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I was just curious what some of the maximum age differences were for people in the life style. As in what was the biggest difference in age you have had with a swing partner.

 

Part 2 of the question. What would be the most difference you would allow

 

part 3. any fantasies about age difference

 

i for one am 21 and have thought about being with someone in their 40's or 50's but never had the opportunity :mad:

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Well, my husband and I are the same age, 42. One man we play with is 54 (12 years or so). Another has been 33 (9 years). Those ages just about push our limits. Our personal ad says 30 to 55. No, fantasies regarding age, just happen to enjoy being with these people and age doesn't matter so much. Now, I really have to say again that on the young end of the scale(the one I am more strick on for me-her) 30 would have to be the absolute minimum. I just can't imagine being with someone anywhere near my son's age. :eek: So, that's what...a 25 year bracket? I really think we should be able to find playmates within that range.

 

Vol

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age is just a number for me. im 33 and about 2 yrs ago i was with a 49 yr old woman with a great body and nice bush while her husband watched and filmed us. it was fun.

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Swinging is about fantasy fulfillment and exploring different things.

 

If you're interested in exploring being with someone much older then go for it.

 

I'm certain you'll find plenty of older folks willing to help you experience this. :)

 

Have fun,

 

Rich

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My last partner was 24 years older.......as long as everyone is comfortable age doesnt matter one bit. I think it is less of a factor in the swinging lifestyle because your not looking for a mate your looking for a sexual partner so you may be more free to explore age differences.

 

I would encourage you to explore this that is what it's all about...something different !!

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I can recall one swinging partner who was 28 years younger than me. It felt a little strange at first, but that soon passed. All good fun and no problems. For Red I think the biggest age gap was around 16 years (younger than her).

 

CB

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My Finance' and are one for the age thing. She is 36 and I am 56. Very well equiped for being able to get it up and on whim. We have no problems of swinging with couples that are in between our ages or even a bit younger, but for right now anyone in their 60' is kinda out of the picture.

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Age is not a problem for me. If we click we click, plan and simple. I am here to have fun, meet great people and just enjoy life, so if that happens with someone younger than I am fine, older than I am fine also.

 

I am like most employers......I don't age discriminate. facelick

 

-Van

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Like Van says, age really isn't a problem. After all, it's a number, right? :)

 

A lot depends on their maturity, and if we click, great!

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Jayson is 47, and I'm 42. I would say the majority that we've played with are in the 35 to 45 range, but for me I have been with men in their late 20's & early 30's, as well as men in their early 50's.

 

Jayson has been with women in their early 30's, and one who may have been late 20's that we met at a club. Also some who were a bit older.

 

We've always tried to steer clear of anyone in their very low 20's since we have as son who is 24.

 

It sounds as if most of the ones who have responded so far thinks it is ok to swing with someone as young as say 18???? as long as they are fully aware of what they are doing?

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Myself, I am 56 and my FIANCEE is 36. Not bad for an old man......So we do not lookl at the age of people, but they HAVE to be over 21 years of age.....

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Age is just a number i have been with younger males in there early 20s they are so hot and can go so long.

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We look for couples between 35 and 45. We have met couples 45-50, and if the right couple was met, we might play.

 

We don't base it too much on age, though. we just meet the people we like regardless.

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foozballnow said:
I was just curious what some of the maximum age differences were for people in the life style. As in what was the biggest difference in age you have had with a swing partner.

 

Part 2 of the question. What would be the most difference you would allow

 

part 3. any fantasies about age difference

 

i for one am 21 and have thought about being with someone in their 40's or 50's but never had the opportunity :mad:

 

Age is just a number for us. We are in our early 40's and have had some fun across the board. We are friends and playmates with a couple where the girl is just 20. If she was a giggly little girl type, we would not be interested. But she is quite mature and a lot of fun. Her boyfriend is 30 and we find that she acts more his age than he does...lol...

 

On the other hand we have played with couples in the sixties. Before you say that's icky, you need to look at people for who they are and not what their "number" might be. One of the hottest ladies we know, is 57.

 

We have no fantasies about age difference. We don't set these limits. We do have an upper age of 60 on our SLS profile, but we do that because others seem to be judgemental, not a steadfast rule for us.

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I found out many years ago the 'older women' are, for the most part, more appealing to me. :EG: While stationed in Michigan I had a one night stand with a 65 yo woman who was very pleasing to the eye. Me? I was 35 yo. :lol:

 

My wife on the other hand says she'd never get in bed with a guy less then 5 years her junior and the same with older guys. Currently we are 53/52 respectively. :kissface:

 

Also, she has been more open with me concerning sex with other people and every time she says something about age I tell her; "Trust me dear. If you were giving me a bj and a young hard cock took you from behind, you wouldn't complain at all."  Just our thoughts. :D

 

Always remember; "If it feels good,.....DO IT!"

