View Poll Results: Do you prefer MFM or FMF threesome?

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  • Men voting - MFM

    345 51.19%
  • Women voting - MFM

    91 13.50%
  • Men voting - FMF

    166 24.63%
  • Women voting - FMF

    49 7.27%
  • Men voting - Other

    20 2.97%
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    3 0.45%
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  1. #1

    Default Do you prefer MFM or FMF threesome?

    Hello all,

    My wife and I (married 6 years) are here to explore and discover if swinging is right for us. At this point, I would say that I feel more comfortable with the idea of swinging, than she does because of the common fears (jealousy, insecurity, self-worth, etc.)

    The interest mainly started in me early in our relationship. It started as bedroom talk, and I realized how hot it made me to think about her getting pounded from another guy while sucking me, me pounding her while she sucks another guy, DPing her, that kind of thing. The thought of it makes her very hot, but naturally she has fears to actually do it. She wasn't so into the idea at first, but she's warming up to it.

    From talking with friends of mine, I think I am of the minority of husbands who desire MFM, much moreso than FMF. Don't get me wrong, I think FMF would be fun too, but it doesn't get my engine revving quite as high!

    I would like to discuss with couples that feel similar to us, and especially experienced couples that started where we are, and how to overcome these fears she's having, and possibly discover and deal with fears I'm unaware of (perhaps in myself). I would love to hear from all couples, husbands, and wives who have dealt with this.

    Cheers,
    H & J


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    Default Re: Hello from Seattle!

    Welcome to the board H&J, I had to pick other as we prefer straight swap or MFMF.
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    Default Re: Do you prefer MFM or FMF threesome?

    Hey Good times!

    Glad to see someone responded to my post. The wife and I are about as new as you can get to the lifestyle. We've yet to try swapping, MFM, FMF... We're working towards it, so we need all the encouragement we can get!

    Cheers,
    H & J

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    Default Re: Do you prefer MFM or FMF threesome?

    I would say I perfer the MFM.

    I am only but a lonely male, I have but one tongue to offer to the fine ladies and it gets tired after a hour or so. Best to have more men to take good care of Laura then me to pretend I am super man and try to handle more then one women.

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    I like FMF the best.

    I think there's nothing hotter than playing with my hubby and another bi-woman. That combo really gets my juices flowing! facelick
    Ves

    The art of life lies in taking pleasures as they pass, and the keenest pleasures are not intellectual, nor are they always moral.

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    Default Re: Do you prefer MFM or FMF threesome?

    Quote Originally Posted by VegasLee
    I would say I perfer the MFM.

    I am only but a lonely male, I have but one tongue to offer to the fine ladies and it gets tired after a hour or so. Best to have more men to take good care of Laura then me to pretend I am super man and try to handle more then one women.
    Hey mate, I feel the same way.

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    Wow, these votes are really surprising me! I thought I was a freak and most guys wanted FMF. . .very interesting!

    - Herbie

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    You're not alone, pal. We've been married 31 years and I've always been hot to see her get it with another guy (with me right in there too). All the things you describe, well, that's our fave. So you're not alone.

    My theory has always been that the ladies have way more stamina than men. So, we like there to be more men then ladies. MFM, MMFFMM, MMMF, etc. Maybe if we had started when bi was big we'd feel differently, but when we started bi was pretty darn rare.

    The other thing is that when you really love someone, their pleasure and happiness is essential to your own. Indeed, the more turned on she is, and the better a cum she has, the more turned on I am, and the better time I have. So my feelings are both altruistic and self-interested. More bang for the buck.

    If you read the "singles in swinging" forums a lot of the discussion is about MFM and how to set them up. Plenty of good advice there. If you're both open and up-front, and you talk this all out, you should be able to turn fantasy into reality without too much trouble, and no risk to your relationship. Just go at the pace of the slowest partner, but keep smiling and keep facing towards where you want to go.

