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I read an interesting comment that alluded to swinger's skills and the thought hit me in a funny "job application" kind of way. Now I'm wondering what skills belong on the list and how one might evaluate proficiency.

 

Swinger's skills:

  • Meet & Greet small talk
  • Flirting
  • Negotiating rules & boundaries
  • Inviting someone to play
  • Requesting to join an active session
  • Rejecting someone's offer
  • Kissing and soothing touches
  • Giving oral
  • Receiving oral
  • Donning protection
  • Getting/maintaining an erection/natural lubrication
  • Bumping nasties

 

What other "skills" belong on the list?

 

How do you predict the skills of a potential playmate?

 

What is the minimum skill set you'd consider viable?

 

Does an invitation for a second encounter qualify as a "performance review" for a swinger?

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acknowledges own limits

self aware

communicates well

willing to take some chances

has fun!!!

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Swinger's skills:

    [*]Meet & Greet small talk

    [*]Flirting

 

I don't have any additions currently, but I think I'm still developing the top two on your list.

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Multitasking and working on mulitple's at one time........

Ability to effectively provide post hookup debriefing skills to partner...........

Party planning/Entertainment Director/Coordinator when entertaining...........

 

I know there are more but it's been a long day and Monday has whipped my ass :surrend:........................

 

Pam

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I don't have any additions currently, but I think I'm still developing the top two on your list.

 

I don't claim mastery of any of the listed skills and perhaps small talk is one of my weakest. But I do look at the pool of potential playmates at a party and wonder which one would be the most fun in bed. I guess some of those skills come into play, but I'm not exactly looking for mastery of any of those skills in a playmate - just an ability to communicate about what she wants and how she likes it. That doesn't mean I'll be able to deliver, but I'll give it my best shot. I think I also look for enthusiasm. If she wants to play, that trumps any skill mastery. Of course, a baseline proficiency with most of the applicable skills is somewhat assumed.

 

On the otherhand, multitasking is a cool challenge.

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IDoes an invitation for a second encounter qualify as a "performance review" for a swinger?

 

:o Sounds good to me.

 

Vol

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Situational awareness - includes about everything from keeping the playdar tuned in to now would be a good time to go to the bathroom since there isn't a line :)

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satifaction from partner's fun

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ability to read body language

skilled at lap dancing

ability to successfully transition from vanilla conversation to actual play

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1) Trust of spouse

2) Confidence

3) Flexibility

4) Flexibility

5) Flexibility

Please elaborate on your idea(s) with regard to 3, 4, and 5.

 

They could be all related to one thing, or to many things.

 

Thanks,

 

Thrax

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Please elaborate on your idea(s) with regard to 3, 4, and 5.

 

They could be all related to one thing, or to many things.

 

Thanks,

 

Thrax

 

Flexibility relates to many things, but overall it means not limiting yourself to preconceptions - flexibility allows circumstances to reshape your potential enjoyment. Seldom do expectations at the beginning of the night reflect the reality at the end of the night. By the same token, opportunities are often missed by those who are rigid.

 

of course, physical flexibility never hurts::P:

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Being able to knot a cherry stem with your tongue sure is not a bad thing either!

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How about erotic massage?

Creativity?

Positive attitude?

Ability to Tease (my specialty)?

 

=)

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Situational awareness - includes about everything from keeping the playdar tuned in to now would be a good time to go to the bathroom since there isn't a line :)

THIS!

The ability to time the bathroom visit is NOT to be underestimated!

My secret: Wait until the DJ plays a slow song. Everyone hits the floor, and the can is all yours.

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THIS!

The ability to time the bathroom visit is NOT to be underestimated!

My secret: Wait until the DJ plays a slow song. Everyone hits the floor, and the can is all yours.

 

Be sure to let your spouse know! If you run to the bathroom every slow song, they can get the wrong idea. :)

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Be sure to let your spouse know! If you run to the bathroom every slow song, they can get the wrong idea. :)

 

Ok, truth be told, it was her secret that she shared with me, so, yeah, she knows. :lol:

 

(not smart enough to figure those things out on my own)

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Road mapping and directions help :o

O.k. so i didnt actually know where the hell I was going. I wasnt lost or anything.... Like I said to Mrs fun, I wanted to leave earlier :rollseye:

 

Its all about the communication :D

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