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We don't make too much of age differences. We're both mid 50's and have been playing for 15 years. In that time we've encountered people in their 20s to people in their 60s. Occasionally, Reenie makes noise about some guy being too young but that always seems to be in casual conversation. In the heat of the moment, I've never seen her turn a guy away due to age :lol:

 

Sometimes it does seem to be awkward to be playing with somebody younger than our kids but we seem to get over it quickly.

 

I remember somebody (I think in this forum) once said: "If we could have made them, we ain't gonna do them." Noble philosophy but not for us.

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Well, this is a GREAT topic!

 

1) My BF is 59 and I am 37......there is an age difference of a little more than 21 years between us. When we met on another swingers site, I was 31 and he was 52. We happen to be unfazed by this........other couples seem hesitant when I disclose our ages (it's on the profile however). We have had good luck on swinger sites and clubs in the past but lately it seems that many are just not seeing the real individual inside.

 

2) Age isn't an issue with the two of us when we meet a couple. Usually we meet older couples (men in their fifty's, women in their late 40's)which is my ideal preference. The couples in my age range don't seem to be interested at all. They hear "59" and they disappear. I do believe everyone is entitled to their own likes and dislikes, however I would like to see couples see us/him for who we are, not as an "age".

 

3) It is very obvious that I have a tasteful thing for older men. If the other couple happens to be "50ish", are comfortable with themselves, take care of their bodies, and don't mind a younger woman (with my BF of course!)with them, then YEAH! I'd like it! Once again, couples with women in my age range and younger just aren't interested in an older man. That's OK by me 'cause I get to experience what they are missing!!! LOL!!!

 

This statement was written with no intent bearing any harshness , improper insinuations, misinterpretations, radical judgements, offensiveness, personal accusations and any injustice to any persons here in the forums.

 

**Ms. Tylercouple4fun**

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foozballnow said:
part 3. any fantasies about age difference

 

I always had a thing for older women - then I married one :D

 

Mrs Spoo is 12 1/2 years older than me - but looks my age or younger. She totally fulfilled that fantasy and more!

 

The youngest we have played with is 23 (both girls) and the oldest, well, I am not really sure. You start going that way and you don't ask as many questions. Our limits are not real strict when it comes to age - though older than 50 and younger than 30 and it is more difficult to find folks we are attracted to.

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When I was a swinger, my ex was 8 years younger than me. I have always been attracted to folks around my age and a bit older, but since I was in my mid 20's, I was never more than passingly attracted to anyone younger than 20. The problem I found was the age difference between my ex and I, she wasn't interested in guys any older than me and mostly interested in guys her age. Those guys tended to come with girls the same age and not interested in me. So, we tended to go for mfm with guys her age.

 

After our separation, I was specifically looking for a woman my age, and wouldn't respond to anyone younger than me by five years. So, because of an error on my part, I fell in love with a woman 12 years younger than me and married her. :) She seems to have some interest in swinging, but I think she's too much the jealous type to pursue it and I don't want to relive the age problem, which I think would be worse this time.

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I was just curious what some of the maximum age differences were for people in the life style. As in what was the biggest difference in age you have had with a swing partner.

 

Part 2 of the question. What would be the most difference you would allow

 

part 3. any fantasies about age difference

 

i for one am 21 and have thought about being with someone in their 40's or 50's but never had the opportunity :mad:

 

Our age preferences are skewed (surprise!) towards younger playmates - and we believe that men age more gracefully than women.

 

At our age 42/43, we are easily attracted to couples who are 15 years younger than ourselves (age 27ish) - but we have a narrower boundary on the upside (5 years seems about right (age 47ish). A perfect couples match for us, based on experience, is about 5 years younger (37ish).

 

Furthermore, males at age 50+/- are perfectly fine (because men age more gracefully - check THRAX for evidence thereof) - but we have yet to encounter a 50+ woman who is sufficiently compatible (based on physical considerations).

 

We will be surprised if we are still swinging at age 50 - give us 5 more years and we'll be happy (and probably exhausted :) ).

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Age is just a number, as long as they are legal I'm game.

 

My 36 year old wife always preferred her partner to be in his 20's but on a visit to Kansas City she spotted a nice looking guy, rather large who was surely at least 50. It turned out he was one of the bulls who worked the club regularly. She teased me a bit about him and ended up in a private room with him for about an hour.

