Outside the box cocks

I been thinking about this for a while. We have been in a swinging rut for a while... you know how it gets when you are swinging with the same old people time after time. Now I don't just infer that it's the same couples or persons, but rather the same type of people. I know that I was put on this planet to experience life as a human and I am doing that. This makes me think how much sex am I missing. Are my tastes, experiences, and preferences limiting my play?

Then I formed another question. Am I the ultimate limiting factor, not just in swinging but life. I am looking to get out of my rut or box and meet new and interesting people.

My question is... Do you go out to meet totally different people or do you stick with just what you are comfortable with?

I am looking change that. Put it in a new box.

Sometime last year, M. pointed out that all of the women he'd been with as a swinger were the same general type as me. I didn't have the same issue, because the men had varied greatly and none were like M. I suspect that I'm generally drawn to difference, though, and that seems to be mostly true in swinging, too. The constant seems to be intelligence, although I'm flexible about how it's displayed (common sense or academic, etc.), with everything else quite varied, from appearance to age to body type to gender performance.

This was an interesting question and I understand what you mean in the abstract way. However, everyone seems different from each other just on the premise that they are all uniquely different because no one else is quite like them. Just like we're all snowflakes...not one is exactly alike.

I really can't think of too many similarities between the women I have slept with except they were all naked!! I've come to accept that the women are the biggest limiting factor

Sometimes it their wife, sometimes it's mine. I'm such a slut. J/K. In my dreams.

Honestly, five years down the road and we get excited to find a connection still. We are just so picky. I hope to one day have this dilemma.

Since like usually begets like, we have usually sought out and stuck with the same types of couples since they are the ones usually attracted to us as well.

On my side of the equation most of the women I've been with have been similar in type to Mrs. Fours the only significant difference in some being bigger in body weight than her.

On her side however, the vast majority of the guys she has been with have been the opposite of myself both in being closer to her age and being much larger in some areas while smaller in others (needless to say the specifics of each are not a plus for her).

I think this mismatch between the genders of a lot of couples could be responsible for us to stick with the same "types" if you will as well as them gravitating towards us and for now I guess it's more comfortable and easier to stick with that "sweet spot" rather than the challenging and maybe frustrating goal of going too far out of the box.

I noticed that the people we were playing with were so similar. The reason we got into swinging was to meet different people. This spring we are traveling to the Italian Riviera and may look for some Latin lovers... I just hate to think that I am missing out on something. I like putting myself out there in new situations. Sometimes it does not turn out how I planned. That is the good part, not knowing how or what it will be like.

I like some of the answers. but to really meet new and different people we are going to move way out of our comfort zone. Has any one tried this step before. I mean I get the same conversations from other white middle class swingers.. We are looking to break that shell. Even before our big trip. Any ideas on attracting some new and different playmates?

I like some of the answers. but to really meet new and different people we are going to move way out of our comfort zone. Has any one tried this step before. I mean I get the same conversations from other white middle class swingers.. We are looking to break that shell. Even before our big trip. Any ideas on attracting some new and different playmates?

I'm still not exactly sure what you are looking for. Contact profiles that are not white and middle class looking?

We met a really nice Indian couple doing that. We have a trip to Italy coming up. We are looking to meet people not like us. It is kinda laughable that the question was posed to mostly white middle class people. I am not moving that far out of my box. I am thinking seriously about learning Spanish.

Not that I would do this, but.....

Go to a club, find one of the long time bartenders, order a drink, and ask if they mind you asking a question, if they say sure ask:

We have been at this a while and we always seem to meet up with the same type of couple all the time, like that couple over there (point out someone that fits your typical couple). We would really like to broaden our horizons to include different types of people. Of the couples you have come to know and like, can you point out anyone you would encourage us to meet?

Worst case, they say no and walk away. Best case they point out someone, and you already have the perfect into line: "I was just talking to [insert bartender name here], and asked him/her who here is a really great couple, and they pointed you out! We are _______ and _____.

We do nothing special to find exotic people; they seem simply to find us.

I wish I could get my wife to post here. I try to get her to have sex with as many different men as possible. It looks to me as if she enjoys it most of the time, I think it has more to do with the man than the cock.