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newblueyedcpl4u

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About newblueyedcpl4u

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 07/02/1960

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    myrtle beach, south carolina
  • Interests
    Love the beach, love house parties with the right people. Backyard barbques, movies, shopping, going to fun clubs, and best of all eating maryland blue crabs.
  • Occupation
    Shop Foreman for a foriegn car dealer
  • Swinging Experience
    1 1/2 yrs

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    newblueyedcpl4u
  1. First of all lets get serious here. If she didn't want him to have sex with her, what was she doing in the closed door bedroom with him? Second I have no beliefs that is she didn't want him to do it she could have fought him and made him stop or it is rape. Last she comes to you and tells you he gave her a g spot o four times, and she didn't want him too? I think someone is pulling on your petticoat a little dude. No way she would lay there through four times and not enjoy it, seems she may have not wanted it to happen the way it did but once it did, if she layed there through four times, she was loving it by the end. She is making excuses and you are a gullable man for buying into what she has said in my opinion.
  2. You have to think about what this really means. To us it is pretty simple. We like to do a meet and greet with most couples before we decide we are going to bed with them. We have been to meet and greets where it seems the guy is the arogant large and in charge type that just wants sex with whomever and it doesn't matter who or what. The wife ends up being the passive type that will do whatever hubby wants to keep him happy. That to us is a delima and we back away from those type individuals. We are a little older and more experienced in our lives and the thought comes to mind. Would I go out on a date with this individual if I was single? Is there a physical attraction to this individual or couple? There are times we meet people and walk away saying no way, and I am sure the same happens to us. That type individual is what I call a bednothcher or bedjumper. He will basically have sex with anyone that will do it. I am sure that is what these people are trying to say. If we meet you and we are not in some way compatable, then we are not going to have sex with you. Attitude is everything and the people we have been with are nice friendly folks that we enjoy being with and want to take it further. We also shy away from those who say they want to find one or two couples to be get together with and expect us to be loyal to them. This ends up hurting feelings also because when they see you in a club talking or with someone else they expect you to drop everything and be with them. It is a fine line and I think swinging is an enjoyment thing, and you need to enjoy being with the people you choose to swing with. We also shy away from people with multiple certs and no discredit to you folks that have them. We feel swinging is a once in a while getaway, not an obsession. We far more enjoy being with each other then with others. It is just a turn on now and then to see your partner with someone else and let them enjoy something a little different as you are doing, but... usually the best sex is between the two of you after the other couple leaves~~
  3. Well we have been to on premise clubs where there are about 300 people and you just play with whom you get to know there. Most of the time we found they were regulars at the club and we were not in the click so to speak. We have also been to a house party with 4 couples and that was perfect. 8 naked people in a hot tub is definitely up close and personal. We knew the host couple before but met everyone else that night. That was the perfect situation, move around everyone enjoying all without too many you don;t even get introduced to like the club. Age seems to be a bigger question and maybe I will post that and see what kind of response I get.
  4. My advice is to first of all keep up the fantasies. That is how we and probably most of the swingers that practice did it. After a while get her to take a look at some of the web sites like Swinglifestyle, altplayground.com, or better known as apg. Let her read some profiles. Take her to a meet and greet and let her meet some of the members of the club, there is no pressure to do anything other then chat at these events. First of all you need to let her know that these are normal folks that have normal lives, and just like a little more excitement. Some women are reluctant because they fear that it will end your marriage. You have to have a strong marriage or relationship or it just won't work and could cause marital problems. Best advice has already been given by others, go slow, fantasize, tell her stories, get her excited. If she is into adult videos, find some that show swingers, and last but not least, get some books and let her read them on the do.s and don't of swining. It is a learning process but... assure her she can say no at any time. Good luck.
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