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telly2

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About telly2

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    Swingers Board Addict
  • Birthday 12/13/1973

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  • Relationship Status
    female of couple
  • Location
    copper cliff ontario canada
  • Interests
    arts and crafts,cooking ,sex anything i can use my hands
  • Occupation
    house wife
  • Swinging Experience
    8 yrs

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  1. That is my opinion. These dd-e would look horible on a size 2 frame. But on my frame BBW they are great. Chantal
  2. I have to agree with MOONLIGHT and what he said, a councellor out side of faith i think would be the first major step. I do have to question why you turned your back on religion? I get the feeling that anything hard, you are quick to turn on. Easier to turn than fight seems to be your MO. That is the feeling i got from your post. So in my opinion i feel first shake this "I'm Lazy" thing that is what has gotten you into this in the first place. Stand and fight for what you want for the first time in your life. Sorry i am so blunt, but nothing is more offencive to me than someone who hides behind stupidity to get out of what is right. Your wife didn't ask to be hurt by you and you had no right to disrespect her that way. You are too lazy to spice up your marriage, so look out side for someone else to do it for you. I think you need to grow up, face that reality of life and get over yourself and your needs and think of someone elses feelings and needs first. That is marriage, the other is Number 1 and you are number 2. You have to put 100% into it or it will fail. Now for my nice side, i can understand and i have seen it before, but pls set up some kind of way to appoligize and show your wife that she is a major priority in your life, and that you will fight for it to work. Be a man and show that you are not too lazy to be there for her. Seeing as her beliefs are very Christian, she want nothing more than this to work. I you also have that same conviction than fight for it. Chantal
  3. Acctually i have had and really loved it, Mr T wasn't that great with it though, i guess i work better one on one. Mind you i much prefer couples as no one feels left out at any point. Chantal
  4. Nice to hear all went well and you are recovering very well. And that your sex drive came out intact I know that was a big worry.
  5. I personally am not fussy for them, but a well done and well placed beautiful 1 i do appreciate. But from people i know who have them they are either cheesie or not well done, Thus my distaste for them. I have seen some nice ones but not on people i know. I would like tto maybe get one one day, but not today. And it would have to have great meaning for me to place it on my body. Chantal
  6. I have to agree, The egg, had been my fav for years, great for clitoral, nipples, anal {external}. As for internal a smooth hard plastic, great for vag or anal. Just my advice. Chantal
  7. I'm sorry things didn't go as hoped, just be patient, and focus on your marriage for now. I hope things change in the future. Chantal
  8. I know stopping can be heart breaking, your desire is so strong and her fighting you seems so unfair. I have been there in our beginnings in the BDSM lifestyle, i wanted it so bad it hurt, and i really did go crazy for a while, It caused so many problems for a while, then eventually he understood the reason i wanted it so bad. Eventually it came down to what he wanted. We took it very slow and let him make the first move. Sometimes letting the other take the lead. bring it up from time to time, Don't push it, but keep it on the back burner and let it simmer. She may come back to it when she sees how important it is to you. And gets over her own feelings, i can understand her feelings as well, when we firtst got into this it was tramatizing to me as well. but eventually it became less of a moral thing and more of a fun thing, and it did really improve our sexlife, and our marriage, Communication became easier as we were working for something for the 2 of us, not the kids or work etc. Just us I hope that one day she will see that it isn't all bad, and it can be a good thing. Till then relaxe and get to know each other again. Chantal
  9. The problem is "Vanilla" isn't as commonly known as we would like to think, only lifestylers refer to it really. I have never heard it out side of lifestyle groups, Thus like Chip said, we may get stuck eating a lot of ice cream. Why do we want to code anything, i thought our goal is to gain acceptance as a group not run further underground. With all the lingo and labels, we sound like a cult. WE try to hide from family friends, etc. We go to private clubs and hide what we do. this is starting to sound like the DaVinci Code. Do we need masks and cloaks? I would so prefer for the truth to get out there, swinging is nothing new and what we do behind closed door is really no big deal. If we were single, this behavior is "normal" in today's society. Chastity is not what it was 40 years ago, but for some reason we live in a closet about it now. I can understand that some professions this would not be looked on favorable, but with it a hidden thing it is not helping on that front either. 40 years ago gays were not looked at as abnormal and needing medical help, but with all the outward publicity they have gain not only acceptance but are changing laws all over the world, We should look at that and not hiding the reality. We are and have always been, and we don't hurt anyone and probably respect and treat others better than most vanillas. Look at our marriage success rates and the fact that we can also treat our playmates with that same respect. We should be proud of what we do not shamed by it. We are a fun loving respectful and strong group of people. And we should respect that in ourselves.