    MFMs have added a tremendous amount to our sex lives, and given us memories we'll treasure forever. Highly Recommended.
    What's in your head? What's in your heart? What's between your legs? Let's get down to brass tacks here! - B :kissface:

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    If we had to choose our preferences would be MFM (or MMFM) first, MFFM (full swap with couple) second, and FMF third. I will never forget the sights and sounds of the first time I saw her with another man. The dreamy far away look in her eyes as her tongue reached out for him. The sharp intake of breath when he entered her. The gleam in her eyes and devilish grin with a drop of his cum at the corner of her mouth when she finished him. Years later remembering these things makes me horny.
    Multiple orgasms are proof that God is a woman.


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    Quote Originally Posted by DBStPete
    You're not alone, pal. We've been married 31 years and I've always been hot to see her get it with another guy (with me right in there too). All the things you describe, well, that's our fave. So you're not alone.

    My theory has always been that the ladies have way more stamina than men. So, we like there to be more men then ladies. MFM, MMFFMM, MMMF, etc.
    It's definitely my fave! I feel the same way about ladies having more stamina. My wife knows she can always outlast me. . .it's simply a matter of physics.

    Quote Originally Posted by DBStPete
    The other thing is that when you really love someone, their pleasure and happiness is essential to your own. Indeed, the more turned on she is, and the better a cum she has, the more turned on I am, and the better time I have. So my feelings are both altruistic and self-interested. More bang for the buck.
    That's what I tell her. To see her pleasured, gives me pleasure. She likes that reassurance.

    Quote Originally Posted by DBStPete
    Just go at the pace of the slowest partner, but keep smiling and keep facing towards where you want to go.
    I'm definitely further along in the process than she is, so I will just take it at her pace. I've implored her to ask her own questions to all of you when she's ready. By her reaction, there is definite hope.

    Thank you all for your awesome advice! I'm sure you'll be hearing more from us.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DBStPete

    The other thing is that when you really love someone, their pleasure and happiness is essential to your own. Indeed, the more turned on she is, and the better a cum she has, the more turned on I am, and the better time I have. So my feelings are both altruistic and self-interested. More bang for the buck.
    Count me as among those men who would prefer sharing their wives in a MFM situation. While of course I enjoy being pleasured, my greatest enjoyment and turn on is when my wife has enjoyed herself almost beyond control.

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    Hello,
    In our case, she is very bi, not bi curious, and has no interests in including males. I am straight and would probably go for all combinations on occasion. But in most relationship I have seen, this area is usually determined by the female, what she desires and feels comfortable with. So for us it is strictly FFM.

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    Default Re: Do you prefer MFM or FMF threesome?

    Quote Originally Posted by KnRintangleU View Post
    Hello,
    In our case, she is very bi, not bi curious, and has no interests in including males. I am straight and would probably go for all combinations on occasion. But in most relationship I have seen, this area is usually determined by the female, what she desires and feels comfortable with. So for us it is strictly FFM.
    Just out of pure curiosity, would your wife allow you to play with other women alone since she is bi and basically the other woman plays with her? I'm honestly just curious.
    Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho
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    Default Re: Do you prefer MFM or FMF threesome?

    Jay and I have done both FMF and MFM. We have had fun. However, it was not what we prefer. Both Jay and I are sexual and enjoy having sex with other people, so it would not be fair in any way for me to ever ask my husband to sit and watch while I have sex with another man or woman...for that matter, as I of course agree that Jay's pleasure is essential to my own, I would not have as much pleasure if I thought that things in this were not fair.
    Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho
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    This got me thinking. Amy and I don' really have a set preference. For us, it's a mood thing. Sometimes I like watching her do her thing, and jump in to give her a double-dose of testosterone. Sometimes, I want to be the center of attention. Amy is hard-core bisexual, so obviously her moods lead more heavily to FFM. But that is not to say that we don't still have the occasional MFM just to mix it up. If Amy had her way, we would be having FFFMs all the time. I find it very difficult to have an issue with that.
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    I prefer FMF. Alot of guys have this fantasy of making love to 2 girls at the same time. I can say from my experiences that it's alot of work on the guy to totally satisfy 2 women at the same time. A good mix of tongue and cock usually suffices. You don't want to find yourself satisfying one and then running out of steam for the seond gal. Now that I'm middle aged, I do need the blue diamond to keep me at my prime and still be able to perform for both. I'm an opportunist who believes in living life to the fullest !

