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Do women enjoy anal intercourse?
lovein84 replied to CyberTuthTygrrr's topic in Let's Talk About Sex
What a journey this was for us. 20+ years ago I would fumble through occasional attempts with her. Rather clueless at the time, I offered too little preparation and patience. She was usually reluctant but very geared toward pleasing me. The one or two times I managed to get a centimeter or two past the head in, the pain was way too much for her, so end of story. A few years later, always in the 69 with her on top, I would make my fingers wet and just stroke the outside of her asshole while going down on her. That graduated to a little analingus, and eventually some careful, tentative probing with one finger, always while I was down on her. This became a semi-regular part of playtime. Sometimes she objected to the finger, sometimes she didn't. We talked about it a lot. She wasn't very optimistic about us ever being able to enjoy anal, but willing to take baby steps. One night I noticed that as I was licking and sucking her and I slid the finger in, her reaction was different. The finger had taken her to another level of arousal whereas before I suspect she approached it as something she put up with. For a few times after that it was still hit and miss as to whether she would actually enjoy the probing, but before long she was enjoying it A LOT. It took some time, but that gradually led to two fingers, and more aggressive analingus, which she really enjoyed. We may have tried full anal once or twice in that period, with basically the same result as years ago. Still, she was enjoying the other anal play more and more. I introduced a small butt plug, which was almost too much for her. I encouraged her to explore her ass a little on her own. In time she was totally into anal play, but my average sized cock was still way too much. I guess it was the psychology of it as much as the physical part that changed for her. As she began to enjoy my hands and mouth back there more and more, that enabled me to explore a little deeper. It took a long time but eventually she was able to handle three fingers, though it was almost too intense. Two fingers was perfect and sent her over the top with an orgasm. Seemed like it might be time to try again. She used an enema beforehand, and I was intent on bringing her off 3 or 4 times really well in the hope that she'd be more relaxed before even trying. Lots of lube, lots of slow, gentle finger exploration, and very slow, cautious insertion of my cock. It was very intense for her and I'm sure somewhat painful, but she had a bit more determination now. That first time I got 2/3's of my cock inside her and could pump only a little, slowly. A few minutes was all she could handle, and she was pretty sore back there for a few days. We tried again a week or two later, but it was more painful this time. She thought it may have been that the angle of penetration was slightly off for her, if that makes sense. Maybe a month later we tried again with it being similar to the first time except that she was able to handle it a bit longer. Maybe the 4th or 5th time we got to the next level. She was able to handle all of me (though barely). But now she was truly getting pleasure from the act. She was comfortable with a bit deeper, harder pumping now, and more often than not having a powerful orgasm, without the benefit of clitoral stimulation as that made it more intense than she could handle. Her bottom was always tender afterwards so we didn't do it often. Maybe 2-3 times a month. Though she had found a lot of pleasure with it, sometimes it was still almost too painful. But as had been the case since we'd begun revisiting the idea 6 or so years before, loving tenderness and patience were the key. I think it was still fairly early on when she said those magic words to me one night as we climbed into bed and kissed...."Honey...I want you to fuck my ass tonight." Within a year of that first good insertion, we were both loving it. Still don't go there every time but probably at least every other time we make love. Sometimes still her butt is a little tender the next day but not always, and never as much as when we started. Prior to sex she seems just as tight back there as ever, but of course with some stimulation she does open up easier and a little more. We've incorporated dildos and the standard dp with a dildo and me. A recent favorite is using two toys on her while she sits in a chair with her legs draped over the arms. She enjoys me occasionally sliding the dildo out of her pussy so I can lick and kiss her there slowly. So far it's only been me doing her that way, but I suspect sometime she'll be in the mood to try someone else, and that's fine. Anyway, it took YEARS, but it was worth it, for both of us. Patience, lube, more patience, more lube. Take baby steps. Sorry so long.... -
We had been talking about this occasionally and one night when she rode me to orgasm she slid up to my mouth with that full snatch of my cum. Interesting to say the least. I felt odd eating my own cream but it wasn't distasteful, nor was it a great turn on. She had a powerful orgasm but then she usually does so I don't know that it was better for having my cum eaten out of her. She has a terrible time swallowing. She tries, but alas some gag reflex kicks in and she will either choke a bit or let it drip out of her lovely mouth. Well, one night recently as I was about to cum I asked her to hold it all in her mouth and not try to swallow, then give it back to me in a kiss. That was wild. The kiss itself was very, very sexy but I don't think I was quite ready for the taste of my pure cum, or swallowing. I let it drip out onto her breasts and rubbed it in with one hand as I reached down to stroke her g spot to bring her off again. We've talked about me cleaning up her cream pie from another man but the right circumstances have yet to present themselves. She seems to go back and forth on whether she'd be into that or not but knowing her I think that if it were to happen it would be much more exciting than when we did it ourselves. I don't think I have gay or bi yearnings, but I do find these and similarly wild activities very exciting because of the intimacy involved between her and I. They seem to take intimate sharing with her to a different level.
