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  1. Very well said; in fact, I think the whole question revolves around those two words: motive and intention. Motives that are selfless and aimed at the good for one's spouse and for two as a couple can be more than permissible; they can, at least arguably, be a special kind of loving gift. While no marriage is ideal, a solid one goes much deeper than the attraction of bodies. That special, God-given linkage of hearts and souls, the kind that delights in the joys of another, shares the sorrows, and puts one's mate before anything and anyone else after God Himself and a healthy love of oneself, finds its ultimate completion in their sexual union. That lovemaking is unique to them and them alone. In such a marriage, if the couple likes the idea of swinging, that form of sex is a separate thing, a lesser but still exciting way to express their sexuality both individually and a couple. If one can not only accept, but share the delight and excitement one's spouse is experiencing in a swinging situation, there's a great expression of trust in that. It becomes as much a giving thing as a taking thing, and I think that God smiles upon that. God's laws pertaining to sex have changed as the needs of our humble species has changed; look at Leviticus sometime, not to mention such things as polygamy (I don't think even a king could get away with having some hundreds of wives, much less an assortment of concubines to boot, in today's world). While there's danger in using that fact to rationalize genuinely wrong behavior, it remains true nonetheless that change does happen. Reality is not likely to be quite so ideal, but it can at least approach it. Much is made, properly enough, of some of the failings of the Christian church in centuries past that produced some of the excessive repressions of sexuality. Augustine greatly overcompensated for his youthful excesses in his admonitions. And the kind of out-and-out evil and corruption that drove some of the less commendable pillars of the church was easily strengthened by attaching the threat of God's wrath to any questioning of their dicta. Control freaks and despots are not limited to secular governments. Unfortunately, more than a little of the rot that sprang from those depraved minds persists to this day, unrecognized as such by many leaders who, with sincere faith in their validity, pass them on to new generations. Perhaps if time, wisdom and courage can lead to the weeding out of the dross from the truth, Christians will come to see things like swinging to be healthy and moral.
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