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    Default Re: Do you prefer MFM or FMF threesome?

    While I have always preferred FMF, don't get me wrong, I'm currently involved in an occasional MFM (my first time) with a very nice couple who have invited me into their sex lives. MFM is fun too. For me, it's actually easier as far as performance goes as the woman is attended to by her husband and me. It's an easygoing relationship, no competition as to who goes in first, etc. The only difference is that while he and I both don't mind sloppy seconds, neither of us will go down on her after one of us cums in her, so we have to make sure SHE cums a few times before we get our rocks off in her. He's not much into oral so I get to feast on her until she cums at least 3x. Only then do us guys get "plug in"... :-)


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    Both my husband and I get very aroused each time we have an MFM. Nothing beats it!

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    This is the wife. First let me start by saying I admire the fact that you are asking before doing. Hubby and I aren't the most experienced people on the boards, but we have had our share of different combinations. Personally, I tend to go to the group thing a whole lot more where there are arms, legs, and asses everywhere. But in a more intimate setting with just 3, I tend to like the fmf. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy mfm, but lets face it, as a bi-woman, an fmf is just more fun for me.

    It sounds like you are trying to figure out how to get you wife to get over her nerves more than anything else. Rule #1, DON"T PUSH IT! Talking is cool, but if the only thing you ever talk about is seeing your wife with another man, the more uncomfortable she will be. I'm sure in your mind, you are trying to let her know just how comfortable you are and in your own way trying to reassure her of your feelings. As a woman, what we hear is "I really really really want this, so please just do it already." If the idea does get her hot, then it will happen. My first time with an mfm with hubby was good, but not great because I felt like I was on display and had to almost "perform" to his expectations. That took a lot of the excitement I wanted out of the experience away from me because it then wasn't about us, it was about him.

    Now, after the experience, I had the chance to really talk to hubby and express my feelings. Since then, he still loves to watch, but not in that creepy way. He still gets to see me with another man, but I can actually enjoy myself, which in turn makes him even hotter.

    Talk to your wife. Ask her how she would actually feel, (not just does the sex feel good). Actually being watched for the first time by your lover can be quite overwhelming and that may be a large part of her reservations. I'm sure the two of you can come up with the perfect scenario so that each of you is satisfied with the experience, and not just one or the other.
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    I'm a single male that feels he's in the minority as well. I too find it hot to have a woman enjoying herself in mfm situation. As for me, I have been on a discreet hunt to find a woman compatible in the "arena". Hopefully you finally get the chance to enjoy it with your wifey!

    Ciao

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    The wife and I have been in the lifestyle for almost 5 years now. In that time we've shared more MFM's than FMF's. Mostly due to the lack of single females but I have to say I prefer the MFM's anyways. While the wife is Bi it surely still very difficult to handle 2 women......lol. Admittedly I love to watch her and another female going at it and I could just sit and watch for hours. I usually do watch for a while then join in for the last 1/3 of the session. When we do MFM that usually lasts about 1-1 1/2 hours and its all playtime for everyone. We're not "swappers". We prefer that everyone more or less plays together in one group. Thats what's fun for us.

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    I know it is all good - but I love the following FFM. Love women who will do another woman.

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    For a young fellow FMF is of course more exciting, but for the mature man MFM is the real thing - you get everything, first the live show and then the action.

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    FMF definitely I always love the attention of two women who want to be with me as well as each other. Unfortunately it does not happen very often

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    I had to vote "other" because we as a couple prefer to play with other couples. We've only had one FMF threesome (since we've been together) and although it was fun, we enjoy watching each other with someone else, so couples work better for us!


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