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  1. Stage 2. Banging: the act of sticking objects into the vagina or anus of a women or a man such as, fingers, dildos or fists. From the sexual pre tense bang. John was on the the floor banging Jennifer. Jennifer loves when John bangs her pussy with four fingers. Something like that ------------------------------------ Ps. This is made up, it's not actually in the dictionary. That I know of.
  2. This was her rule if we swing, and if it's hers then it's mine. She's not comfortable with it and I back her up. If this is her comfort level, I'm fine with that. If she wanted the opposite I do not feel as though I own her, she can make those decisions herself. I'm not the big dominant controlling male. Our relationship is a 50/50 split. This applies around the house and in the bedroom. Lots of people have lots of issues, if this is our biggest one and that's a problem, for some people, we respect their opinions. Although we may not agree with them on some issues, we are careful not to judge them. Anyways we respect your opinion, but do not agree with it.
  3. Weirdo ok from time to time.. Aren't we all a bit weird though? Your right we are not comfortable with a full swap right now. Who really knows when the time is right though? If you've actually read over this whole post you would have read about the part where we mention that she wouldn't just leave the guy hanging in this situation to finish the deed himself. She is not that cruel. Tell us when the right age to start would be. This is something that we both want to do and we aren't just jumping into things. Our thinking is that we will take it slow and if nothing happens with any other couples, that's fine with us. The boundaries will be set before going to the bedroom so that nobody is unclear of the others expectations. We are very mature in our life and both do very well financially even though we are still in college. As far as enjoying each other, we do very much! We asked ourselves these questions. What's wrong with swinging, what would be fun about it, what scares us about it, what makes us comfortable with it, what could the consequences be, is our relationship stable enough to do this, who would we like to meet, what fun events could we attend, am I really that sexy, do I want another man to come in me even with a condom, do we want to use condoms, what if our family finds out, what if I get another women pregnant, what if nobody wants to swing with us, what if we post something and people bash us, are we to young, are we any good at sex, will the other people be good at sex? This list goes on. Before this board was here and all this information about this lifestyle was made easily available, perhaps we wouldn't have considered it. Now that we have a little basic training we want to try our skills in the field. Explore with others, go out on double dates, find out what they do and don't do to each as a couple. I'm not bragging or boasting but I'm fairly attractive and she is too. We are both in excellent shape and have very structured families. One day we would like to start a family of our own, but not right now. Who's to say that there is an age to begin. I'm definintly not a person to judge that. Maturity level is very important. Do we feel that we are mature enough to enter this kind of lifestyle? Well I guess we don't know because we haven't done anything with anyone else yet. Can we take steps to being more mature about the steps we take in the future? Well if so, I think this board is an excellent place to start, followed by a few Club H parties, some nude beaches and perhaps maybe just some light swaping. Who's to say that it can't start out as a swap and finish as a light swap, or there are even posts where people don't allow penetration. Does that make them weirdos? It just seems to us that anyone can start into this lifestyle at any level they feel comfortable with. Our level is that of not soft swapping but swapping with pulling out. Let's call it in the middle. Here is a small list mf swapping: 1. Playing around, kissing. 2 .hand jobs, blow jobs, eating out, banging 3.Soft swapping "two couples in the same room" 4. Kind of soft swapping with condoms and coming outside of her in the condom or if your quick enough to take it off, maybe on her chest 5. Swapping and coming inside the condom inside her 6. No condom coming outside, 7. No condoms coming inside. Some people like anal and some people like bondage anal and two guys to come in them at the same time. If we were into this we would accomodate them just like some people here at the board have. We would in no way judge them for their fetishes or beliefs. Some women are bi sexual, some bi curious, that's fine with us if she has been with other women, there are certain things my fiance might do with them is she was attractive. Here again we would never judge anybody for their rules. We do not believe people are weirdos because they have rules and limitations that are different from ours. Maybe we'll call these stages. We feel comfortable playing at stage 3. Anybody care to add to this list feel free. This list could be huge. Her getting him off is not taboo, we have spoken about this here in this post and in others.
  4. Thanks for that post. It makes us a bit more comfortable knowing what people views are on these topics. Just so everyone knows we have decided due to this posts to make it one of the first things we would discuss with another group. " Hi my name is .... Just so you know.... this post... What do you feel about that?" Ok lets go, or lets not. I'm sure there will be people that will try talking us out of it. That's why we still have to read the post about politetly saying no thanks. Anyways thanks for the feedback.
  5. We don't allow it. At least not yet. Maybe in the future but for now we don't feel that we know who we can and can't trust. I guess we will take our chances with the pre-cum but not the come (with condoms of course.) We realize that some people don't like to pull out and some women like to pull the male in to feel their steaming hot bodies tense up.(a comment from another post). If my play partner wants me to come into the condom with her I'll fulfill her needs. As long as she is on birth control as a backup. My fiance' doesn't want anyone coming in the condom that is in her. She is on a really low dose of birth control and we are not comfortable enough with anyone "yet" to let them do this. Yes if we find the right people and the comfort level is there we will reconsider.
