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  1. If a woman faked with me I'd be very disappointed. You guys obviously have communication problems. You should be talking to him about all this stuff.
  2. In this particular case, your presumption is wrong. As it turns out this particular couple are regulars at this group's parties. I don't know why they choose not to socialize in the manner that most of the other did because I don't pry into the personal business of others, but this couple wasn't new to the scene. And there was quite a bit of open sex going on at this particular on premise party. I've never been to a full-on orgy, so I don't know what that would entail. But this particular party was pretty close to what I'd imagine one to be like.
  3. Nah I don't think I was over-analyzing the situation. I think I was just being cautious and my senses are always fairly acute to the games people play. I simply can't stand people that play games and try to manipulate others into letting their guard down and capitulating to the will of others. I prefer honest, friendly, sincere people who are not into these sorts of immature mind games that went on at this party. It's amusing to me how many swingers say they're not into playing games, but from my personal experience there is an abundance of it going on. I was quite relaxed at this party and we enjoyed ourselves quite a bit. But not nearly relaxed enough to allow others to coerce us into dropping our guard and being taken advantage of in ways we preferred not to allow.
  4. Wow good advice. You have a good point, maybe her husband sincerely doesn't know how to make her orgasm and is just frustrated. I guess it's just tough for me to consider that because I've honestly never experience that problem. In fact, not bragging, but in my lifetime I've had at least three women who couldn't orgasm easily that I was able to bring to climax without too much trouble. One of them even to multiples! So I kinda pride myself on that God-given talent ... but it is certainly possible that her husband is experiencing frustration from a lack of the right knowledge.
  5. Guys like this I'd like to grab by the scruff of the neck and tell them to bug off. This sort of behaviour is one of the biggest turnoffs about the lifestyle. But it's not everyone. Some people are really sincere, nice, not pushy at all. But the bad apples are significantly prevalent in our experience. Although, there were some couples at this party that I find myself intrigued with. There was this one couple that I didn't see talking to anyone the whole night! Just snuggling up to each other. It's even funnier than that though, this was a costume party (Halloween) and they were dressed as pirates. On one of my trips to the bar, they were standing there, and in an effort to be friendly I cracked a joke with them. I said "Pirates eh? I bet I know where you're from .... You're from ARRRRRRRRRGH-kansas!!" (Arkansas, get it?) Neither smiled, and both looked at me like I was a leper! After my dramatic pause, I said "Cheesey joke, I know. But I thought it was funny!" took my drinks and once again exited stage left.
  6. Exactly the sort of behaviors and attitudes I'm talking about here. I read your experience with this guy as him trying to drive a wedge between you and your spouse. When I speak to the female half of a couple I always speak as if I'm talking to both her and her spouse. And I expect the same courtesy when a woman is talking to me, or when a man is talking to my wife. Why do so many people not understand this? Just because their relationship has exclusionary limitations in how they deal with their spouses doesn't mean we do. I include my wife in all of my important decisions, and she includes me. We are a couple! We not individuals who just choose to hang out with each other!
  7. I don't think you're going to find the help you need here in an internet forum. Your marriage sounds like it has serious problems. I don't know why a man who honestly loves his wife wouldn't be willing to go out of his way to try to satisfy her. It sounds to me like a case of him being selfish. So, my answer would be for you to start being more selfish as well. Take him up on his MFM offer. Go out and actively recruit a sexy male you'd like to bang, and make it happen. Refuse to bring another female into the mix as well, and make sure you remind him frequently that an MFM was his idea when he protests. Show your husband that another man can easily make you climax, and I bet that will light a fire under his ass. Other than that, I'd suggest getting a divorce.
  8. We are full swap couple and both of us are very straight. The problems we've run into with bisexual women are that they are pushy and don't seem to understand what the words "I'm straight" mean when my wife says it ...
