agree with the previous post that you will have a difficult time finding people willing to play with a married male who is flying solo. Right or wrong, there will likely be an almost immediate suspicion from those who do not know you - a suspicion that you may simply be a man who is stepping out for something "on the side." Of course, there may be exceptions, but that seems to be my impression of the perception of others. I was able to get playtime as a third with a couple that we already knew and were friends with. My guess is that will likely be your best chance for "quality time" -- those who already know the two of you and know the situation. Perhaps if your wife is truly willing to let this happen, she may be willing to meet with some of your potential playmates outside the club just so your new friends know what's going on. It will also be vital that you be reassuring to your wife every step of the way -- talk to her before, during, and after you go out. Keep her in the loop, communicate with her a couple of times through the night. Find out if she wants you to call her before playing or would prefer not to know that it's about to happen. Remember, even if she's not going, she's still involved in this -- she's your life partner, after all. She still needs to have her say. Good luck!
  13. IMHO, I guess it comes down to what is more important to you - spending time with your friends or being naked in the hot tub. If they don't want to do both, you'll have a decision to make. Personally, I'd go ahead and wear something to match their comfort level if I'm wanting to spend time with them. We all talk about moving forward at the comfort level of others in the lifestyle, I guess I don't understand why you wouldn't show the same respect for vanilla friends as well. To each their own!
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