 

She really had me going later when she explained how experienced and knowledgeable he was. "He worked me over good", she said. Apparently he made her work also and now she wants to go back.

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When I was a swinger, my ex was 8 years younger than me. I have always been attracted to folks around my age and a bit older, but since I was in my mid 20's, I was never more than passingly attracted to anyone younger than 20. The problem I found was the age difference between my ex and I, she wasn't interested in guys any older than me and mostly interested in guys her age. Those guys tended to come with girls the same age and not interested in me. So, we tended to go for mfm with guys her age.

 

After our separation, I was specifically looking for a woman my age, and wouldn't respond to anyone younger than me by five years. So, because of an error on my part, I fell in love with a woman 12 years younger than me and married her. :) She seems to have some interest in swinging, but I think she's too much the jealous type to pursue it and I don't want to relive the age problem, which I think would be worse this time.

There can be an age problem, but at least for us it hasn't been an issue. I'm 41 and Mrs. WS is 31. We have playmates (male, female, and couples) that range from 21 - 50. It has been my observation that there is around a 10 year age difference for many of those in the lifestyle that are on second marriages, where those still married to their first are closer (3-years or so) in age. Don't know why, but maybe it has something to do with younger women appreciating the maturity (most of the time :lol: ) of an older man.

 

Mr. WS

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I was just curious what some of the maximum age differences were for people in the life style. As in what was the biggest difference in age you have had with a swing partner.

We can't be sure precisely, because sometimes we meet people in parties/clubs and not through profiles, and therefore, their age may not always come up. But roughly, the age range we've been with is late 20's (but seemed a bit older) through early 50's. We are a mid-40's couple.

 

Part 2 of the question. What would be the most difference you would allow

No younger than we've been with. We have kids aged 19-24, so the thought of swinging with kids that age creeps both of us out. We have very young men who write us (almost always single guys rather than couples), but I (she) cannot go there. The most recent, this weekend, was a boy only age 19. On the other end, early 50's is probably about the max. To be honest, when it comes to the older end, they need to look good for their age and be fit for us to be attracted. We're into health/fitness and we don't really look our age.

 

part 3. any fantasies about age difference
Not really. I was once married to a man 13 years my senior, and in the longrun that didn't do it for me. My husband now is my age, which I prefer the most. :)

 

i for one am 21 and have thought about being with someone in their 40's or 50's but never had the opportunity :mad:
I think that many couples my age feel like we do (though not reflected in this thread much). We have kids your age, and that is something many of us just don't want to do. Nothing personal, though! :)

 

What is it about being with someone in their 40's-50's that appeals to you the most? Is it their experience?

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Age is a number, it's the person/people that count and how we all click. My ex hubby is 8 yrs older, ex is 8 yrs younger, current swing partner is 9 yrs older, and I have a lover that is 23 yrs younger. There has to be some chemistry cos sooner or later, you're going to have to talk at some point ;)

 

Keep smiling :) Life's too short to not have fun!!!!

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So age is just a number, eh? Well, every blessed one of you is a kid to me!

 

Only slightly off topic, I remember once - oh, about 30 years ago - when I went to a private house party on the Pacific coast just below Carmel, CA. I got there late, and a dozen folks were in the hot tub, and throwing all caution to the wind I stripped to my bare self and went plunging in . . . and all conversation suddenly stopped. Well, of course: I left my colostomy bag in place :rolleyes: and it freaked every friggin one of them out.

 

That colostomy is long since gone, but the memory returns as I imagine the effect, here, when I tell you that I'm at . . . :wtf4: the ripened age of 79!

 

To be sure, I am only good for very soft sex now, and it will be interesting to see if this site helps to connect me with any . . .

 

For I am going to see, by God, if the willing spirit still has something more to say about it than the weak flesh. Wish me luck, or send your condolences. :surrender

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we are discounted a lot due to husband's age...but when we meet them in person they are amazed he is 54...so I try NOT to go by ages alone!

 

Chelle

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As far as our personal preferances are concerned, we prefer the gentlemen that we meet to be in their mid 20's to late 30's. That seems to be the age range that we feel comfortable with. We tried a couple times with guys that were in there mid to late 40's but ran into issues with more than one of them comparing (wife) to their kids. Yes, we know that it was just a couple of guys that did that but we have not run into that with the age range that we prefer. So that is just our preferance. We both had the fantasy of her being with an older guy but I guess you can say it was just best left at a fantasy.

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Yeah, age isn't very much of an issue with us. Both members of the couple we played with are in their 40s, and we are both in our 30s.

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Yeah, age isn't very much of an issue with us. Both members of the couple we played with are in their 40s, and we are both in our 30s.

