Wow! I think the most informative post on this thread was this one! So much so, that I HAVE to comment. Now...this comes from a married female who has never had any complaints about giving oral. In fact, hubby usually sings me praises and begs for more! Soooo.....
There have been a handful of times that I am NOT into it, or do not feel like I am 100% tuned into him. But I know how much he loves what I do, so I happily oblige. Those times have never seemed to affect my performance or the amount of time that it takes him to get there.
I agree with all of the detail. I think receiving head can only be as good as the person is who is giving it. I have seen A LOT of porn, and some of those women could barely suck a Dum-Dum sucker let alone a cock. I sit there in amazement that they even get paid to do such a lousy job! (For those not familiar with Dum-Dum suckers, as it may be a local thing since I live within an hour of the facility that makes them --- They are suckers that are only about as big around as a dime or penny.)
My idol is/was, of course, Ginger Lynn. I watched her long before I EVER gave my first blow job. She uses many if not all of the techniques that are mentioned above. I think a lot of women just think they can stick it in their mouth and just started moving up and down. That is so NOT the case! There has to be a lot of other movement going on down there. I love to use my tongue to really play with the spot right under the tip of his head. And I use my hand at the base while doing that.
I do agree that it helps if the woman swallows. I am not a man, but I think I would feel "unaccepted" if a woman isn't willing to swallow.
As far being taught fellatio by a gay guy, I don't think I could do that. But I would highly suggest looking into videos teaching the technique or checking out some of Ginger Lynn's stuff. (No, I am not really her - so I am not trying to advertise my own work or anything!! LOL)