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  • Birthday 06/18/1975

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    camping, boating, fishing (him not her)
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  1. I don't think I could play with someone who was mentally challenged. Like someone who was too drunk to make a decision I would always wonder if they were truly capable of making an informed decision. And for that matter, some partners may be good at "pretending" to care but really don't. It just feels too weird and loaded with potential pitfalls. That and I am more attracted to intelligent people I can carry on a conversation with.
  2. I think that's wise. Sometimes in the middle of crisis we try to cling to the things that make us comfortable...and while these things give us comfort some people don't always adjust within themselves. If that makes sense. My ex and I ended our 10 yr marraige this last year. It was heartbreaking and devastating. Thru it, I discovered many of my "friends" were really "his friends". There were times I felt so alone. But honestly, I came thru it a different person, and I realized something very important. It is not the people in my life who define me, nor did they comfort me. I found strength and power within myself, got back up on my feet, dusted myself off, and found myself again...something I had lost during the course of my marraige. When I found my new SO, I was ready for him, much sooner than others thought I should be. Take this time to self reflect, evaluate, change anything you feel needs it, and find your inner strength. Things work themselves out as they should. I wish you all the best.
  3. Actually, this did happen with me and my ex. He wanted to stop...we stopped. I did ask why he wanted to stop so that I understood his thoughts but not to persuade him to continue. I never tried to talk him into it, because our belief was that it was fun for US. If one of us wasn't wanting to participate, the other's persuasion or attempt thereof would ultimately lead to the other feeling as if they had to continue to keep the other happy. We didn't want the feeling of "obligation" ergo when he said stop...i simply stopped.
  4. My current SO would also appreciate a FMF fantasy being fulfilled. And like you I have some insecurities...and I was in the lifestyle before with my ex husband (we DID NOT divorce for reasons pertaining to the life either just to clear that up and hopefully not add to one of your insecurities). I think it is perfectly normal for you to feel this way. All those questions rolling around in your head, "will this break us up? will he prefer her to me? will he/will I get so jealous we destroy this wonderful relationship we have?" ALL NORMAL!!! Sit down with him and explain each and every insecurity. Odds are he has probably had some insecurities of his own roll around in his head. And maybe he is just as afraid to discuss them as you might be. Over time, talking about it may alleviate alot of these insecurities. At the very least it will improve your ability to communicate. You would be surprised how much easier it is to discuss other issues when you can talk so openly about sex and love, hangups and insecurities in the bedroom. And don't feel as if you have to rush. Yes, fulfilling a fantasy can be a wonderful thing, but there is no rule saying you have to do it in X days/weeks/months. Take your time and talk talk talk. When you start looking for that woman, eventually one will come along that makes you feel at ease as well.
  5. The reason we are focusing of the drug free part is because most people when asked what disease free is will say "free of STD's" AND its common knowledge that noone wants to catch one and will use methods appropriate to them for prevention of those diseases. It simply was not what the OP was asking. The OP is asking, basically, What do you consider to be drug free? More specifically, if occasional pot use is considered drug free. Disease was not in the original question. I agree with others here that stated drug free means free of illegal drugs. That, for me, would mean legal drugs not used properly according to prescription as well. If you get a prescription for pain pills or anything else, and you aren't using them properly, its still illegal, even though you obtained them legally. At least that is what drug free means to me.
  6. Spoo, I was one of those waiting on your reply. When you say its a long post, you surely are not joking. And even though my eyes hurt so bad I don't think I will want to read again for a week...(Just kidding) as always, I was not disappointed. Google maps...whoda thunk it to be such a wonderful and appropriate analogy. Well done, and I loved it, absolutely loved it. Big hugs for typing so much.
  7. You are so right Intuition. This statement alone is the reason I am not a fan of organized religions. I prefer my own approach. My God is very simply My God. And my relationship with him/her is personal. No pastor in a suit standing in front of a church can tell me what is right or wrong or whether or not I have a shot at the afterlife. That rests between me and my higher power. When it seems that every church I walk into seems to take a rule that the majority of society believes in, and then try to dig a verse out to support it, meanwhile, if you read the verse in front of it and the verse after it, you start to see that what is being taught in church isn't really the full translation. I also believe in what BiloxiCouple said. The Bible, while its original text may indeed be God inspired, the bottom line is it was written by flawed men, translated countless times by flawed men, edited by flawed men, and taught by flawed men. By flawed I mean imperfect. So how can anyone say beyond a shadow of a doubt that there is no mistakes in today's current version? While I was swinging, I just never felt that is was wrong. Same concept of lying or stealing. If I told a lie, even a white lie, on some level I would feel guilty, and would feel the need to admit to my lie and ask for forgiveness. I have felt the need to say "I'm sorry" in a lot of instances. NEVER once have I even begun to feel "guilty" while swinging. Maybe over a situation that occurred while swinging, but never the act of swinging itself. Of course, I could have no real clue what I am talking about, so I am really interested in Spoo's explanation
  8. (In my best Southern Drawl) Now prettylady, don't you let that nice lookin' Thrax frighten you outta the smartass corner. There be plenty of room for your pretty self and your handsome young man over here. My, my, been a long time since I seen handsome that fine lookin' Now you two just come stand ova' here next to me, and let me tell you pretty ones a story now... Once there was this fine looking young gentleman named Thrax...And boy could he make a woman feel...