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Are you totally new to swinging or do you have experience?
lovein84 replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Swingers Talk
We started ever so cautiously about two years ago. She was quite nervous and I'm sure doing it just to fulfill my fantasy. I had brought it up occasionally for years but while it sometimes made her hot to talk about it, she viewed it as something that should remain a fantasy. I must say I was a little surprised she made it as far as the hotel bar for a few drinks with the gentlemen we'd selected. I thought my beautiful little scaredy-cat would chicken out, but we actually made it up to the room as three. We had decided at the outset that a MFM was the way for us to break the ice but honestly my primary interest was in watching her. Can't even remember how things got started, but do know it was very gentle and tender. And then the amazing happened (I'd guess others have experienced this).....as soon as she began to give him oral she turned into the natural. It was so beautiful. They spent a little time together as I watched, almost numb, so surreal....it was like the most amazing film noir I could imagine. I didn't want to intrude for a bit. Then she was riding him slowly and all of a sudden I could no longer resist the urge to touch her, kiss her neck and back, then her bottom. As I came back up she must've made some gesture that I didn't quite catch, and he said softly...."I think she wants you inside her too." She could only moan...."yes...." As I moved to slide into her gently for anal, she slid down a bit to take him back in her mouth. Enjoying both of us that way took her over the top to say the least. Afterwards I went back to the role of observer for awhile. The guy was very nice that evening, but ended up sort've losing his steam a little too soon . Nonetheless it was a very positive first experience. We had amazing sex after he left, then laughed together the rest of the night and most of the next day over how she had resisted, then been so nervous, only to discover that as soon as she got started she loved it. We were excited to explore this new territory together, but I think in my effort to avoid making her feel like I was dictating what we'd do, I ended up giving her too much room at the wrong time. Our sex life was still very hot after 20+ years together (blessed we are), but clearly this experience had opened her up in new ways. She had also been dealing with some difficult issues with her mother (the long term effects of a family tragedy) and had recently been seeking some escape. I didn't want to put the hammer down on her pleasure or newfound sexual freedom, so I was ok with her talking on the phone to her new "friend", or having lunch with him. He was good on the phone and in e-mail , and she developed quite a crush on the guy, and he with her. Nothing else happened after that first time, but it was about to when I began to get the jist of things. As you might imagine, the fallout was very rough. We made it through though, I'm sure because we both recognized that our marriage had long been one of the very special ones. I think with most women I've known, it would've been a struggle to ever trust them again, but...well, you'd have to know her. She is indeed quite special. I was sure she'd been faithful prior to this and I was sure she'd been confused and made a big mistake. I made some too. Anyway, we've dabbled off and on since then with no ill effects. I do trust her now, as I always had before. Communication and respect are keys. Hey Julie....Thanks for this place. Tom -
Do you swing with single males?
lovein84 replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
Our experience overall is somewhat limited, but each time we've played it has been with single males, save one impromptu couple after a party. I don't know that we necessarilly planned it that way. Let's just say guys are easier. That said, we've either been lucky or smart as only the first two times did it go a litle south. The first ecperience was magical, an awakening (que the trumpets), but the guy got a little too attached after that. But that first evening was so good I'm afraid we rushed into the 2nd experience a bit in so far as my eagerness led to me sidestepping my instincts mnomentarily. The night wasn't bad really, but just "ok". Every other has been wonderful. We did learn fast what others have said in regards to our profile on the site we use...."we'll e-mail you if we need you." lol