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    Sunny...For Your Pleasure sunbuckus's Avatar
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    What was your closest brush to poly in your personal life? Was it just knowing a poly unit? Was it falling in love or being to develop romantic feelings for another couple/person? Perhaps it was someone falling in love with you, while you were already in a committed relationship or they were in a relationship? Did it make you consider exploring being in a poly relationship? Are you still in touch with the person/couple?
    We've all got "junk", mine just happens to be in the trunk. Actually, it's everywhere except for the headlights!


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    Fun to think about, difficult to act on. I thought I could do it. A poly mmf relationship was within my set of reasoning. Then it started happening. I found that seeing J literally run into another man's arms with "OMG I missed you SO much" was beyond my level of comfortable security. But I think if the comfort level was better, I may be able to do it. With the other man being richer than god, world traveler, too charming, huge dick and hours of stamina, I just saw myself living in my van by the river. We don't see him any longer. He became a dick when we distanced ourselves from him emotionally.

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    Sunny...For Your Pleasure sunbuckus's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by JandKinBoise View Post
    Fun to think about, difficult to act on.
    I agree. There is a lot more going on once you branch out. Not only do you have to consider your feelings, but your partner's and the other person(s'), and how any one action may affect everyone directly and indirectly involved!
    We've all got "junk", mine just happens to be in the trunk. Actually, it's everywhere except for the headlights!

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    Swingers Board Addict SwingSetWife's Avatar
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    Let me see if I can explain this to where it makes sense...

    My BFF from high school was in love with me at some point. I found out a few years after our relationship dissolved. And when I found it, the reason our relationship dissolved made perfect sense. According to her, she was in love with me, more than simply just friendship type love. She wanted us to "be together". The major problem, as far as she was concerned, was that she wasn't sexually attracted to me. She isn't a lesbian, or even bisexual.

    The major problem as far as I was concerned was that I was dating, in love with, and planning a future with her cousin. Awkward. She worked to sabotage the relationship. And even after we broke up she was rude and jealous whenever I would date someone else or bring them to our apartment.

    So as far as I'm concerned this wasn't anything like a poly relationship, but it fits into one of your questions.

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    Swingers Board Addict Hippiegirlie's Avatar
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    I was in a poly triad (FFM) with 2 college roommates. No one knew (I'm sure some suspected) that we were all together but I can remember many, many nights of having parties and people telling us we all needed to "all go have sex and get it over with" because we were always making jokes and sexual innuendos. We laughed it off and kept everything very quiet. We drifted apart and I lost touch with the female. The male and I talk on occasion.

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    Swingers Board Addict ref2018's Avatar
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    I don't use the term "poly", I use "open relationship", but what I have does fit the definition of "polyamory". However, we are not all involved with each other, which is something quite a few people in my experience assume to be a "condition" of polyamorous relationships. Not everyone has even met everyone else yet, and things have been going on for years.

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    I am not sure that this is poly but we were at a resort, it was topless. There were 3 couples that were together but we watched them for three days and just couldn't figure out which guy was with each girl. Every time they went into the pool to play, or when we saw on kiss or hug the other, it seemed to be a different male female combination. We finally got to know them and they were 3 couples, each of whom had children and indeed, had gotten to know each other at the PTA. They were swingers but it was totally a part of their daily life. They were also interdependent but each live in their own home. They shared school car pooling, cared for one another children after school and at other times. If Joe was traveling for work and his house had a plumbing problem, Dave would go over and take care of the issue and might even take care of Joe's wife that night. That was fine. The three ladies might get together and play without the men, or two ladies and one man, etc. There seemed to be no jealousy between any of them. There were also three very buff guys at the resort and the three ladies were obviously interested in them but the guys just couldn't figure out the relationships. Another couple, also swingers, staying in a villa hosted a party one night inviting us, the 3 "poly" couples, and the three single guys. The three guys never could accept the ladies, all of us, being flirtatious and seductive with them with the husband's present and eventually left. The five couples stayed and we all played.

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    My wife fell in love with the first man I talked her into having sex with. I didn't realize it until later. I didn't mind. She still loved me and I was happy that she was happy.

    Her first time with another man since we married was awesome! She loved it! It was an incredibly awesome experience for all of us and it was no trouble talking her into having sex with him again.

    We let him move in with us and we all slept in the same bed at first. It was pretty wild with us taking turns with her every night for a couple of weeks.

    He moved into a separate bedroom after the "newness" wore off. She would take turns sleeping with us.

    He fell in love with her also. I tried to share her with him but he wanted to posses her for himself.

    He became jealous if he knew she was having sex with me. Having sex with my own wife made him feel like a cuckold.

