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Oops forgot! This couple was suppose to raise our kids if something happened to us. That is how "family" we were.

I had a slight thing happen like this. We broke it off with the couple. There was alot of texting, and IMing that I found out about later. We had also discussed swinging with the couple, and my husband had an affair with her. They did it before we had set any ground rules. Then I said Ok lets go and sent her home on a sliver platter. She was suppose to call her husband to tell him she was going to the house. That was the second time and I did not know about the first time. She never called her husband. He knew about the first time, she blurted it out, but never called him about the second time. You two need to work through it. It was a tough time for us, but we are on the same page now.

We are still friends with that couple but it really had to do with being betrayed. They never told us. We kind of got it out of them. We are more acquiantances then best friends. They were having problems with our situation any ways, drama, it worked out for the best.

Are you trying to be supportive?

Wow! I just came back on to look around and did not realize my thread was still going. Update. We are good, nothing happened! More people know, and we talk about it when asked. I still feel nervous about people knowing, but the world did not blow up! Chow

I am passed the being outed part. It is really that this couple, who have been with us, decided to be cowards and not come to us. They were part of the chit chat and laughing about us. They did not know we were on SLS, and then went surfing around trying to find us. We knew it had happened and they wait two weeks before they told us. I am more disappointed then anything. On top of that because we are so closed with them, they are starting to be put in a tough stop. Asking if they swing with us. I just expected more from them. If they had helped with damage control maybe they wouldn't be the ones being talked about.

So the Saga has now finished. We talked to the M of a couple we have played with in the past. Though it took them 2 weeks to tell us, that it had gotten out, and heard the details of what happen. I am OK and so is handsome, but hurt that this couple took so long to tell us. We knew about the situation at the same time we were all together at public vanilla parties, I am sure being whispered about while we were there. We were surprised they had not said anything. Now I am just disappointed and hurt. Seems from what he was saying they were being party of the whole thing to not draw attention, but they also did not give us a heads up for any damage control. I think this has really hurt the relationship at least for me.

We have not been attracted to couples because of their attraction mentally. Meaning it was not all about the outside look but the flirt. Why is a woman not attracted to every man that is her age, etc. and vice versa. We have felt at times that one party is more interested than the other. We do not need any drama!!!

Thank you to everyone for your advise. After having the sick feeling in my stomache go away, and sleeping on it. We have decided to do and say nothing unless confronted. I am sure it will not happen. Also, I am sure they are all jealous of us any ways. LOL! Have fun everyone! It is the weekend. We are on task for it!

Yes, we deleted it. He has been defunct since last October. We have been thinking about going with the turning the question around. "That sounds interesting, who was on that website?". I am slightly concerned about it getting to my clients, but not really. We have made our way in this world and have done really well for ourselves. We also do not forget where we came from or who we went to high school with. The people that are discussing this are not our clients, and will never be our clients, but are still acquaintances we see once in a while. I hope that does not sound too....I don't know uppity!!

I did see your episode. At the time, we were already swinging. I am not to concerned just thinking of how to reply to not make it a big deal. Thanks for the input.

It has come to our attention in our little community that it seems we may have been found out on the SLS website. We have been discussing a response to this. We have been in active publicly and have just been private with one couple over the past 9 months. We kind of forgot about the website. Any advice for a reponses to being swingers? I have a lucrative business in a little town, and do not want to admit that we are swingers. We have been discussing just wanted to know if anyone else has come up against this.