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This is a request / listing for educational and informative resources in general, with an emphasis on podcasts. All things that put “non-monogamy” in a positive light are welcome. (So feel free to list resources like: books, films, blogs, webs, etc.) If you know a resource that helped you in exploring alternative sexual lifestyles, please add it here.

 

I mostly am interested in Podcasts right now, as this is something that is easy & fun to do as a couple (or group). With the ability to pause, and replay, throughout the cast being a big plus… Which offers the opportunity for discussion, etc.

 

This BBS in general has been a great educational resource for me. I have spent a lot of time here (since 2011), mostly reading… occasionally posting. I have somewhat recently (6 months ago) “discovered” Podcasts… and not finding any posts that were topic specific to education resources in a search on this BBS (that jumped out at me), I thought I would post here and ask:

 

What are your favorite Podcasts for the Swinger Lifestyle (the “LS”), and Polyamory?

... and: Why

 

Here is my list:

 

Normalizing Non-Monogamy

https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/ … “NNM”

This is by far my favorite podcast to date. I have listened to more of these than all the other sites / casts combined that I have tried. It covers a broad spectrum of non-monogamy, mostly focusing on the topics of Swinger & Polyamory. Sometimes areas of interest overlap, sometimes not.

 

I started with a newer cast that caught my interest, and eventually got to where I was listening to new ones as they came out, and then went backwards (newest to oldest) on the rest of the list, while waiting for new episodes.

 

Emma & Fin” are great hosts, and do an excellent job keeping the interview lively. A few times I have thought: “I doubt this topic will be interesting”, only to find some jewel of a nugget within. I highly recommend all of these.

 

Recently I listened to Episode 37 - Elizabeth + Phillip, released 2018-Nov-27. (The NNM web, an excellent design, conveniently lists all the episodes, and the main resources within each.) ... If you are a “newbie”, and/or taking your time (months, or years) to jump in, and especially if you are parents and not yet “empty nesters”, then I HIGHLY recommend this episode. It is a bit longer than the usual, but it is worth the time.

 

We Gotta Thing

https://wegottathing.com/

Hosted by “Mr. & Mrs. Jones”, I find this podcast to be very engaging & entertaining. It focuses pretty much exclusively on the LS. Sometimes the opening bit is a bit tedious (the first cast I listened to took 20 minutes or more to get to the main subject), but this one is for sure worth listening to, or at least give it a try.

 

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The following are other casts that I have listened to or noted, but not enough that I can speak on them in detail. They are more options to consider, for sure, if the topic of non-monogamy is of interest to you.

 

Casual Swinger

https://casualswinger.com/

 

That Couple Next Door

https://www.thatcouplenextdoor.com/

 

Swinging Downunder

http://www.swingingdownunder.com/

 

Front Porch Swingers

https://www.frontporchswingers.com/

(A basic search on this one can be a bit tricky, as the name is not entirely unique.)

 

The Science of Sex

https://www.google.com/search?q=The+Science+of+Sex+Zhana

There are a number of sites for “Dr. Zhana Vrangalova” (with a PhD in Developmental Psychology), so the above search should help you get to them all.

 

Getting Into The Swing Of Things

https://www.google.com/search?q=Getting+Into+The+Swing+Of+Things+Podcast

(I do not list the web for this one, because the last time I looked it appeared to have been hacked, and badly… but is available through “Google Play Music > Podcasts”.)

 

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FYI… I mostly listen to Podcasts (and subscribe) using an Android based tablet, using the app “Google Play Music”. Most (if not all) of the websites allow you to listen from there. Not all of the podcasts appear to be available through Google Play Music.

 

I have seen books and such listed elsewhere throughout the SB.com BBS, but it is all kind of scattered. So this post is an effort to get “educational & informational” resources listed in one place.

 

Be Well… Have Fun!

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This is in my wheelhouse...

 

Swinger Podcasts (you can Google the links):

Curious Couple - Looks like they are no longer podcasting, also the links/format are a trainwreck.

That Couple Next Door - hot! I love the intro with Sophia.

We Gotta Thing - As much about marriage/relationships as it is swinging. I keep a few of the episodes on my phone to listen to when I am "struggling".

Swinger Diaries - Three topics per episode.

Front Porch Swingers - BDSM, Hot Wifing. A bit obnoxious, but I can't stop listening.

 

Sexpositive Podcasts:

Started, but no longer listening:

Sex Gets Real

Sex and Other Human Activities - became a mental health focused podcast.

Tristian Taramino - I listened for a month and half before I decided I should stop listening or pop my ear drums with an ice pick.

There must be a couple more.

 

 

Still listening:

Sex With Dr. Jess - She's so damn cute. And, indirectly got my wife and I into this! ;>)

Sex With Emily

Speaking of Sex with the Pleasure Mechanics

Why are People Into That - I had no idea.......

 

Erotica:

Kiss My Quicks

 

Related:

Committed - Stories of relationships out of the ordinary.

 

And about 3x more vanilla ones....

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