  9. Well, my wife was by far the most attractive woman there (at least I think so). These weren't the only incidents that occurred either. There were other more minor ones. For instance, there was this one guy who when we first arrived was trying to work his magic on my wife. He pulled her off to the side of the dance floor away from where we were standing while I was off at the bar getting us drinks. No big deal to me, when I came back I could clearly see them across the room chatting. After a few minutes, she came back over to me and told me what they were chatting about. She said she had asked him where his wife was, and he just shrugged and acted disinterested. I asked my wife if she was interested in this guy, and she replied "No, I think he's ugly actually!" and I chuckled. So later, this rather large woman introduced herself to us and as it turns out this was the man's wife. But the funny thing was, throughout the remainder of the night we never once saw the two of them together. On a few separate occasions when I was away from my wife for the moment the man would try to intercede and chat with my wife. Knowing she was not interested in him, I'd come rescue her when I perceived she'd been tortured enough. The rest of the night we saw this guy wandering around the club alone oogling every woman in the place. It was amusing to watch this guy repeatedly get shot down while stalking like a predator. As far as us being "too nice", that's not our character flaw at all. It's more a matter of people being too rude, immature, pushy, etc.
  10. That sounds like how men stereotypically say that when a woman says "No" she really means "Maybe". If a person says they're straight, I frankly can't see how that could be misinterpreted. It's wishful thinking on the part of the pursuing bisexual that the straight person is not actually what they say they are. And you're absolutely right, to further pursue someone in such a manner after they tell you they're striaght is just plain rude. The woman was pushy. After the kiss she continued to suggest things to my wife, which my wife continued to politely decline. For instance, the woman offered to demonstrate her "talent" of being able to hold her breath while eating out my wife in the hot tub. My wife replied again "No thanks. I'm straight." I suppose you really just had to be there...
  11. If someone says "I'm straight" to a bisexual person, what does that mean to them? Because that's the exact phrase my wife used to this woman. And if she said it meekly or sternly, does it change the meaning? I don't think so, but maybe bisexuals think it does ... I dunno. And it was one short kiss. My wife is secure in her femininty enough that she didn't mind a short kiss. There was no tongue action whatsoever. I feel like her being repulsed by FF play is the same as I feel abou MM play. If a guy came up and grabbed my ass or something at one of these parties, I'm not going to start any drama. I'd just say, "I'm very straight pal" and let it go. It's not like this woman tried anything of any consequence with my wife.
  12. Okay, let’s see. Flashback to earlier in the evening almost after we first arrived at the party and were still getting our bearings. There was another younger couple we were talking to, and I suggested to her husband that we take the ladies out on the dance floor. I meant each other’s, but he assumed I meant with our own. So he grabbed his wife and went out, my wife and I followed suit. We were slow-dancing for like a minute, and I suggested we change partners. So we did. The woman began conversation by saying she was shocked that her husband asked her to dance because they hadn’t done so since the high school prom. I replied that I was sorry for suggesting we change partners because I didn’t realize I was interrupting a special moment for them. Next thing I know, this girl’s hands were all over me, rubbing my back, shoulders, arms grabbing my ass, etc. It was pretty obvious she was feeling me up, but I didn’t mind and just considered it innocent flirting. The dance ends and we go our separate ways back to our own spouses. Flash to a bit later in the evening, I’m returning from the bar getting drinks for the wife and I, and I happen to bump into this couple again. Flirtatiously I touch her on the shoulder and whisper in her ear “Thanks for the dance earlier, I enjoyed it” and nothing more. She immediately kisses me on the cheek and turns my head towards hers to kiss my mouth. I put on the brakes yet again for the evening, and quickly exit stage left, announcing that my wife is waiting for her drink. Flash to the end of the evening, it’s late and the wife and I are on the way out the door. We get stopped by this couple as we’re making our way to the exit. Apparently they had been shut down on all of their perspective opportunities for the evening and were looking to make one last run at us. The female corners my wife alone and tries to convince her that we should all go back to the lounge, to which my wife declines and responds that we’re not interested but thanks. This woman then responds to my wife “Not interested? Your husband was all over me earlier! But I had to turn him down because I wasn’t feeling well!” When my wife inquired about me being “all over this woman” I was flabbergasted! In what alternate parallel bizzarro reality did this woman come up with this fictitious supposed occurrence?? Just another weird immature thing that left me with some ‘splainin’ to do when my wife and I got home. It just seemed like everyone at that party either had an angle they were working, pitched a tantrum or pouted when we turned them down, pounced on either my wife or myself as soon as we were apart for even an instant, or were just imagining conversations that were never had or advances that were never made. People really amaze me sometimes…
