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  1. 1. Who has the highest sex drive you or him?

    • Female half! Sky high!
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    • Female half! the Lower end..
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    • Match each other stroke for stroke
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    • Male Half! the lower end...
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    • Male half! Sky high
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    • Varies widely
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I (the female half) have a very high sex drive, the slightest little imagination can set me off. Makes life very fun! What i am wondering is how much of an odd ball I am. It seems to me with the majority of "normal" people the man has the higher sex drive. But as a 30 (ish) woman, I can match any horny 16 year old guy! So ladies, men, who is the most driven.... :fun:

 

The Mrs.

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Mine (Vol) is high. Gator thinks it still climbs. Curious...have you always had one this high? The reason I ask is, my sex drive increased in a major way when I turned 30ish and hasn't slowed down yet (43 now). My Gator doesn't have a problem with keeping up though. This is the best phase in our life together in so many ways. Finally having similar sex drives is just one of them.

 

Vol

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Mr. LFM and me are similar in our sex drives.

 

When Mr. LFM had a vas in 1990, my sex drive went through the roof, and that's probably because I didn't have to worry about pregnancy and that takes a huge load off a fertile body's mind. I love how my sex drive has gone into overdrive while his is just as strong... It's like peas and carrots. :)

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The Mrs. could have sex 24 hours a day(and this is not a joke). The only thing that would slow her down is the occasional need to get something to eat and drink.

 

Once she gets started she can keep going, and she can get started by simply thinking about sex.

 

I can keep up but she is the one who needs it all the time.

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Mine (halo) used to be higher until recently, age has kinda lessened it a bit. Now mind you I used to be a nymphomaniac and wanted sex several times a day...now once or twice is fine. :kissface: So now we have evened out somewhat.

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We are pretty evenly matched with high sex drives. We have sex at least once a day, more as our schedules allow. It suits us well... facelick

 

Maria :kissface:

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For the past 3-4 months my sex drive has been very high. My wife's has been the same for years but she don't want to have sex as much as I do. Once we get into the bedroom, she goes wild. It seems it takes more to get her going but once she is in the mood, there is no stopping her.

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Su's button is pretty much buzzing 24/7 and she will often wake at odd hours and instigate sex.

 

She is particularly fixated with performing oral and even when engaging in DP or DPP with our regular male buddy, she says the only negative aspect is that she hasn't got anything to suck at the time.

 

I hope that if/when we eventually manage to find a couple to play with that a pussy will prove as good a substitute.

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I (female half) used to not be able to keep up with hubby but like some of the other women have stated once i hit 30.......WOW we are "stroke for stroke" both very high :D

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My husband would have sex all day, every day, if he did not have to eat, workout, work...

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We are pretty much equal and always wanting to rip our clothes off each other. Hope it never slows down.

 

Tatakai and Pirategirl

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The Mr. has a sex drive like no other. I can't keep up with him at all. I don't know where it goes when we swing though. He does not seem to be able to perform the way I know he can. I've only seen him get into the groove of things when this one girl swollowed his cum. She rocked his world.:hahaha:

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We do vary. for a while I had the higher sex drive. But now we are swinging, she is trying to wear me out.

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It varies for us but when Ann is the one asking if I feel like going at a club I can be sure that her sex drive is very high.

 

Generally I think we are about equal now. Mine was higher than Ann's before but since she is in the thirties it went up quite a bit.

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Are you kidding? I turned to swinging because I need another person to keep Mrs. Little Bird satisfied! I'm getting her a vibrator so I can take a friggin' break once in a while!Maybe the female half of Curiouscouple in georgia and Two Little Bird's female half can meet up and keep each other satisfied. (after watching the food network, we've been wanting to eat in Savanah... Maybe after the guys run out of steam, the gals can keep going and the men can go out for some of that famous southern cooking...)

 

Seriously, I sometimes worry I'm lazy when not keeping up with her. It creates a bit of guilt on my part. But I do make sure to let her know how much I love her (through hugs and kisses and snuggles) and when she says "I'm weird, I know" I always re-assure her that she is just a healthy, sexual woman and that there is nothing wrong with her and that I'm lucky to have such a sexy wife. Who sometimes growls.