  6. Our thinking. We are 21f and 23m. Our sex life is very hot. We've been dating for about three years and engaged for two. Once we are finished with college we are getting married, but financially right now it doesn't make sense. Insurance, cell phone bills, clothes and college bills that sort of thing. Anyways we live together and are both, in our opinions very educated with our sexual knowledge. I've read several books and we've watched plenty of videos. Yes we do it like rabbits with and without toys. "wait a second rabbits don't use toys, it is a toy!":) A pretty nice one from what she tells me, haven't tried it myself, might someday. Well swinging sounds like a good idea to us. We get to meet other couples, have fun sex and learning is a big motivator for us. We are constantly trying to educate ourselves. There is also a whole community aspect behind swinging. She gets to go out, dress up, feel sexy about her body, feel comfortable wearing very little and not being judged for it where as I get to do the same. We can both check out other people without the other being disgusted thinking that we're going to cheat. In Minnesota and a lot of other states there are clubs with parties every month, sometimes every week; Halloween, pre Halloween, Before the Halloween Pre-Halloween... It's a bunch of people that are comfortable with themselves sexually or are trying to be more comfortable with themselves and this is a huge turn on for us. What about the hippies having orgies? Just as homosexuals are coming out of the closet and being more open with their sexuallity, I believe the same is happening with one or both of the individuals in a relationship. One of them is coming out of the closet and finally admiting to wanting to have sex with other people - hopefully before it turns into cheating. You also have to ask yourself, did you have the internet when you were younger? Not like you have it now. Think about it, bulletin boards as nice as vbulletin and phpbb (ps. this bulletin board uses Vbulletin) were not as common 5 years ago. It's a lot easier to find about events, book hotel rooms, get a costume and see what it's like. For us, attending an event is much more comfortable then seeking out individuals. It's much easier for us to show up in a crowded place with like minded people than try to weed them out of our crowd of friends only to have them judge us in a negative way. I had the idea to swing but always thought it to be taboo, found this forum and introduced it to my fiance'. She said, 'hell no' at first, then after finding out about the exciting events, reading tasteful posts and frequenting this board she opened up to the idea a bit more. Yes, we have set our boundaries and they might be a bit strict. We figure if they are too strict and nobody wants to swing with us, then we will just get hot and horny watching other people dancing in their hot sexy costumes! Then we will go off and do our own thing. Not to bring up the divorce rate, but it's pretty high. My guess is that relationships becomes stagnant and people don't feel that spark. We still have that spark, we just want to make the flame higher. I think that's plenty for now. You can comment on this and we will comment back. Hope this helps. Ps. Could the thousands, perhaps millions of people that are doing this be completely wrong? Learn from your elders, right.
  7. We are trying to minimize our risks, that's all. It's within our comfort level. I'm sure when people meet us this shouldn't be a problem and if it is and we never hook up, that's fine with us. We all have guards and we don't want to let ours down. "You know, keep an eye open" (Rolling Stones Dooode.) You all have given us great feedback. Thank you so much. We just wanted to see how people would react. We plan on attending a Halloween party and thought we would put ourselves out there with our thoughts. This way when we go, we have all your thoughts and opinions to consider.
  8. Nobody's coming in anybody in this situation, not even with a condom. We will always use condoms with play partners. I won't come in my female play partner and I expect the play partner guy not to come in my partner. Even if you're wearing a condom you still pull it out. Does that help clarify things?
  9. We are new to swinging and practice this in our home. I don't wear a condom but I do pull out, even though she is on birth control. Perhaps in the future this won't be such a big deal to us. Being new to swinging we haven't learned how to judge people in these kinds of situations and at our age we couldn't afford to have anything happen, pregnancy or stds. We are not saying that people can't be trusted, or that they don't know how to use a condom properly. It's just that we are trying to open our minds up to the whole idea and before we do we've set boundaries. Not to insult anyone on their abilities to read a package and apply the directions properly, or even their experience. It's just to make her more comfortable and if she's not comfortable I'm twice as uncomfortable and we are an easy going couple. I personally don't find anything wrong with pulling out, even when we did use condoms I still did. This is something I've done in our relationship and other relations that I've had. Perhaps I'm desensitized and my dick hasn't much feeling, but wearing a condom really isn't that much different in my opinion. If you use plenty of lube and she has been teased to where she is extremely hot and wet, that's where the excitement is for me. Her touch, her kiss, her hot wet pussy, her red face and shacking legs when she gets off. I know there is also the question of pre come. Really though, I might be missing something here, because when I've taken a condom off, before coming, it doesn't seem like there is much there. If the condom broke before coming then there's a chance something could happen, but it's probably much smaller than if there was a huge load in her. The only thing I could recall as pre coming was when I was with my first girlfriend and 2 seconds into it I came, didn't want to tell her so I kept going, then came again. Does that qualify as precome or is it just seconds. Personally I've found pulling out to be as and in some cases more stimulating than coming inside. We as a couple have figured out ways to make this fun for the both of us. If she just left me hanging and I had to get off myself, then there would be no pulling out. Sometimes though I prefer that I do it myself and we always mix things up. She has become very aware of my needs right before the fact and it actually has become very stimulating. There are a lot of tricks a women can do on a man before he gets off like massaging the outside of the anus, or biting his nipples. This whole pulling out thing isn't as bad as it sounds. Some people may not prefer it, but not everyone has to swing with us and we respect their needs as long as they respect ours. Perhaps in the future our rules will not be so tight, but for now we are sticking to them. Another rule we have, this is not for swinging, just in the bedroom. Is that we are always completely honest with each other and she always, always gets off before I do. I set this rule because when I come, I don't even feel like getting out of bed. This way she's happy and I'm happy. Thanks for the posts, Looking forward to your responses. If the grammar is off, send me the changes I'll fix it.
  10. Just curious. We are new to swinging and are going to attend our first swingers Halloween Party 2006. We are classy young couple 21 F and 23 M. We have a very good relationship, not married yet but are engaged and live together. One of the rules we have set is to always use condoms with plenty of lubricant and never to come inside of her. This is our comfort zone. What does everyone here think about swinging with a couple that expects you to pull out? Ps. We have more rules, but pulling out doesn't seem to be covered in other threads.
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