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    Female part of MFM triad
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    Oshawa, ON
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  1. Sadly, Cpl, estimates are that 1 in 3 women have experienced some kind of sexual or physical abuse in their life. If never having lived this abuse was a criteria for swinging, there would be a whole lot fewer swingers out there. History of abuse is not a sentence to lifelong victimization. Besides that, I feel that Loki is dealing with enough without calling him names.
  2. avid

    Well shit....

    I struggle too... My weight goes up, my weight comes down. I love food, I love wine, I'm a great cook, and I travel a lot for business, often eating in VERY tasty restaurants. The only thing I've found for "exercise" that I enjoy is running. I get into a zen-like state, and I actually stick with it. I have actually been running for more than FOUR years now, which is quite an accomplishment. I still struggle with weight, but at least I know I have tools. Is there NO physical activity that you enjoy? What about a trainer? If you're competitive (even with yourself), they can be just the ticket. Now, that blog post wasn't so hard, was it?
  3. As a woman who has a blended poly family, the way this reads to me is that there is a conclusion reached that it WILL cause suffering, not that there is a POTENTIAL for that. I'm curious as to where that assumption comes from.
  4. I am part of a poly triad, actually a Vee (although I really don't care for that particular word). I have been married to my husband for almost 14 years, and with my (male) partner for just over 3 years. Through a consistent effort, a bit of luck, and a lot of communication, we have blended our families and have lived together for the past almost 2 years. We just came back from a family vacation in Florida. My husband and my partner are developing a solid friendship based on mutual respect and love for me. They never fight, nor even so much as argue. My partner and I are much more volatile, given our personalities and also the fact that we're in business together. Lots of fun and excitement! We also swing together, but our opportunities are somewhat limited because of time constraints. We're hoping to get a little more time for that this winter.
  5. You know what else is good? I really enjoyed reading The Ethical Slut, because I found that the author worded things in a way that caused a huge paradigm shift in me. It took away any vestiges of guilt I had, and gave me a framework for what I was doing.
  6. I kinda disagree with that. I'm not sure how helpful it is to ask that, and I don't think it's what the OP is asking. I also think we all have the right to call ourselves whatever we want, and we get to define our own terms. You're right.
  7. While I don't want to interfere with the OP's question, and right to self-identify, I just wanted to note this: Just trying to keep things in perspective, from my point of view on the periphery of the LGBT community.
  8. I feel I need to ask, Chicup, because I've seen you post a similar comment before. Are you biased on this topic yourself?
  9. Sounds kinda like an oxymoron. How do you guys see that working? Poly = many amory = love
  10. Oh, I just read this whole damn thread again! It's still as funny as the first time... You have the comedians with their snappy one-liners... Then there are the helpful people with their "anal bleaching" solutions... But the funniest of all are the indignant posters who defend the original poster, who has to be the most stunned person ever!
  11. Honey, by writing that ad, posting it, leaving it there, and making a link to it from here, you act like you wrote the book on football.
  12. While I certainly admire strong, well-thought out opinions, I wonder how much "real life" exposure you have to polyamory. I don't really see it as an either/or situation. We are a poly triad and we swing. It's all good, and we can most certainly separate love from sex. I agree with you, I hate the implication that one group or the other is more evolved than those who sit on the other side of the fence. There is certainly a lot of judgement from both camps, the swingers and the polys. Well, that might be the case, but I got involved with my partner romantically before we looked at swinging. We found that we needed to take time to establish OUR relationship before we brought others into it. Sound familiar? My husband found it much easier to relate to poly than he did to swinging. I think it's that he's shy, and doesn't realize how sexy he is. Can you expand on this? I'm not sure what you mean. There is no relationship that doesn't take work. What do we always say here? Communicate, communicate, communicate. My husband and I have a tremendously deep, committed, and loving relationship. We ALWAYS discuss issues that arise. My partner, too, is the kind of guy who is SO careful not to tread on anyone's toes. We (generally speaking) took it slow and worked on things until we got to where we are now. Doesn't mean there weren't any bumps in the road. Sure you're making a judgement. We all make them, all the time. Why do you say "cautionary"? Speaking only for us, not at all. I love sharing my men with other women, and I love meeting couples, and getting to know both the man and woman of the couple. I don't imagine that we'd be terribly open to finding another person to add to our "tribe", because what we're doing is enough work, but I won't say never.
  13. Yes, I agree, lactation amenorrhea can be an excellent way of preventing pregnancy. On the other hand, though, it's not "unnatural" for a woman to menstruate monthly, if she is not having intercourse.
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