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alphaplaycpl

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About alphaplaycpl

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Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Alpharetta, GA
  • Swinging Experience
    5 Years

Swinger Info

  • Favorite Club(s)
    2Risque
  1. I wish you the best and hope that you can return to the open, honest communication that this brought to your marriage in the beginning. I empathize as the non-traveling spouse of a swinger. Life can get confining with kids and household responsibilities when the other spouse is away. I do hope you can find balance together.
  2. I usually do wear panties. I tend to get pretty worked up at the club, which means I can get pretty wet. Panties help manage that... and they look hot, too!
  3. First of all - stop stressing about it! Every couple goes through this at some point. You are certainly not alone. I would suggest you make sure its not something medical before you drive yourselves wacko by over-thinking the situation. If all checks out well - relax. Its probably as simple as many of the other posters have mentioned (tired, overwhelming, stage fright, etc.) Talk about your swinging fantasies together, plan ahead, rest up, and take care of yourselves and you will be just fine.
  4. Has anyone ever played a game that has gone well? Any good ideas for how to break the ice other than "games?"
  5. Mr. Alpha and I have been talking about branching out and hosting a house party one day. Would some of you be willing to offer some advice or suggetions based on parties you have been to or hosted? How can we best plan ahead? What can we expect to deal with? Is playing games a good option? If so - do any of you have games that you have liked or have worked? Any help or advice is appreciated! Thanks! Mrs. Alpha
  6. Make communication go beyond conversation. You need to respond to your partner with your actions. That is truly the only way your parner knows that you have not just heard, but listened to what he/she has had to say.
  7. It has been known to happen... We were gathered at a friend's house for a Christmas Party. The hosts are mutual friends of another swing couple we are close with. To understand the social dynamic, you need to understand that we met our close friends through the hosts. We hit it off with our new friends in both friendship and play, but both couples decided that playing with the hosts was not in the cards. We are all still friends, but its a little touchy when the 6 of us are together. S&C are the hosts P&G are the close friends We are Mr. and Mrs. Alpha The evening began with P&G, Mr. Alpha and I, making it clear to the hosts (S&C) that this was going to be a vanilla evening - no play. While we are all flirts, we made it clear up front that the flirting was in no way to be an indication of an interest to play. I happened to say that my feet were cold, and C gave me his slippers. S went crazy. She wouldn't look me in the eye, and demanded that I give the slippers back. She declared a new rule "no sharing slippers." I think you can understand why we decided to keep things on a vanilla level. S wants to be open to sharing, but I am afraid she has some jealousy issues to overcome, first. Great people, though, and great friends.
  8. Foreplay is one of the best parts of swinging for us! We love to flirt, touch, kiss, and all other sorts of fun getting-to-know you types of activity. I have found that most of our encounters begin with lots of oral, and usually several pre-intercourse orgasms for the girls. Some of these the guys give us, some of them we give each other.
  9. 1. The other couple never looks at or touches one another 2. One partner speaks for the other 3. They bring up past stories of jealousy and say "but we're past that now" 4. They initiate new rules "on the spot"
  10. Flirting is pretty common for us in vanilla situations, both with swingers and with vanilla friends. We make sure it is very subtle; eye contact alone can be enough. Flirting is great in public! More than that would be very risky.
  11. You have a lot of great fantasy photos on your profile! They were fun to look through, but did not leave me with a friendly impression of you. Perhaps look for a photo with smiles for your main profile picture. It seems clear from your pictures that you have active fantasies, but you do not mention any particular interests in your profile. While it has left me curious to know more, I also feel like I didn't get quite enough information from you on what you are truly looking for.
  12. Don't change a thing about the way she dresses - that will make her feel uncomfortable and perhaps appear more stand-off-ish. Try a warm smile and a flirt with those she is interested in. As hot as she is, I am sure that her beauty would appear intimidating. She may have to be willing to make the first move. Its difficult not to respond to a warm hello and a friendly smile. If you are interested in someone, engage them, and stop waiting for them to engage you. This would be the simplest way to appear approachable. There is only one experience I regret in our swinging. We were in the play room at a local club when Mr. and Ms. Perfect walked in. I mean perfect - not a flaw on either of them. Mr. Perfect was really into me and asked me to "engage." I refused, thinking it must be a joke - there is no way they are really interested in me. Now, I know - I should have said yes. I missed out on a wonderful time with an amazingly hot couple. The moral of the story? You may need to invest more time and effort into letting others know you are truly interested before you give up.
  13. Please kindly review our profile. We are interested in tips on how we can improve. We would love to hear any constructive criticism or really neat ideas. We are also searching for a new attention-grabbing tag line... Any suggestions? alpharettaplaycp at swinglifestyle.com
  14. I have been reading through the previous posts, and I think a better understanding of why your friends may have waited so long to tell you about their new pastime lies in understanding that "coming out" can mean something very different to a swinger> If a person who is homosexual "comes out" to friends or family, very little of the emotional investment actually has to do with something sexual. Coming out in this case is a defining moment, revealing that a person is not only drawn to a person of the same sex for sexual reasons, but also because a person feels that he/she could find a loving, committed, and fulfilling relationship with a person of the same sex. To find such a person as a significant other would make her/him a part of your family. Swinging is different. To "come out" as a swinger is to reveal something purely sexual about yourself, and perhaps about the people you are having sex with. I have lots of friends who are swingers, but we do not necessarily play with them. I have lots of friends who are couples and singles, but are not swingers. And, yes, we also have a lot of swinger friends who we play with. If I were to imagine all of these people in one room together, I do not feel a particular responsibility to any of these friends to reveal that I have had sex with any of them. In fact, I feel a responsibility NOT to reveal this - as if it is "kissing and telling." I hope that you will consider that it may not have been a trust issue of your friendship as to why your friends may have waited to tell you about their new lifestyle. I think that it is true that friends can drift for any number of reasons. If you were to discuss this with your friends you might ask them why they may have invited you to a party which obviously seems as if it were heavily populated with swinger friends without giving you a "head's up." I can see how that may have made you feel as though you were the only ones not "in" on the secret. If I were to invite my vanilla friends to a gathering with lots of swingers, I would expect them to notice something was up...
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