    What started out as fun turned into a long, unpleasant, complicated affair. She chose me and our marriage over him and after that was able to have sex with other men without feeling in love with any of them.

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    Swingers Board Addict couplers's Avatar
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    Bassackwards Petra here. We got into our current situations from a totally different direction than the usual, both for the poly and the swinging part. Started poly, then added swinging with a couple, now married. For us, poly wasn't couples coming together, or even adding a third to our marriage.


    It started with me and my fiance Red (who had taken my virginity at 17), with whom I had broken up and moved out, but we kept having sex. I started dating (and screwing) David, but kept having sex with Red, which David said was OK. David and I married, and I still couldn't stop fucking Red (and didn't have to). So the first phase of poly was a "V" with me at the vertex. David (now hubby) was monogamous but I was still jealous of other girls, so in my over-disciplined, control freak way, I started to arrange for hubby to have sex with some of my single friends. So now hubby's end of the "V" was open, but under my dastardly control.


    One of the girls with whom I set hubby up, Clair, fell in love with hubby; and hubby with her; and me with her; and her with me. So she moved into our house (Red lives alone, nearby) and we formed a triad among Clair, hubby and me, each involved with the other, and Red branching off from my corner of the triad, sexually involved only with me but completely part of our family.


    Finally, I met a woman, Lora, that was a girlfriend of hubby's before hubby and I met. I would see her regularly at the fitness center and became enthralled, both because she is cute, buff, smart and because I fantasized about her and hubby... Long story short, I started socializing with Lora; Lora and her boyfriend, now husband, turned out to be sexually open-minded. So after some girl talk among Lora, Clair and me, we figured out what the guys would want (just so happens it was exactly the same as what we girls wanted) and our poly foursome started swinging with them. It was particularly good for Red, I think, because in our poly foursome he was the only one being monogamous; he and Clair still don't have sex, but Red has sex with Lora.


    We have two children now. We always knew that Clair's son, Junior, was with my husband (none of us had played with the other couple in 4 months), but mine could have been either guy's, but Petunia is also hubby's child.


    Quote Originally Posted by sunbuckus View Post
    What was your closest brush to poly in your personal life?
    Living it.

    Quote Originally Posted by sunbuckus View Post
    Was it falling in love or being to develop romantic feelings for another couple/person?
    For me, it started with men I love. Hubby fell in love with a piece on the side that I brought to him. And she with him; me/her; her/me.

    Quote Originally Posted by sunbuckus View Post
    Perhaps it was someone falling in love with you, while you were already in a committed relationship or they were in a relationship?
    That always seems to be the pattern with us. Just like swingers don't mind a spouse fucking someone else, we don't mind if he/she has emotions. However, don't mistake "new toy syndrome" for love, or even emotions. Going at it long and hard with a new sex partner is normal, but in most cases that just flames out.

    Quote Originally Posted by sunbuckus View Post
    Did it make you consider exploring being in a poly relationship?
    When a relationship is real, and if you're open to it, it just happens. The only question after that is the arrangements.

    Quote Originally Posted by sunbuckus View Post
    Are you still in touch with the person/couple?
    We are all still here, the children have really cemented our family, even for Red. I thought he would be disappointed that Junior wasn't his, but not at all, he loves and is wonderful to them both. We still swing with Lora and Walter. What surprises me is that we are still in touch and good friends with the women (including those that subsequently married) that I had set up as play partners for hubby during the time I was doing that. Even the women that I propositioned, but declined, are mostly still in touch and see us occasionally. Both hubby and I were always respectful, generous and accommodating, and it paid off as fuel for private fantasies (mostly mine BTW).

    Having written this all out, it's more complicated than I had thought.


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    Quote Originally Posted by sunbuckus View Post
    What was your closest brush to poly in your personal life? Was it just knowing a poly unit? Was it falling in love or being to develop romantic feelings for another couple/person? Perhaps it was someone falling in love with you, while you were already in a committed relationship or they were in a relationship? Did it make you consider exploring being in a poly relationship? Are you still in touch with the person/couple?
    I seem to be moving steadily past "brush" and into just plain ploy... I'm happily married and my wife and I have been swingers for several years. I recently started seeing a young lady, who is also married (to another young lady who happens to be a very good friend of mine). They are in a poly group. This young lady and I are friends-with-benefits, but I find that I have rather strong feelings for her. Our respective wives are fine with it... in fact, I think they're more comfortable about it then we are. No idea where this is going, but it's fun.

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    Swingers Board Addict couplers's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lionheart72 View Post
    ... I find that I have rather strong feelings for her. Our respective wives are fine with it... in fact, I think they're more comfortable about it then we are.
    That is a sign that you both are treating your spouses well. Love multiplied, not divided. Keep it up and show the world what we poly folks are made of.