  13. Okay, so after the hot tub incident we met another couple. They were a bit older (40 something) and not as physically appealing to us as the younger couple we’d just sent packing. But they weren’t too pushy and seemed like nice people. We were still in the hot tub at the time, all talking and getting to know each other better. My wife had to go to the ladies room, so off she went. Almost immediately after she left, the female of the other couple hopped into my lap! It caught me off guard, but I admit I was pleasantly surprised at the moment. It was nice be flirted with in that fashion. But seconds later I came to my senses and remembered my wife was absent. No longer feeling comfortable with this nude woman in my lap and my wife unaware of what was unfolding, I told the woman this might not be a good idea right now. She understood and returned to her corner of the hot tub just as my wife returned! I told my wife what had happened and we sort of all laughed about it. My wife didn’t seem to have had a problem with it at the time … so things gradually progressed from there. After a little bit of more time had passed, chatting, flirting, etc. we all decided to get out of the tub, get another drink, and eventually made our way back to the semi-private lounge area, dimly lit and equipped with beds for action and couches/chairs for the voyeurs. We were all draped in towels only and made our way to some chairs where we sat as a group enjoying the shows. More time passed, and my wife had to again visit the ladies room. And again, the moment she left the scene, the other woman made her move. Almost immediately she was kneeled in front of me with my c*ck in her mouth! First thought: “Damn! Ecstasy” Second thought: “Umm, where’s my wife?” Third thought: “Again, not a good idea” and once again I put on the brakes. This whole incident lasted less than a minute. Now, remember the first hot tub couple we sent packing? Get this … As my wife is coming out of the bathroom she just so happens to bump into the male half of that couple. Nonchalantly he says “Wow! Your husband sure is having a good time isn’t he?” to which my wife replies “Really? Why do you think so?” and he of course says “Because I just saw him getting a blowjob in the lounge area!” When my wife later told me this I was livid! That couple was obviously watching us and looking for some angle to cause problems or perhaps convince my wife to maybe get back at me for what took place by going off with them! I just thought this was unbelievable … Fortunately for me, I have a pretty understanding wife. Her response to the guy was “Well I better get back in there before I miss the show!” and she left him standing there with his proverbial d*ck in his hand. She later old me that she was also pissed at the time, but after hearing my side she understood and it wasn’t a big deal. Yet more to this evening, but I’m getting carpel tunnel now …
  14. My wife and I went to a swinger’s party this past weekend, and we ran into a few uncomfortable situations that I wanted to discuss with this forum. Forgive me if I ramble. A little background on us: We’re a thirty-something couple, both pretty attractive, we had been to two other swinger’s parties before this one, so we’re not completely inexperienced, but still new and working through our own communications issues as they come up. And we were the newbies at this particular party. We’re also up for full swap, and are both very straight. My wife is adamant that she has no bi-sexual desires whatsoever. And it’s not for a lack of trying to get her to go there on my part! She’s made that very clear that the idea is not only unappealing to her, but repulsive. And I’ve respected that because I feel the same way about MM bisexual situations. Okay, so we’re at the party in the hot tub with a group of others, and there was one particular couple we were interested in. And they were obviously interested in us as well. They were younger than us, and my wife found the husband attractive. He was quiet and reserved which made him even more appealing to my wife. But the female of the other couple was very bi-sexual and pushy. She was trying to convince my wife to kiss, have oral sex, etc. and my wife was pleasantly rejecting her and told her a few times that she was not interested because she’s straight. After a short while of this behavior it became rather annoying to me, because I know my wife better than anyone and knew she wouldn’t easily be able to deter this woman’s advances, and would possibly get talked into things she would likely regret. And then I of course would have to deal with the aftermath later. For instance, the woman eventually convinced my wife to kiss, but of course it was because she had had a good deal to drink. So, finally the woman looks at me and says “OKAY! WE (indicating her and her husband) are up for ANYTHING with you two EXCEPT me fucking YOU” and gesturing to me, indicating that anything goes except for her and I to have intercourse. So at this point I was pretty annoyed. I felt like this woman was really trying to pressure us into a situation where she could make her unwanted advances towards my wife. Wanting to avoid this drama, I looked at her and replied “No. Sorry. We are both very straight and a FULL swap couple!” She got this puzzled look on her face like I had just thrown a physics equation at her or something! She said “I don’t understand …” and I repeated “What don’t you understand? We are BOTH straight and FULL SWAP!” and then it seemed to click as I could tell by the look on her face, that she wasn’t getting her way. She immediately went into pouting mode, took her husband from the hot tub and left (like kids on the playground, “I’m taking my ball and going home”)… Anyway, the story gets better, but this initial post is long enough for now I think … Comments please.
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