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About two years ago, our new neighbors moved in across the street. We noticed that they had four kids, a 14 year old boy, 10 year old girl and two 7 year old girls. Of course, we became curious about the two women living there.

 

One is in her late thirties and the other one is 28 years old. The guy is a bout 40 I think and has a weight problem. They each have their own cars, the oldest woman works and the younger one seems to care for the home and kids.

 

My wife and the youngest woman have become friendly. My wife noticed both women referred to the guy living with them as husband. My wife asked about that and it is a poly relationship. The oldest boy and two of the girls are the older woman's kids and one of the 7 years old girls is hers.

 

It seems the older woman and the younger one got pregnant at the same time with the two younger girls by their poly husband. I over heard the oldest boy telling a kid he has become friends with, that having Sandy (the youngest woman) living with them is like having a big sister. He really likes her. The other boy asked him if the adults sleep in the same bed. The boy answered some times.

 

They have a lot of family time over there playing basketball, and with toys and slowly the number of neighborhood kids that go there to play is growing.

 

Well they have noticed the number of men who visit my wife and me especially the black ones. There have been as many as 4 at a time and left in the early morning or the next morning. So Sandy asked her if we were swingers and my wife said yes and she really opened up about their arrangement and questioned my wife to death about the swinging life and servicing so many men and especially at one time. It seems me and my wife's sexual lifestyle is more strange than theirs.

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Swinging and polyamory are really not that far apart. Kind of funny that they would consider it as such. Then again, they are seeing it from a love aspect instead of a physical aspect. If anything, I would expect polyamory to be much rarer than swingers...

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Swinging and polyamory are really not that far apart.

 

I don't know...to me, they aren't really similar. I can easily see how polyamory folks can't relate to swinging folks if they can't separate sex from love. Just as swinging folks can't really relate to polyamory folks if they still equate a relationship to only include two people. Of course, we've had a few members here who were both poly and swingers.

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The notion would come onto my mind that they might have a plural marriage. I knew a few people in plural marriage while I was living and working on Wyoming.

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For some of us who are looking for a 'connection', that connection is usually more emotional than 'just sex', and that's were I can see the tie into poly. We like playing with friends...close friends that we feel we have things in common and really like. Like to be with them and like who they are...we want to like them. Like is just one step down that slippery slope that leads to poly. We have already had conversations with the other couple that we see about if anything should 'happen' to one of us, the others will help look after that person. OMG, we are practically poly! Or we are practically human and care about others...

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