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    Default Oh, no! Nude and erection problems?

    One concern that I've heard many times from swingers (well, I guess I'm really talking about male swingers) who are considering visiting a nudist or clothing-optional venue is that they will not be able to suppress an erection when they are around all those naked females. This issue is on the FAQ of lots of nudist and clothing-optional resort Web sites, and they always seem to mention that the solution is just taking a dip in a cool swimming pool! I have a hunch that this is more a problem in the minds of those who are concerned about going to a nudist resort than it is an actual common occurrence. But I'm interested to know about everybody's firsthand and second-hand experiences.

    So, who has actually seen this problem "in the flesh" at a nudist or clothing-optional resort? Who has had this happen to them or their partner? Has it caused embarrassment/humiliation/mortification, or was it a "no problem" reaction from those who witnessed the flag-raising? Was a dip in the pool actually the solution?


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    I'm not well suited to answer, since I'm a girl and we go to clothing optional places where swinging is allowed. If someone gets an erection in my vicinity, I'm flattered. I haven't seen anyone do anything but ignore it or take advantage of it, when it's happened at resorts we've been at.

    This question brought back so many great memories!

    I can tell you for certain, that pool water does not curb erections.
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    Default re: Oh, no! Nude and erection problems?

    We are long term nudists and short term swingers (30 years vs. 2 years). We've seen very few woodies at nude beaches and resorts. There was one character at Sandy Hook who was nicknamed Woody, but other than him, it was rare to see. After being nude for a few minutes, most people swim, sunbathe, play volleyball, etc. and forget they are naked. In swinging, stimulative activities begin and things rise. One hopes.

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    It's rare in my experience. The only time I remember offhand was in the hot tub when I playfully sat on this guy's lap. I felt his woody on my back.

    Most people go to nudist beaches and resorts to relax, and with all the naked bodies around, I really feel that we get used to the nudity very quickly. This is something Mr. A was worried about too but I've never seen him with an erection.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CoupleInMD79 View Post
    One concern that I've heard many times from swingers (well, I guess I'm really talking about male swingers) who are considering visiting a nudist or clothing-optional venue is that they will not be able to suppress an erection when they are around all those naked females.
    This is a perennial question. It seems more cultural than biological, in the sense that many cultures are used to casual nudity. It is a peculiarly American perspective that tightly links social nudity to sexual interest and activity. The usual dynamic seems to be something like the following...

    1. There is a combination of angst and excitement about the first trip to a nude beach or resort. Indeed, the angst is so great that the American club or resort policy is usually stated as "clothing-optional" and allowances are made for first-time visitors.

    2. On arrival, there are all these people doing what everyone does on their front lawn, or by the pool, or at any other place--except they are naked. They have scars, wrinkles, sags, bellies etc. They look like everyone else does stepping out of the shower. The conversations are about weather, cars, sports teams, youtube cat videos...indistinguishable from what one hears at any July 4 cookout.

    3. It occurs to the new people (if they are still dressed) that they are suddenly the exception. Clothes come off quickly, the etiquette of carrying and sitting on towels is rapidly learned and the focus becomes getting enough sunscreen on to avoid resembling a boiled lobster.

    All of this is the antithesis of erotic. There is enough of the "will we fit in?" and "how do we introduce ourselves while naked?" angst and so on that sex is pretty far from anyone's brain. At most, people suddenly notice that it's a lot more comfortable being naked in the sun and in the pool or or on the beach.

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    My wife and I have been nudists for 40 years. We have seen it all. There are some guys who just can't keep it down no matter what. But the majority of men soon learn how to keep their erections down even in most erotic occations that might spring up. But there is just one thing I have seen that is so common among men, leaking precum. That is so much impossible to stop. Even with the life long nudist men. But I have found women love to see it. We have nude dances and I try not to get it on the women but most love feeling it on them. In some places erections and precum are looked at as rude and nonexcusible. Other places it's seen normal natural function of the male, so no big deal.

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    In 1969, I was in Europe and lucky enough to be at the Isle of Wight Music Festival. It was England's answer to Woodstock. Many of the same artists were featured.

    Some friends, including myself, went to the beach where we found a waterfall coming off the rocky cliff. We all showered.

    Air-drying afterwards, we watched a fellow who would approach a nude lady walking along the beach and ask her if she'd care to have sex in the sand. Most didn't answer, but pushed beyond him and continued on their way. One, however, stopped, looked him in the eye for a moment. Then she stepped into his arms and delivered an enormous kiss. She stepped back from the encounter and said, "No, thank you," and went on her way, leaving his penis waving at the horizon.

    This has nothing to do with the question, but I thought I'd share the experience.
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    We are long time Nudists, I can't speak for Wu but I tend to look people in the eyes, doesn't seem polite to stare at their other parts. I sometimes still get erections being close to Wu, like walking hand in hand, dancing. Some times it used to be mechanical when it was hot and we were playing tennis or volleyball and it would slap my thighs, once it started getting heavier it could be a progressive problem. But no one seemed to notice or at least care except Wu, although depending on the mood and situation she would think it was funny!

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    Erections were not kosher on our nude beach. Men either taught themselves to behave or were banned. If anyone had the urge to have sex they had to move down the beach find a place that was private and do their thing.