  9. Well, I reminded him that my nerves don't do so well with blades against my skin, so he added a few steps to your detailed instructions. Not too much, just an extra lick here and there, an extra rub with a finger and then it became very quickly What nerves? Hubby is very thankful for the instructions as well. I do believe he enjoyed it as much as I did. And now we are looking forward to touch ups, and future encounters. It is so much better to find an erotic way to do chores. Too bad I can't come up with an erotic way to do dishes. Maybe you guys can expand the book from Genital Grooming 101 to 1001 ways for Erotic Chores? I will be more than happy to get test any ways found in an effort to show that the book really is fact. I can see it now...that book will be on the best seller list and will knock Dr. Phil off the throne of how to have a happy marriage.
  10. Mr. Alura, IT WORKS Woooooooooohoooooo!!! Smooth, clean, and ready for inspection Sir. And it was so much fun for both of us, I don't think I am every going to have to sit on the edge of the tub, razor in one hand, shaving gel in the other, one leg propped up on the other side, the other foot planted against the side wall with me doing a balancing act while twisting and turning every which way to make sure I got it all. I just love you guys My best to the Mrs. as well Alura
  11. Oh, I just found this thread...I have copied, pasted on notepad, and printed Mr. Alura's very detailed instructions. I am hoping to try it tonight. I am very nervous when it comes to razors in someone else's hands. Silly, I know, but it's one of those things I suppose. I can shave my husband all day long and he is fine with it, but when it comes to him shaving me, I get so nervous, I start to feel queasy and shake a bit. So I am hoping that the "attention" paid to the labia before during and after the process is enough to relax me. Anyway...off to the store to buy the Dove deodorant stick. Wish us luck
  12. Yes, you are right. I can tell by your post you couldn't POSSIBLY be a jerk. :rollseyes I do happen to have a heart and unconditional sweetness. I know this because I would NEVER ever make a man kiss my ass at a 52.45 degree angle. I prefer the 180 approach. In fact, I will stand on a bar, pull my skirt up so you don't even have to bend over in the slightest when a "nice" man such as yourself chooses to kiss my ass. :rollseyes Don't believe me? Just ask my husband after an argument. I have a fundamental belief in treating others the way they treat me. That being said, if you act like an ass, you get treated like an ass. And I don't in any way expect a man to empty his wallet for me. Well, other than the one I married And even then, I don't expect it often. But if a man chooses to empty his wallet, that is HIS choice. It does not in any way mean that I should let him "sniff my ass" or better yet fuck me. Emptying your wallet would be YOUR choice. My choice is to make you an offer . My offer is this. Down the road from me is this nice bridge. Perhaps you would like to move there? I hear trolls favor bridges, and this one is a beauty. No graffiti, wide enough to keep the rain off of you, and lots of traffic so you can stop people on their way to and from work to pinch a few pennies here and there. Perhaps then, you wallet would not be empty after paying club fees? Then you could take all this leftover money and buy some classes that teach manners, class, respect, and maybe even get a crash course in politeness. There are quite a few single men here, such as Thrax and curiousagain that have masters degrees in those areas. They might be willing to teach you for a modest price.
  13. prettylady, once again you hit the nail on the head. Sometimes we women are so focused on what we see in the mirror when we look at ourselves, we never notice the woman next to us doing the same thing. But in answer to the question. No, I no longer am intimidated by another womans looks. I used to be. I had hangups a mile long. And somewhere during the course of our swinging, I got over it. I started to focus less on how hot they were, and started focusing on what I was bringing to the table. Laughter, a great smile, gorgeous eyes, nice long hair. It didn't matter if I had stretch marks and thighs I really wasn't happy with. And when I started focusing on what I was bringing, and started focusing less on how someone else looks in comparison to me, my confidence level went up. Just keep in mind that you are a beautiful person inside and out, and let the rest fall aside.
  14. Skip my above post and take iapr's advice. He is absolutely right. I agree.
  15. I am gonna give this a shot in the dark. So if I am completely way off base, someone say so. Seadog, most people don't "just lose" their sex drive out of the blue for no reason. There is usually something going on physically or emotionally or mentally for this to happen as someone said earlier. You say that you are 43, but not your wife's age, so is it possible that menopause, or early onset menopause is setting in? That might be a possiblility of a physical issue. My mother went through menopause starting in her 40's. And then again with 3 kids, she might just be exhausted by the time she gets to bed. With little ones, its tired physically, with teens and hormones running rampant in them, it could be mentally exhausted. What about emotionally? Could there be issues going on here? Maybe your own sex life hit a rut and she fell into the "why bother" category, and now the only emotion you might share is a "see you later, love ya" and a perfunctory kiss on the cheek on the way out the door? Or maybe its another emotional issue all together. Talk to her about it. Tell her you are feeling neglected because you love her and want to make love to her, but she does not seem interested and you want to know why. Tell her that whatever the reason you love her and will do what you can to help her through it. Sometimes just hearing, "I am here for you" helps open the door so she can share with you what is going on. But I would definetely not bring up swinging right now. Odds are if you do, she is going to feel like since she is not making love to you, you are going to find some elsewhere, and either she will 1. go along with it and in the end hate you or resent you for it, at which point divorce is going to look good, or 2. She is going to say no, and then possibly convince herself you are out there cheating even if you aren't. Get to the root of the current problem which is the lack of sex in your own marraige and fix that before you add other people to it. It takes a strong, healthy marraige to make swinging work.
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