we are not so new to swinging, we have been playing a little over 3 years. Prior to that we talked about it for a couple years before we did anything. Up until April of this year Mr. was full swap and I was only soft. (Try finding a couple that wants to play with that mess HA!) Now we are full swing and we love it. When we first started we were on AFF and a single female (unicorn if you please) found us and our first experience was FFM. From there we went to clubs and met some couples on SLS, the rest as they say is history.