Mr.T

What a Relief! We met this new couple for coffee last night. Nice,down to earth, attractive and not at all pushy. What more could you ask for. Thankfully, while he has buisness ties to my employer, he doesn't work for the same company I do. He just looks like a few of the guys I work with. So that opens a few doors of opprotunity . We're looking forward to our next meet. They are more experienced in the lifestyle than we are and are more than willing to take it easy and not scare us off. They even know where the swinger activities are in our area. Which is great,considering we didn't know there were any up here. A big door seems to have opened for us. Now let's see where it leads to.

An odd scenario just came up for us. We arrived home from a kids christmas party tonight to find that someone had added us to their MSN. No problem there. They also sent us an e-mail stating that they had seen our profile in a local swingers site and wondered if we would be interested. They inculded pics and asked us to let them know. Still,no problem (and yes,we are interested ). Here's where things get a little more interesting. They live in a small town nearby that also happens to be a major operation point for the company I drive for. After taking a good look at the pics, I think (but am not positive) that I've seen him driving one of our trucks.This wouldn't bother us (could make next year's Christmas party more interesting). Just quite ironic, I think. I'm curious. Has this happened to anyone here before? Any thoughts would be welcome.

I'm gonna put myself out on a limb with this one. Before we started more actively in the lifestyle, anal was not given much consideration.We'd try it now and then.Sometimes it would work, but mostly not. And I myself never even thought of being on the receiving end. Now however, anal play it becoming more common.Not just for her, but both of us. Not that we'd let others in the back door . That's personal. I'd have to blame this change on the Swingers Board. We discovered a mountain of new thoughts, theories and ideas from reading the posts that we never would have considered ourselves. Not that we're complaining. Far from it. Letting the Mrs. 'have her way with me' revealed a side of her I had never seen before. And I LIKE IT . To all the posters, keep bringing on the new ideas.And don't be afraid to try something new now and then. It worked for us.

I said 'Other'. Here's why. If a couple we played with had such a good time that they wanted to share their discovery with everyone,I'd give permission to do so,provided they gave the same permission as well.It would be a mutual agreement between both couples. By the same token,if one couple wasn't comfortable with the idea,nothing would be said.Mutual respect is PARAMOUNT! I agree with others here. Details would be left to the imagination. (Given the imaginations on this board,I could just imagine the thoughts )

Had to check the details on who posted THAT one!

Somehow I don't think there will be any straight 'Yes' answers on this one. (wonder why )

I'm gonna add my bit here. Sometimes disagreements (I hate the term Fights) occur that even communication can't imediately calm.This is where my advice fits. Know when to speak up and when to shut up. Sometimes forcing your position can only make matters worse.Ask yourself if something is really worth fighting for if it can cost you a happy relationship.If you really believe you're right,stand your ground but be reasonable about it.If not,For gods sake don't push it. Quote from The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy: I'd much rather be happy than right any day.

You are right on this one,EB.Total communication is a must in this lyfestyle if you want to avoid trouble. Probably a good idea.Based on your writings here,there are a few issues you both need to sort out.Hope all goes well.

Good questions.Here's what I think: 1.Sure it's normal.Just remember one thing.She may be picky,but she married you,so she must have good taste. 2.That's a tough one.How secure are you?How secure is she?Could either of you handle see the other with another? 3.Nervous?Why not.You're trying something new.Everyone is a little nervous under such circumstances.(Just not everyone will admit it ) Just keep one thing in mind.Do only what feels good for BOTH of you.

I had to choose 'medium-slow'.We were somewhat active in the past,but a few bad experiences caused us to back out.Now we're slowly working it back in,watching for the 'warning signs'. :surrender

I have to ask. Does an airline stewardess count in here?

Being a One shot Wonder(lucky me ),I'd prefer not to cum at all.I love to make it last as long as possible,and make sure my partner is well satisfied.And if she's walking like John Wayne in a western movie afterwards,all the better .

I chose other because we are still trying new things.And there is a LOT we haven't tried yet.

I feel your pain.The only way the Mrs. will swallow is if she loses a bet with me.

HMMM..Seems to be a split opinion on this one.I'ts given me something to think about trying(playing with people with piercings,not getting one myself),assuming we meet anyone who has them.Could be fun.