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  1. 1. How many years have you been married?

    • 0-5 yrs
      273
    • 5-10 yrs
      314
    • 10-15 yrs
      307
    • 15-20 yrs
      210
    • 20-30 yrs
      267
    • Over 30 yrs
      170


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I wondered how many of us have been married a number of years? It seems that a lot of us have been. I wanted to see a how many Swinger Marriages last.

 

So how many years have you been married?

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We have been married eight years this April. But we have been together 13 years!

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We are both 38 and have been together almost 23 years and married almost 17 years!! and have always had a great relationship!!

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26 years on August 24th.... I remembered that date!

 

Still fancy each other like mad!

 

CB

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11th anniversary coming up on Memorial Day weekend...I can never remember the date :confused: D

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We are married since 5 years but we are since 9 years together. We startet swinging seven years ago.

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Married nine years, our anniversary is coming up on Valentine's day.

 

We've been together just over eleven years, and it gets better every year.

 

He still makes my heart flip-flop, that puppy love feeling just won't go away. :rolleyes:

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Likeminds, were you a child bride or what???????

 

11 years married, 16 total in a committed relationship.

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Likeminds, were you a child bride or what???????
Blush :kissface:

 

We ment when I was 17 and married when I was 21.

 

I can send you a close-up picture of the wrinkles on my face if you want. :lol:

 

LM

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Goodness Grief! :eek:

 

I was the first person to click the "Over 30 years" button!

 

LM :kissface:

 

 

Look there are 5 more now! You are not alone... you are an inspiration! :kissface:

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OK...let's see if I get this right....married for 5 yrs...together for 7 yrs....known each other for about 10 yrs. We were co-workers and friends for the first 3 yrs.

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We've been playing for a year, now...and having an absolute BLAST, I might add....

 

We were married at 18 and have been married for 34 years last month. Yeah, yeah, do the math you young whippersnappers....we're 52. LOL

 

G&J

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Together as a couple for 25 years next Saturday, married for 23 years in March, swinging for 5 years and we have literally known each other our whole lives.

 

TNT

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Married 17 years January 15th...know each other 19 years this August 30th...swingers almost a year now :) And we can't believe how much bettter it's getting!

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We are happy to say that in Aug. of this year we will be celebrating 9 happy years of marriage.

 

Tazzie is 30 & Truck is 28, and we can honestly say in some ways, swinging has strengthened our marriage, it has sure ignited a flame as far as the passion we have in bed. But in other ways it's helped also, we have more trust in each other because of the lifestyle, and has brought us closer together as husband and wife.

 

The main reason we got into the lifestlye, was in our marriage, we had hit a rut, and things were getting to be routine, and we needed to shake things up a bit, and throw some logs on the fire, to rekindle that flame, and boy did it work, we discovered some new things, Tazzie has been opened up to the world of bi-sexuality, and we have become very open minded to new things.

 

So for us and our marriage, swinging has worked.

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Blush :kissface:

 

We ment when I was 17 and married when I was 21.

 

I can send you a close-up picture of the wrinkles on my face if you want. :lol:

 

LM

She's lying...she looks great! :kissface:

 

With over 80 responses, there's a pretty level 'curve' to the data. Very interesting.

 

-B

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With over 80 responses, there's a pretty level 'curve' to the data. Very interesting. -B

 

Yes! Look at that! How interesting!

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VERY MARRIED :)

 

mrkds1 and I have been married 9 yrs this year, together 12. As you may have read we do have some experience. I love and lust for my husband more and more every day. :facelick:

 

Loving him is like breathing, how can I stop?

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How married are we? Have u ever had a dream come true? I have, and i married her! :bowing: I worship her in every form and fashion. She is, after all, my DREAM come true! Furthermore, I can never understand how a man can forget their anniversaries. One of the most, if not THE most important dates in their lives, and they forget???? How?

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We have known each other nearly 9 years and married for 7 blistful years. Swinging for almost 3 yrs now and enjoying it more and more each day!!!!!

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It will be 8 on the 3rd of October this year...but with marriages like everyone here...whose counting?

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Married six, but together for 7. We were co workers first as well so I knew about about a year or two before we got together.

 

Likeminds...you are definately an insperation!

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Go fig! :rolleyes: Both are divorced and met late in life...but hey, at least we've got a LIFE! Ben dere, done dat, got the t-shirt! I'm gonna say this, and I really mean it. We're more then a marriage, more then a couple and more then together and beyond best friends. ;) We're a team. :D

 

You can't beat one of us, because we're here together. :hahaha:

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We met in Junior high school (that's middle school for you east coast peeps). Have known each other longer than we can remember.

 

Together about 25 yrs and married 19 yrs this July! Began swinging during our second year of marriage. :o Still a couple of sex freaks (and I mean that in the most endearing way) :lol:

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25 preposterous and very wonderful years and getting better.

 

BTW, LM321. I noticed wrinkles in my 20's. Grey hair too! No biggie for me. I just hate losing the hair. That is a big issue. :eek:

 

Male D

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We've been married 6 years in a few days, together for 9 years and swinging for 2. My, how time flies! In some ways it's like we've known each other forever, but in other ways, I can't believe that it's been six years since that beautiful day in April...

 

Pepper

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My woman and I have been together for 15 years now.

 

Oddly, we are not married, due to circumstances beyond our control.

 

When people ask why we're not married yet, we answer, "Well, once you get married, then you end up sleeping with a relative!" After a chuckle, that usually satisfies their curiosity.

 

Free your mind....And the rest will follow.

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I wondered how many of us have been married a number of years? It seems that a lot of us have been. I wanted to see a how many Swinger Marriages last.

 

So how many years have you been married?

 

September makes 14 years for us.

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