 

Hmmm. This is very personal stuff. Maybe I should have PMd you. I hope this wasn't a case of "TMI".

 

Mr. Little Bird

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This is the Mrs.

Yes, I have the higher sex drive, and it sometimes drives me crazy. It is both a blessing and a curse to me. My husband talks of his "past" days of horniness, and I just wish I knew him back then. I, too, am in my 30's. Unfortunately, I don't look a thing like Angelina Jolie...so not as many takers as I'd like to give too.

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I (the female half) have a very very very :sex: high sex drive, the slightest little imagination can set me off. :D Makes life very fun! What i am wondering is how much of an odd ball I am, it seems to me the majority of (god i'm going to get slammed for this I know! :rollseyes ) of "normal" ;) people the man has the higher sex drive. But as a 30 (ish) woman, i can match any horny 16 yearold guy! So ladies, men, who is the most driven.... :fun:

 

The Mrs.

 

While I consider mine to be above average, Dawn keeps me and our fulltime play parter David satisfied and then some. On many occasions, I've come home to find out Dawn and David have played two or three times together during the day, then she wants to play with me (and sometimes with him again) that evening. I think we gave her about 25-30 orgasms one Saturday afternoon, probably the only time we actually wore *her* out. It's nice knowing there's someone there younger than me to keep her sexually satisfied when I'm not there, or too tired. And somehow, that knowledge helps keep me revved up more than I would be without him around.

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It depends on the mood,sometimes it's her,then again it's me. But we both love getting there

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Him! Three times a day is not unusual for him.

 

:surrend:

 

It's so good that I rarely say no - only when she's just worn out.

 

Mrs. D

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Ours varies. For me the more I get the more I want..... so it can go from non-existent to sky high in about a week of sex. I think his is pretty steady...

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For me I think it's because I've come out of my conservative sexual shell. I have the mindset that I want to enjoy as much sex as I can while I am still relatively young and in my sexual prime.

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DH has the biggest sex drive - definitely! He is always waking me up with a hard on and wanting to have fun! But he understands when I'm up for it and when I'm not, so I like it that he's more into it, means that usually whenever I want some, he's up for it too!!

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We're both about the same, high. Very high. That's one of the things that we clicked really well on when we got together.

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Ebbs and flows. In general my sex drive is a bit higher, I would make love at each and every opportunity, sometimes a few days go by without, I'll make overtures and it's obvious it's not going to happen... too bad, but never mind.

 

Sometimes we're too tired or Fi is having here period.

 

Othertimes tho, Fi is ultra horny for a few weeks and that's great!

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My current wife loves sex often.

 

My first wife could never ever get enough. She wanted multiple men and then to keep going. Once we counted 23 mind blowing orgasms in a single session. She was still "wet" the following afternoon, and needed it again.

 

So I have to say---WOMEN!

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For us it really varies. Depending on what's going on in our lives at the time, Bryan works a lot, and with the stress from work, it can affect his sex drive, while I, Alicia am a stay at home mom, and babysit for friends, depending on how busy I am from one day to the next can determine my sex drive. When I was pregnant....I would wear his ass out. lol Also for both of us it depends on our moods as well. There's times I go through periods where I can't seem to get enough, and the same for Bryan. So guess it varies a lot for us, there's times when his sex drive is higher than mine, and times when mine is higher than his.

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We are both a little bipolar in the sex drive department, when we are up we are crazy, when we are down cuddles will do, when we are both up at the same time we are going to wake up sore the next day

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I always thought i had a high sex drive, and i suppose in recent years (im 31) it has slowed down by about half over the last 15 years.

Her sex drive is much higher than mine, she's 26. I have a friend he is single who regularly helps out though.

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This was kind of tough to choose an exact answer.

 

My sex drive has varied depending on a lot of physical, mental and employment related factors over the years to where I would need it sometimes every day and would resort to masturbation on days we didn't have sex, to other times when I could go for days without caring about getting off.

 

For her however, removing any health issues or life/work-time factors from the equation, she has likely had the higher sex-drive more consistently and always seemed ready, able and willing when I was.

 

Despite all this, I still choose stroke for stroke, since our relationship began with the passion of rabbits fucking and removing all external factors we would be more evenly matched, though she would still have a slight advantage.