  10. I have to commend you for your actions here, i dealt with this same issue for a while it was FFM's for a long time, but when we got back into the lifestyle i demanded couples. I do like light play with other women but much prefer men, thus if he wanted, i was getting mine as well. So now we are seeking other couples only, and that is that. I did find out that it is more a image complex that leads most men to only wanting other females, the performance anxiety isn't there when they don't feel like they are competing with somone else. Chantal
  11. I agree, talk to him it is your marriage, but also his, not to say he is ready to leave, but she could make their lives very difficult. I would want to know what is going on between Mr. T, and a playmate, and visa versa. All our convo's are logged so that we can each read what the other is up to. So on that note, there is ways to find out what is going on. As for your relationship, I think a counselor would be a good idea, something is going wrong, and swinging is not going to help it. You have been together for 10 yrs, and now this is the second playmate she attaches herself to, there is definitely something very wrong. I know from our own experience, we had a similar situation in the beginning 10yrs ago, but that was quickly rectified by cutting contact immediately. So from my point of view, you cut contact immediately, by contacting them, i know this will be difficult from an ego point of view, no one wants to admit that there is an issue in their marriage. And then talk to your wife, and see if she would go to a counselor to fit what is wrong. Best of luck and i hope all works out for you. Chantal
  12. Ok, maybe I am weird or wired different, but I can "squirt" during oral, no g-spot stimulation at all, granted more fluid with but hey that is just me. I am just grateful that it doesn't have to be some complicated process for it to happen, just have to be in the right mood.
  13. I think that we do have a great percentage of great marriages here, maybe it is because we do all communicate well, and when we have issues we have somewhere to go to have others look at it and help us fix them, when they seem too big to handle. I am sure others out there have done so and i hope we have helped. I know we can't save them all, but if we can help one then we have done our best right. And as for the little things, Den works 6 days on 3 off alternating between nights and days, I try to get up with him on the day shifts, 5 a.m. is early, and if the kids have been up through the night then I am done for, but if not I am up making his tea and getting him off to work, the mornings I can't I feel so guilty. And I also try to have dinner on the table for when he gets home, or have it made early for when he leaves for night shift, I believe in family meals so I try my best to have them on the table for all of us to eat together. Chantal
  14. Hopping in that boat to, that is my wildest fantasy, being blind folded so i don't know who, and have a great time with it. Will it ever happen,i don't know Dennis would have major issues with trusting that many guys with me, but it is a great fantasy anyway. But if it did happen then what would my Great fantasy be after that, sometimes making fantasy reality isn't always great. Chantal
  15. Mr Truelove, I think you hit the mail on the head, Parents relationships. For myself my parents were married till death do us part, it wasn't always easy, Dad was a heavy drinker and mom put up with it, till he almost die of a heart attack at 48, then that life stopped, and Mom was the doting leave it to beaver wife till she die at 50, they went through hell together because of illness, and mom went through hell because of dad's drinking, But they always stuck it out. Was it a great success not from what i remember, but to them it was a commitment and there was no backing out. MR T's parents weren't much better, little affection, apparently sexless, a marriage of convenience from his dad's side and she was madly in love and there was no changing her mind. She to died very young 54 if I remember correctly. {i never met her} So now that I have board you with that, Me and Mr T have taken what we grew up with and swore never would we be like that, I would never put up with the drinking, and he is a very affectionate type, So maybe seeing the hard marriages set us up for what we wanted out of our own relationships. The other thing we got married young 21& 22 so we have more or less grown up together, with the attitude we would never be the stat that young marriages fail more than older, I think as we weren't Set in our ways yet, we had a better chance to combine our lives with out having to change a lot of things,{like getting rid of his ugly chair because it didn't match my furniture}. I will never say it has always been easy, we have had our troubles but we have always stuck together and would never turn on our vows to get a head in anyway. Sorry about the rambling, but i think it was an important point, we either want what our parents have {like i hope our children are learning from} or we want to have better if their relationships were difficult. But if we learn at a young age that marriages are disposable, then we live that way. So many see parents in and out of relationships that they never learn to fight for anything. Things get to hard leave no need to fight for it. I will now hop off my and lets see what other ideas come out. Chantal
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