 

That sounds like us. We don't think of this small age range difference as a real difference. We're in early-mid 40's and we play with 30's through early-mid 50's, which feels like a very comfortable range to us. It's only when it gets much younger (20's and lower) or much older, that it starts to feel uncomfortable for us. About 10 years in either direction doesn't feel like a noticeable age difference to us for swinging. :)

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That sounds like us. We don't think of this small age range difference as a real difference. We're in early-mid 40's and we play with 30's through early-mid 50's, which feels like a very comfortable range to us. It's only when it gets much younger (20's and lower) or much older, that it starts to feel uncomfortable for us. About 10 years in either direction doesn't feel like a noticeable age difference to us for swinging. :)

 

Yeah, we "lump" the 30s and 40s in together basically.....besides, men in their 40s tend to know what and how women prefer things done :) . I don't prefer swinging with men in their 20s. If the couple is a man in his 30s and lady in her 20s and Jay and I are attracted okay. I just like men around my age to older. But yeah, the lady we played with is in her mid 40s and has some moves I'm already trying to copy lol.

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We are both in our late 40s, we were recently with a couple that were both 22. I admit that I loved it for a while but after the second time with her I was finished but she was just getting started. My Mrs was well worn out too, the young guy didnt last as long as she is used to but he kept coming back for more. We will probably stay with our own age group after this.

Tncuple

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We are both in our late 40s, we were recently with a couple that were both 22. I admit that I loved it for a while but after the second time with her I was finished but she was just getting started. My Mrs was well worn out too, the young guy didnt last as long as she is used to but he kept coming back for more. We will probably stay with our own age group after this.

Tncuple

 

Tncuple, I'm not so sure that's an age thing.

 

I don't know if we're kind of "out there" or not compared to our peers (40's), but we're both multi-orgasmic. My husband usually comes once when we two make love (occasionally twice), but in swinging, he comes 2-3 times very often, in the course of the evening. I come too many times to count. We both are the kind that keep coming back for more, you could say. We're into lots and lots of positions and...well, we just don't quit. LOL! We know we're probably not for everybody because of this, so we do "warn" people of how we are and what we like in our profiles.

 

You might find younger people who are quicker and done sooner, and you might also find people your own age and older who are just a couple of Energizer bunnies. You never know.

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Late 20's is the youngest I would go without getting uncomfortable about it. I have neices and nephews in their early to mid 20's. It just doesn't feel right. Also, as I get older, ( I'm 34) I seem to be more attracted to older guys. There is a point when a boy takes on a more grown up/rugged manly look. Before that point , if they still have a baby face. I have no sexual attraction to them. A man in his early 20's, still has a baby face to me. My sister is 10 years older than me, and she says this will change. LOL

 

As far as older guys go, 50 has been the oldest. It depends on the guy, their attitude and their personnality. I won't say that would be as high as I would consider, because you never know. I guess technically, you could be old enough to be my father, ....but you can't be as old as my father. Wow, that sounds bad.LOL

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I am 34 and Dog is 49. With an age gap like that one of us is usually on the wrong side of the preferred age range.

 

What I say to younger people about older people, They have mastered talents that you have not even discovered yet.

 

Older people about younger people. They have something to offer too. May not be talents that you have not seen yet. but maybe a new twist on an old favorite.

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Mrs. Alura was 26 and I was 41 when we met but after our first date age was of no importance at all. Who would have thought that she would get seriously ill before I did? It makes age even less important!

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For MrVan and I when it comes to other couples or singles, I do have a limit as to how much older I will go or how much younger I will go. Our profile has us at the ages of 25-40 that we look at. MrVan loves the thought of being with an older, hot woman, but for me I cannot see myself having sex with someone in their 50's because my parents are at that age and it would just feel very uncomfortable for me.

 

We also wont go below the 25 age range as we have children of our own and our oldest is 16 so that is getting a little creepy for us.

 

 

Maybe as we get older my mindset will change and I will be willing to venture out of that age range for myself, but right now I just cannot bring myself to do it.

 

Although, if the guy is over 40 and is extremely hot looking and does not look his age, I can play mind games with myself and allow myself to think he is younger than 40 ;)

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Although I may fantasize about it I don't think I'd really want to be with a gal too much below 30...or above 60.

 

Kind of a moot point for me because we are a couple who doesn't go to parties and/or play with just one half of a couple, so it's unlikely that we would ever meet anyone who isn't more our own age or within 10 years of it. Swinging isn't really a totally "free" activity in that sense; you have to live within each others limits. For most of us anyway.

 

I will say that I am always happy to play with a younger one as it shows me that she's willing to forgo my age and enjoy me as I am.