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    My husband about 12 years ago said he had a fantasy he wanted to watch me have sex with his best friend and also join. Wanting to watch me enjoy his friends much bigger cock my husband is 5 3/4Ē long and almost 5Ē around and his friend 9 1/2Ē long and 6 3/4Ē around. While the idea when he asked turned me on it also scared me because I didnít want to ruin our marriage. My husband reassured me that it wouldnít, I was also happy it was his friend who I was actually attracted to. Because like I told my husband if it was one of the other guys it wouldnít have happened. It was amazing and yes size made it better and awakened me to a new kind of pleasures. I was honest with my husband my desires wanting to do this again. It became a weekend thing for the three of us and his friend stayed many nights during the work week in bed the three of us. I know his friend awakened my sex drive into over drive but I enjoy sex even more with my husband as well. It was about 7 months into the three of us constantly enjoying sex together. His friend like always making me orgasm we was kissing very passionately. I said I love you so much and we was having one of our more intense love making moments. I didnít think about my husband who was laying next to us on the bed. After looking at my husband I realized what I said and felt like shit. After his friend went home the next day I apologize to my husband feeling so bad. My husband smiled and kissed me saying it ok I understand we all enjoy each other for along time having very intense moments we share. We started talking allot about it after over the next few days I thought allot about it as well. I told my husband I love him more than before we ever did this but wanted to be honest I love his friend as well. Something inside me had to make it clear I wasnít exactly sure other than Iím in love with his best friend. My husband smiled saying I know we talked about this already it ok. I said Iím in love with both of you sweetie and donít want to ever lose either of you. We kissed and he said itís fine I know, we talked allot more about it and also talked with his best friend. Shortly after that his friend moved in with us and itís been amazing.

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    We have settled on having sex with only a closed group comprised of married couples. Usually two or three couples will get together for fun, but we also do threesomes and MF alone play. Does that count?

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    Swingers Board Addict divenaked's Avatar
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    There is (was) a couple that we connected with so much with that we became a family. We traveled together. We partied together. We fought. We loved. We planned for the future. We lost the male half of the other couple to cancer in July. We cried together. We miss him. We played, and still play with other people. We will never forget the good times, or the bad times. I don't think there will be another fourth, we three will continue our relationship until we become two, then one, then none. It is a love that cannot be broken. It hurts. It always will. This is poly.
    Just because we have to grow old does NOT mean we have to grow up!

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    Fantasy better than reality? Ain't it so!

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    We had a 6 week affair that definitely crossed the line into poly and it made me almost mentally ill . Watching my husband basically falling for someone else was not for me. i was never left out or ignored in anyway and she was a wonderful girl but a three-way relationship is not for me. I have to draw the line at sex. My husband could probably be comfortably poly but I'm made to love one person at a time . It's the simple things like seeing her sitting in his lap crying as he consoled her, so intimate it made me cringe. We also shared a bed all that time and I was very uncomfortable with that. My bed is for me and my husband. I'm not ready to share my morning routine , morning breath, no make-up with anyone else. It felt super shitty to me by the end. That being said when it began we all had a bit of NRE going on, mine just wore off sooner. We almost got matching tattoos on a whim. OMG, NRE makes you so stupid

  17. #17
    We had a female friend that became very close with my husband. We were close friends from the start and used to go to the nude beach together on a regular basis so we were totally cool being naked together. Things never got sexual - just fun. We wanted to shoot an amateur porn so we asked her if she would do the filming for us. After some urging by us - she agreed. Things were fine and she captured a little over an hour of footage. He needed to take a break and "reload" after cumming the third time. We thought it would be fun to watch the raw footage together. We got comfy on the bed and started watching - she was clothes, we were naked. After a few minutes my husband's cock got hard - he was clearly aroused. She asked if she could touch him so I gave her an absolute yes. She kissed him, stroked his cock and then started performing oral on him. After a few minutes, she stopped and undressed. My husband went down on her and she quickly climaxed. He rolled on his back and I mounted him - I was so horny watching them I needed him inside me. I cc liquors quickly and then motioned for her to fuck him. She got on him and lowered her pussy onto him. He held her tight and fucked her slowly and passionately for several minutes. She asked him if he could cum inside her so he quickly released. We spent the next three months together several times each week. We were exclusive with her and she was with us. There was a ton of sex and we became super close. It was clear that she had fallen for him. He loved the sex with her but definitely wasn't going to drop me for her and the idea of a poly relationship wasn't in the cards. I would have been fine with it. I loved being with her and loved seeing them together. I always wonder how it would have been had we stick with it.


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