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thegirl

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About thegirl

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  • Birthday 11/28/1975

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    M. Female
  • Location
    Midland, MI

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    theboy_thegirl
  1. LOL We thought we did okay with this last couple. We had chatted with them on and off for about 10 months before we finally worked out a time to meet... (we all work full time and have very busy schedules.) When we all finally got together for dinner... there was chemistry... and the conversation was great. The sex was good. Then... a month ago, after our last playdate... we are informed that he wants to be able to watch her with the boy... and even participate. While I just sit in the other room. Alone. Because I don't get turned on watching people have sex. We did try same room stuff with this couple as a compromise... but the other husband couldn't do it with my husband and his wife in the room. I did agree that if he snuck off to peek in on them, I would be totally cool with that... but that I didn't want to be left alone in the other room while he joined in... I thought this was a fairly reasonable compromise. Then, 2 days ago, after not playing with them for over a month, I guess they decided this wasn't good enough... and first the wife calls me a know it all for asking if they had considered finding a single guy to fulfill that aspect of their fantasies... and then suggested I talk to her husband the next day. I agreed. I was told, by him, that our way of swinging is odd. That it's wrong that we don't get turned on by watching each other. I reminded him that we had been upfront about this right from the beginning, that he was the one changing the rules. That if he couldn't work out a compromise with me, then it wasn't going to work. He told me that I was childish and kept telling me to be a grown up. The boy took over the keyboard at this point and told him he was arrogant and that a big part of swinging was compromise and playing by the rules that are set. That's why we chat first to see if people are looking for the same things we are. I was surprised how protective he got of my feelings. He wouldn't answer the boy's questions and just kept getting angry. He told the boy that the conversation was between me and him... and that the boy had no business butting in. After that, the boy said goodnight and signed off. We really had never come across this... we are pretty easy going... and like I said... when he expressed wanting to do things differently, I was very willing to compromise... but that wasn't enough. I think he thought he could bully me into doing what he wanted. I am not exactly the type of woman to be bullied. LOL Anyway... I am tired and rambling. I think I will end it there. The boy can add more if he wants. Thanks for all the advice, everyone.
  2. I think this is how we went into this. We thought that we could maintain friendships with these people... because we all were looking for the same things. Friends with benefits. We don't have a lot of friends that are in the same place as us, either... it's nice to have like minded people to have dinner with... or just hang out with.
  3. We are good people... and we LOVE having friends around us. We love to have friends over for dinner... playing video games... hanging out with them... Giving our time, effort and resources come easily to us. I think this is exactly the problem. We are definitely too nice. We genuinely care about people and that does seem to be getting us in trouble. (by the way, I am the OP's wife! LOL)
  4. Our first party was EXACTLY like this! LOL We didn't have sex with anyone that night... except each other... and discovered that we LOVE to be watched while having sex! So, something good came out of it!
  5. I don't get off on watching my husband, at all. I love knowing he is having a good time... I love having a good time myself, but to actually watch what he is doing is not fun for me. One of the hottest things about separate room stuff is being able to 'hear' him. I love that. It also depends on the situation, though... we have had 2 threesomes with single girls and were lucky enough to have been allowed to take pictures... and that was fantastic for me. I got some excellent pictures of the action. I did much prefer the threesome with the bi girl more, though... I loved being able to participate and loved kissing her while theboy was having sex with her... When we had a threesome with a straight girl, I felt awkward at times. If I hadn't had the ability to photograph the evening... I don't know that I would have had anywhere near as much fun as I did.
  6. I thought the whole thing was pretty funny! And hey! I just realized... I never got any dollars stuffed in my panties that night for dancing for you!
  7. We both signed up using a screen name that we use on a non-swinger site... and changed our minds about that. We both re-registered with part of our sls name... there we are theboy_thegirl... so, here, he registered theboy and I regiestered thegirl. We had to add numbers for yahoo as well... LOL
  8. I had my first threesome with my best friend and her boyfriend when I was 17... she was 18 and the boyfriend was 24. I actually fell out of contact with her when she went away to school, but recently found her profile on SLS! I messaged her and we had lunch! I have no intention of playing with her, but it was great to laugh about finding each other on a swinging website, considering our history! LOL
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