 

Nothing wrong at all with playing with your contemporaries though, since we all went through time and saw the same things happen at the same age. Kinda hard to play Beatles music when your partner wasn't even born yet.

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We wouldn't pass up a couple because of age but we will for a couple that doesn't take care of their health. I'll take a firm 55 year old woman any day over a 25 year old that is over weight and feels like jello. Another thing is that people age differently. I know several woman that come from families that stay young looking well into their late sixties. The same for men. I also know some that are fading in the looks department but still take care of their bodies and personal grooming. They just have that classy look. And it's attitude. Some people are fun to be around and some are not. This attitude also transfers to the bed, regardless of age.

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I just usually read the posts without any comments, but I got a chuckle out of this one. That is because I am 60 and my fiancee is 19, and we have been living together for over a year now.

 

I wasn't looking for someone her age, and she probably wasn't looking for someone my age either. It just turned out that we are very compatible together.

 

As they say, "age is just a number".

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We find that younger folks want to stick with younger folks -- those of us in our 30's, 40's, etc. know that age is just a number. We had emailed a couple on SLS who were in their mid 20's. They emailed back; wanted to see our private pics (which are NOT face shots). They, being free members, couldn't see them so I emailed them to their hotmail account. They emailed back and wanted face pics. Now, I thought I had sent some this weekend, but we got an email form them again on SLS basically saying that our age difference was a very big concern to them, that they had not received our face pics, and, and I quote verbatim "We don't want to be surprised with people who have nice bodies but who have faces that look like our parents."

 

Holy crap! I hope to hell my 10 years older doesn't make me look like their mama. Gesh. I don't think I'll be emailing them any more pics either.

 

So ... even as the urge to email back a not so nice email is in my finger tips, I will take the high road and not comment back. It's hard though -- I must admit.

 

Love,

grandma moses.

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My husband and I are 29/33 so not much difference in age and we tend to try and stick with couples in their 30's no reason just a preference and No I dont have any fantasies about being with an Older or Younger Person

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I am now 26. My first experience with a swinging couple occured when I was 22 and she was 40, then turned 41. We enjoyed a great time on her birthday. That was an age difference of 19 years. While in highschool I began to desire experiencing sex with a mature older woman. I found the ages of 24 to about 45 to be most attractive then. Then while in college, I was most attracted to ages 28-48, with 36 being the most ripe for the picking. That's all spice though. It isn't necessary. I started to realize a couple of years ago that I'd better start pursuing more women my age while I still could. I didn't want to be an other man checking out the barely legal crowd someday, so I decided that I'd better get my fill now.

 

Yes, age has been a role in my fantasies, especially the ones of two women experiencing each other without me being present, but I do now feel that age is just a number for swinging/polyamory, and that I'd be with women from 18-65 for fun and friendship if all else clicked. I just remembered that I was with a 50 year old woman in the summer/fall of 3005 on a few occasions. She had a wonderful body and craved anal plesures. Most importantly she enjoyed good conversation and lounging around relaxing. That was an age difference of 25 years.

 

I'd like to meet a woman between the ages of 22-32 for a long-term relationship hopefully leading to mairrage, but that'll happen in time. Meanwhile, I would really like to meet a 35-48 year old lady for fun and friendship with her husbands permission.

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I was talking with another swinging couple one day and a topic came up of what was your lowest and highest age limit in swinging.

 

I found that most couples wont swing with anyone their kids age or younger because it would be like having sex with your daughter/son. Which got me thinking about the psychology of swinging.

 

Now my daughter is 24 and I have been with many women her age and yonger, two being one of my best friends daughter and another a good friend of my daughter. It seems if people start to relate swinging other the rest of their lives it can put walls in your swinging lifestyle, if you are always thinking about your kids then you will never get over that wall, the best thing is to not over think and keep your swinger lifestyle away from your regular life.

 

Thats my two cents anyways.

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We used to have a rule that they had to be older then our kids.

 

In time a problem arose, our kids became much older. :lol:

 

We don't have that rule any longer and we stopped thinking about it.

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I guess I have the oposite problem.. I'm 24 and have strict age limits on partners (male or female, but moreso male). I won't go over 33 for most cases. I just don't like the idea of age play. It revolts me so much when men 2x or more my age message me with only my vagina in mind (and it gets incrementally worse when someone asks if I want a "daddy" *barf* ).

 

Maybe its because men that old won't respect me. Maybe its because men that old remind me of my dad. Maybe its because I've tried it before and it didn't work out.

 

Ive also got lower age limits (NO guys under 21) girls i will make exceptions for though.

 

My age ranges will change as I age, I have no doubt about that.

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