Jump to content

MyWife&Me

Registered
  • Content Count

    12
  • Joined

  • Last visited

Community Reputation

45 Excellent

About MyWife&Me

  • Rank
    Contributor

Personal Info

  • Location
    North Carolina

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    ECUNaughtyCouple
  • Favorite Club(s)
    You Know Where

Recent Profile Visitors

The recent visitors block is disabled and is not being shown to other users.

  1. Sorry to take so long to get back to everyone. Well do to scheduling problems on both our part and his we never did meet with the wife's old boyfriend. But last Saturday night we did have our first MFM threesome and it was good. My wife had a good time and for me, getting to finally watch her with another guy was even better than I had fantasized about. I will be posting an account of that evening under the First Time Experiences section soon for those who are interested. This is going to sound bad but since getting involved in searching for other potential partners my wife had realized she can do better than her ex and really has no interest in meeting him at all now. So as things have turned out we just weren't meant to meet up with him. I want to thank everyone for their advice throughout this thread.
  2. We met with him on Friday night for drinks and dinner. Everything went great. We spent a few hours catching up on my wife’s part and getting to know each other on my part. My wife was very at ease and as comfortable with him after 20 years of no face to face contact as she is with our regular friends. And we were both surprised how comfortable I was. Normally I am very quite and reserved around people I just met but not this time. On the ride home I asked how she felt and she said that she felt comfortable but needed some time to think if he is the one and if she is ready. She texted with him during the ride home about what we thought and what he thought and it seemed like everyone was ready. Once we got home that night we had a great sex session with no mention of the threesome, which was a surprise to me but I just followed her lead. Saturday was full of family activities for us so there was very little mention of the next step. After last night’s sleep we talked this morning and she told me that she is ready to proceed. So we texted him and worked out the scheduling and we are set to meet for the threesome on the last weekend of September. I wish it was sooner but our schedules just didn’t match up until then. After the texting ended I asked her if she was nervous now we have a date set and she claimed that no she wasn’t because she could still call it off at this point. But for now let the anticipation begin. I have been walking around with a semi-hard-on all day long and I can’t keep my hands off of her.
  3. I'm certain there's nothing fishy going on. We've been in this together from the start. The idea of a traditional swap involving both wives was abandoned a few years ago and my wife has been very up front all along about her jealousy issues. I have excepted her limits and out of that was born the idea of the MFM threesome. The constant is just the same guy and I have been the one to push for him, not her, in fact I had to work at showing her why I felt he's the right one. I have told her that for the first time I think someone she's comfortable with would yield the best outcome. That's why I've pushed for him since he is experienced and, she's familiar and comfortable with him. Thanks bi4me2 (her) and everyone for your comments and advice.
  4. I have an update for everyone. We have taken the next step towards our first MFM threesome. We have asked him if he’d be interested in joining us and of course he said yes. So we are set to meet with him for dinner and drinks the next time he is in our area, which is a week from Friday. He also told us that he has gotten the green light from his wife to join us. Now we haven’t confirmed this with her yet but we feel comfortable moving ahead with this get to know (for me) and get reacquainted (for my wife) dinner. Of course if things go well the next thing will be to talk to her directly to make sure she’s onboard with this proceeding to the next step. One other thing, as a surprise for my wife I purchased “Between a Cock and a Hard Place” DVD for us to watch together. She had asked to see some MFM porn to get ideas for when we actually have our MFM. We watched it over the weekend and it really got her heated up. She got so worked up that we used her Jack Rabbit vibrator as a “third person”. Also she got the idea of texting him while we did all this. It was very exciting for everyone and made for a really memorable night.