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Most of the time we match "stroke for stroke" except for a period of time from about 3 days before my period until usually day 2 of my period. Those 5 days per month my libido falls off. I still have sex...it just takes more to fire up my motor.

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hard to say between wife and me ...sometimes its both of us are really horny and there times am super horny and she half horny lol

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We started the lifestyle in our mid-50s. My sex drive was all right, I could keep up, but hers lasted much longer. So . . .

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We met when I was ~30 and she was ~45. Ten years later, we're down from 4-5 times a day to a steady average of about 2, but which one of us takes the lead depends a lot on our stress level.

 

On the other hand, the reality is that once you get her going, she's happy to keep going as long as there's a partner to go with, where I'm definitely done at a certain point.

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Hubbys used to be. He's in his mid forties and it had dropped a bit. Mine is various through out the month. But we're usually good to go when it's play time.

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I went on hormone therapy at a certain age. Just really busted my appetite, hubby says my sex drive is not that of a 20 year old, male. He likes and I like it, although sometimes I have to wonder, would I have started swinging and so forth if I hadn’t gotten on the hormones, how much do they shape my decisions?

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Most couples we've encountered in this hobby seem to have a reasonable sex drive. We met when Mrs Doc was in her mid 40's and she was fired up after a long marriage and an unpleasant divorce. 2-3 times a day on weekends for us and 3-4 times during the week. We're both well past our mid 50's now and we're down to a couple of times a week unless there is a club night, friends coming over, or a house party. However, it's not unusual for her to give a gratuitous bj or to scoot up on the sofa and hike up her sundress for me to give her a quick orgasm.

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While our frequency has diminished somewhat, our drive has remained strong. Two weeks ago at a house party, she boinked 5 guys (multiple orgasms) while I had 2 woman (came once) and went down on a 3rd. We came home smug and tired and spent but the next day we were at our pool smiling like Cheshire cats and teasing the crap out of each other. I think overall my drive is higher but once we get started hers accelerates and eventually leaves me in the dust.

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When we first met I downplayed what I wanted. I made it like he initiated even when I really did. Most of our dates led to some fun. I would say we both wanted. When we moved in together I would say not s day went by without us doing it at least once. Our morning shower is always fun. Now married and swinging I have been the one more active in setting up play dates with others even though he has become very enthusiastic partner

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It varies a lot. When we first started dating when I was 21 him 29 we were at it at least twice daily for the first few months, then I dropped off to wanting it every couple or few days while he wanted it at least once daily.

Now I'm 34, and after having two daughters age 9 and 3, I'm wanting it at least once daily and him once every couple or few days. So my sex drive has increased, his has lowered.

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Hello, this is Petra. I voted, "Female half! Sky high!" but earlier in our relationships I would have said, "Match each other stroke for stroke."

 

We started in our early twenties with me, my husband and my boyfriend. Our sex drives were high, and I was eager to, and capable of, meeting their needs, although it was on occasion beyond my desires. Over the next several years, we formed our poly family by adding two more women to our ménage and having a total of five children. The guys were able to have multiple sessions in a day and perform multiple times at each one. In addition, the Lesbian side of us women blossomed, creating and fulfilling other sexual desires. Everyone was still satisfied.

 

 

Now all in our early to mid-thirties, the men still desire multiple sessions in a day, but multiple performances at a particular session aren't guaranteed. We women have naturally increased our activities with each other, but quite frankly sometimes a girl just wants dick - more than one, more than once. So now we three women, with the knowledge and agreement of our two men, share a boyfriend among us for either a quick one during the week or more playful times on the weekends. Now with two men to love us and one just to fuck us, as well as our Lesbian activity, everyone is satisfied.

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Most of the time we match "stroke for stroke" except for a period of time from about 3 days before my period until usually day 2 of my period. Those 5 days per month my libido falls off. I still have sex...it just takes more to fire up my motor.
Ah, yes, periods. At first we had varying levels of interesst in sex during those days, from "meh" to really wanting to go at it. But none of us ever had an issue with period sex, just throw down an old towel and do it. Now we women in our poly family have either have an IUD, which leads to a very light periods, or are using hormonal birth control in a way where there is no period.

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