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  1. I have come while giving a guy a blow job, but I don't think it's so much the taste of his cum, it's more of the total sexy feeling I usually have that giving a blow job gives me.
  2. Well, I was raised Catholic, too, and in fact, still attend Mass, but I guess, unlike your wife, it hasn't slowed me down one bit when it comes to fully exploring my sexuality. (Maybe that makes me a bad Catholic...) What difference is there, if a non-swing wife gives permission to the spouse vs. a participating wife? I see what you mean... but you made your own point, which is in both the examples that you gave, married with permission with a non-swing wife, or a participating wife, in both of those scenarios, there is open communication and agreement about how your lives will be conducted. But that doesn't mean you should necessarily give up on your wife. Maybe, over time, with some very gentle suggestions from you (along with introducing some techniques to spice up your sex life) she might, and that's a big might, come around. No pun intended. Good luck! Athena
  3. Pretty Lady is right: your wife needs you now more than ever. Maybe the day will come when you're free to pursue your first love, but until that time, you are doing the right thing by staying true to your wife, whom I'm sure loves you. Besides, sometimes dreams die in the face of reality. And on the other hand, F. Scott Fitzgerald once said, "There are many kinds of love in world, but never the same love, twice." The love you had for the girl you knew at 15 is unique, as is the love you share with your wife. But don't destroy your marriage to chase a shadow of what was. Please add my best wishes for your wife's recovery. Athena
  4. With my current lover (and for that matter, my past lovers) I can almost always tell when they're going to come, so no warning is necessary. Sometimes I swallow and sometimes I don't. But I don't mind liking his cock after he's come, or letting him come on me. But I can't answer your most important question, since I'm not currently swinging. (But since I love to give bjs, I can't imagine I'd treat some other guy differently.) Athena
  5. Ok, I'm not a lawyer (yet) and I don't know about the laws in Canada, but here in the U.S. when you create something, YOU own the copyright! And that's true whether or not you actually formally "copyrighted" it. So, you might want to trot on down to the store and demand royalties for every sale of your design, depending on the laws in your country. Just a thought. Athena
  6. Oh please... spare me the "this has never happened to you" line. I bet there are plenty of people on this site and in the world in general who developed "feelings" for someone other than their spouse. What I think everyone's made very clear is that when that happens, you have several options: the first is to ignore those feelings and make a grown-up decision not to act on them out of respect for your spouse. The second option is to dwell on your infatuation with "Ms. perfect" and ruin your marriage and probably break your wife's heart. (Hey, but whatever floats your boat, right?) The third option is to come clean with your feelings of attraction toward your wife's best friend, so at least your wife will know what (and who) she's dealing with. That's not to say your attraction is wrong in and of itself, after all, we can't control how we feel, but we sure can control how we act. But the bottom line is that marriages stay together or not, due to one thing and one thing only: it's called "commitment." You are either committed to staying married and working through things like being attracted to your wife's best friend, or your not committed to anything but indulging your feelings. And indulging one's feelings can be a very dangerous way to live one's life. Maybe that's where you're trying to draw an analogy between what you're doing and what swingers do. It's true that swingers indulge their sexual appetites with other people and on the surface, I can see why you'd think that somehow is related to your life, but as these people have told you many times, their primary focus is their marriage, and swinging is just a shared activity that they both enjoy. See the difference? Athena
  7. "A," I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved husband. He sounds like a wonderful man... who loved you very much. Please know you are in my thoughts. And know that I think Woody is a great guy too and the thought that you found each other just before this sad time... well, sometimes God sends us angels in disguise. Athena
  8. Motown! Now there's some great music! Heard it through the Grapevine -- Marvin Gaye Devil with a Blue Dress On -- Mitch Ryder and the Detroit Wheels (Not really Motown, but still from Detroit) Just about anything from the Temptations or the Four Tops. And to this day, "What's Going On" (Another Marvin Gaye classic) still gives me chills. But don't forget Earth, Wind, and Fire: September, and Sing a Song, The Spice of Life, etc. It definitely makes me want to get up and dance! Athena
  9. This is precisely the reason you need to tell your wife! Yes, it will hurt her, but it would hurt her FAR more to find out that you've cheated on her. It might be that admitting your attraction/infatuation with her friend would actually bring you and your wife closer ... at least once she gets over the shock. There are several books out there that talk about dealing with an affair -- and their aftermaths, and even though your "affair" has been purely an emotional one, it might do you and your marriage a whole lot of good to clear the air. Also, sometimes exposing your "dream love" to the harsh light of day might serve to diffuse it, but the problem is, it sounds like you don't want to do that. I'm guessing you're really hungering for more romance -- and I bet if your wife knew that, she'd LOVE to give that you! At least give it a chance. Athena
  10. Nope, it's not just you. I've been having orgasms ever since childhood, doing nothing except pressing my thighs together (and now that I'm all grown up, I realize I was doing kegels, too.) Of course, this actually worked against me, later on, because I had to re-teach myself to climax with my legs open! ha ha! But it's great to be able to orgasm whenever I want with no toys or fingers or anything needed, except my imagination. (Of course, I prefer a man, too!) Athena
  11. I'm with Thrax on this one... I think's it's very sexy to play (at least up to a point) in the shower... and that's probably what the man had in mind. (Either that or he's trying to save on water bills at home!) Athena
  12. Ah, but you don't have to be a member of a "protected class" to sue under the First Amendment! (Whereas you must be a member of protected class to sue under Title VII.) And since it seems a government entity was the culprit here, and did the firing, you might well have a good case based on First Amendment grounds. As far as "morals grounds" being upheld, I seem to remember a recent case in which a woman in a Midwestern state was fired from a Catholic school for getting pregnant before marriage. She WON her case -- even though there was a morals clause. She sued based on Equal Protection, the 14th Amendment. I'd say, talk to an actual attorney who deals with civil rights issues before throwing in the towel on this one. But as far as getting your job back, why would anyone want their job back at that place?
  13. But Gray Wolf, I find it interesting that you were apparently seeking women among "foreign contacts?" Does that mean you were looking for a mail order bride? And then you state that the women near your age (but still considerably younger -- "no more than 10-15 years younger" as you stated) had "emotional baggage" and "even wanted to have a child or two at 45 or even 50". But isn't that what you did? Didn't your first post mention that you and your half-your-age Asian wife have a young child together? So why would the fact that a woman closer to your age who wanted to have a child be a deal breaker? Athena
  14. Tybee, I couldn't agree more. But here's the problem: once people approach 50, it can create a psychological barrier to attraction. Case in point: After Sharon Stone's new movie, "Basic Instinct 2" came out, Jimmie Kimmel (or some other late-night talk-show host) said this: "Sharon Stone's new movie bombed at the box office... I guess no one wants to see a 50-year-old woman uncrossing her legs." Unfortunately, it's men like him, who automatically think mature women are positively unsexy because they're "old," that can make life difficult for us women as we age. So the only hope most of us have it to look considerably younger... which explains why women, much more than men, are more likely to get plastic surgery... But, you, on the other hand, blessed with great genes and a strong ethic of taking care of yourself... well, hey, what can I say? You look great! And more power to you! Athena
  15. Yes, but I'm not suggesting that she on a Title VII basis, meaning because she's a member of a protected class she falls under the Civil Rights Act of 1964 protection: what I'm suggesting is a pure Constitutional claim. The government may not violate your First Amendment rights (even if your employer is an at-will employer) and this is the argument I'd pursue.
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