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    I can't remember ever seeing an erection at a nude beach or resort - maybe couple of partials. (Non lifestyle, otherwise it's kinda the whole point isn't it!!) However, clothing optional beaches are another story - and most of them were "tents" in their shorts they were too scared to take off in the first place - i.e. looky-loos, voyeurs, perves, whatever you want to call them. It's why we no longer do CO and stick to nude.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jnrswinger View Post
    I can't remember ever seeing an erection at a nude beach or resort - maybe couple of partials. (Non lifestyle, otherwise it's kinda the whole point isn't it!!) However, clothing optional beaches are another story - and most of them were "tents" in their shorts they were too scared to take off in the first place - i.e. looky-loos, voyeurs, perves, whatever you want to call them. It's why we no longer do CO and stick to nude.
    Actually I lied come to think of it. we had an experience that was not great at a local nude beach. Only us on the beach except for a few bi guys wandering through looking for hook ups. A guy came and sat near us and we chatted quite normally. Out in the water has asked me if we play and I said no thanks. But he sat there and stroked his dick, looking at my wife. I told him is was not cool but he didn't stop, so we left eventually. Just for the record, I would have been OK with it if she was - plenty of cover around there and he was hung like a horse. But she was not ready yet and not in those circumstances anyway.

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    Only happened to me once...because my cock was in my wife's mouth.

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    We've seen a few "chubbies" at Haulover but the only real erections we've seen was the occasional couple who got a bit rambunctious while applying sunscreen to one another. Once in awhile that leads to a surriptitous hand job which we've found fun to watch. All in all, those things are the exception, not the rule.

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    I have give discrete handjobs at haulover and wreck beach.
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    We have been to several nude beaches both in Caribbean and here in NJ and I donít think I ever saw an erection. There definitely was not any sex at all either. My husband and the guys we went to our first beach with joked about getting one. Gunnisons beach in NJ gets very crowded during the summer. Sex is prohibited. There are gawkers as you might expect. There are those who are curious as we were the first time. I know there are swingers there I think. There is an area that gays tend to go to. Itís a nude beach not a sex beach. It is not Hedonism. There is no sex, no hand jobs, no blow jobs. Itís a regular fun beach without the clothes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shore2Please View Post
    We have been to several nude beaches both in Caribbean and here in NJ and I don’t think I ever saw an erection. There definitely was not any sex at all either. My husband and the guys we went to our first beach with joked about getting one. Gunnisons beach in NJ gets very crowded during the summer. Sex is prohibited. There are gawkers as you might expect. There are those who are curious as we were the first time. I know there are swingers there I think. There is an area that gays tend to go to. It’s a nude beach not a sex beach. It is not Hedonism. There is no sex, no hand jobs, no blow jobs. It’s a regular fun beach without the clothes.
    We have been to Sandy Hook too. For the most part it is as you said. On occasion I have seen full staffs. It is usually men who are alone or like you said gawkers. Last summer we saw a younger group, I guess in their twenties. From what we could tell first timers on the beach. You can tell how they undress. Some of the girls leaving their bottoms on, the guys jumping out of theirs. One of the guys got a little excited. One of the girls, I think his girlfriend was more embarrassed than him. There were towels thrown at him by his friends and towels pulled away in fun. I am pretty sure it subsided pretty fast.

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    Default Re: Oh, no! Nude and erection problems?

    Nudists don't look at nude gatherings like swingers do. If they want to gather for sex the like minded ones will gather someplace else


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    I get a boner just thinking of being naked around others. I couldnít do it. Maybe when Iím a bit older and it doesnít work as well, lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stonecharles100 View Post
    I get a boner just thinking of being naked around others. I couldnít do it. Maybe when Iím a bit older and it doesnít work as well, lol
    It happens but as long as it isn't being used who cares. I remember a Bare Necessities Cruise excursion in St Lucia where the guide stripped down to go in the waterfall pool with us. What a sword he had! Some giggles from the ladies but no "big" deal?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alura View Post
    In 1969, I was in Europe and lucky enough to be at the Isle of Wight Music Festival. It was England's answer to Woodstock. Many of the same artists were featured.

    Some friends, including myself, went to the beach where we found a waterfall coming off the rocky cliff. We all showered.

    Air-drying afterwards, we watched a fellow who would approach a nude lady walking along the beach and ask her if she'd care to have sex in the sand. Most didn't answer, but pushed beyond him and continued on their way. One, however, stopped, looked him in the eye for a moment. Then she stepped into his arms and delivered an enormous kiss. She stepped back from the encounter and said, "No, thank you," and went on her way, leaving his penis waving at the horizon.

    This has nothing to do with the question, but I thought I'd share the experience.
    That's hillarious.

    Poor bastard.

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    Reminds me of a similar story - I believe if I remember correctly it was at the same music festival - may years ago. Lack of sufficient toilets resulted in a row of men peeing against a wall. One kept asking passing women if they would like to hold his penis for him while he urinated. Eventually one said yes. As he started she directed it on his shoes and pants and left it still peeing on his feet. Not a lot he could say but it certainly got some laughs from everyone else.

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    It's all a part of the game. All fun, no embarrassment. An erect prick is a joy to watch. Men are envious, women are desirous, why spoil a good thing by dipping into the pool. Never seen anyone trying to hide anything. Au Naturel!
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    I've never gotten a full on, ready for sex boner while at a nude resort or beach, at least not when I wouldn't have wanted it. Varying degrees of erection? Yes and it wasn't anything to be embarrassed of or to show off. It just was.

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    Quote Originally Posted by venusshaw View Post
    It's all a part of the game. All fun, no embarrassment. An erect prick is a joy to watch. Men are envious, women are desirous, why spoil a good thing by dipping into the pool. Never seen anyone trying to hide anything. Au Naturel!
    Not at a genuine nudist location. It's not a "game". Maybe at a lifestyle location. It's not what regular nudism is about and is very much frowned on and could get you kicked out if you are flaunting a stiffy. Accidentals are expected to be discretely handled (no pun intended). Sure it happens at CO locations as I previously mentioned, but we avoid CO these days due to the creeps.

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