  5. First I want to thank everyone for their advice it is much appreciated. I guess in my original post I wasn’t clear that our plan was for both of us to meet with him once before anything sexual occurs. The meeting is as much for me as it is for my wife since I have never met him before. Also it has been mentioned that there be no expectation beyond the proposed MFM on my part. I can assure you that I have none. I am very voyeuristic by nature so a leading motivation for swinging with me all along has been seeing her with another man. But I understand completely that this something we’re in together and I will heed the advice given to move at the pace of the slowest, to not push for things, and to let her find her own way. Also I have an update. We chatted with him yesterday, just some general swinging chat, asking him about his experience level with MFM threesomes, etc. His answer to my wife’s question of what happens if someone gets cold feet really put a lot of her fears to rest. He told her if that happens then we just stop with no hard feelings. That he has experienced that situation before and everyone left as friends. This really did make her feel more comfortable. We decided to talk some more on our own before extending the offer to join us for a threesome and we’ve done that today. She is quite nervous about another man touching her (we’ve been married for 15 years) and at the same time excited to be fulfilling a fantasy. We’ve agreed that we are ready to proceed and invite him to join us. We’re taking a long weekend trip away starting tomorrow and we’re going to talk to him on Monday when we get back. I will keep everyone updated.
  6. I first brought up the idea of introducing others to our sex life about 4 years ago after a role playing session just made something click inside me. At the time she thought we should just keep it in our fantasy world. Fast forward ahead about a year, upon finding Facebook and reconnecting with several old high school friends she connected with her first real boyfriend who she hadn’t seen or talked to in over 15 years. She comes to find out that he and his wife have just entered the lifestyle and he would very much like to initiate us. This ex was the first guy to ever play with her boobs or finger her. They did lots of heavy petting, including mutual masturbation, but no actual sex, oral or otherwise. He and his wife live in the same area she grew up in which is about 180 miles away from where we live now. This excited me very much and she was intrigued by the idea. When she learned they were members of Adult Friend Finder we were able to find their profile and emailed them as an anonymous couple. For a week she teased him including putting up faceless nude pictures for them to see. Once she came clean with him and let him know it was her we continued chatting with them including a video chat session where we watched them have sex. He was very much still attracted to her. I told my wife this was the perfect couple to break into the lifestyle with. She was comfortable with him I found his wife attractive and the feelings were mutual. We had a trip planned to the area for a family gathering and they asked us, while we were there, to come by for a visit and maybe more. We planned on going right up to the day but my wife got too nervous and we backed out. So she still hasn’t seen this guy in person for 20 years. That was two years ago. After that my wife and him keep in contact off and on through Facebook with the occasional reference to sexual memories and how he and his wife were progressing in the lifestyle. My interest in swinging never died off and I would bring it up now and again over the last two years. She would claim to be interested in being with a woman and a MFM threesome really appeals to her. But her issue is with jealousy when thinking about me being with another woman. I’ve encouraged the MFM fantasy for a while and then yesterday happened. During a chat on Facebook with the ex he asked if she/we were still interested in the lifestyle or if it was just a phase. She told him about my continued interest and her issue with jealousy that has kept us out. He suggested a MFM threesome and he’d love to be the second M. I asked her what she thought and she told me she was open to it. When she told me about this I encouraged her to talk more about it with him. It turns out that he says he and his wife do play occasionally alone. So this morning after sleeping on it we talked about it and my wife thinks that even though her ex is not the most attractive possibility, that the comfort level with him will be more important. And I also know she is a bit curious as to what it would be like to have sex with him after all this time. So we agreed to proceed with this guy with the following plan. First my wife is going to let him know we are interested in having him as the third for our first MFM threesome. But before that happens she wants to talk to his wife to make sure she knows what’s going on and that his wife approves. Also my wife wants to chat, talk, and meet non-sexually with him before we get down to the actual threesome meeting. I’m extremely excited about the looming possibility of taking our first step into the lifestyle. I’m just wondering what everyone thinks of this scenario and if we’re approaching it correctly or if we are making any mistakes. Sorry this was so long I just wanted to give everyone a glimpse of how we got here.
×
×
  • Create New...