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Well I have to go pick her up from work...I know I got alot of good advice...It's just overwhelming a little...Uh it's just a little hurtful to sense the direction this is headed and I was just looking for anyone's and everyone's advice...Anything that I could point out for someone to say "It's all good" to remove this weight...I don't think I'll say anything tonight... Oh and the marriage is like half and half we both have respect as far as that...I'm certain that if I approached her and asked her to stop I believe she would...I just don't want to do that if I'm over-reacting...Anyway Thanks to those who didn't make light of the situation...

I don't find physical abuse funny...I don't think it's funny to bring children into a discussion...and the only fucking reason i'm on the computer right now is cause she's not home... You think you might be able to show me another side to this and fucking help a guy out...then I would appreciate it...if not...if all you want to do is be sarcastic then theres no purpose in replying here... if people have nothing better to do than try and be cool on the fucking internet...then I feel sorry for them

Well fuck that...I came here to fucking air out what I can't ask of anyone...not my friends not my family, not my coworkers...I wanted advice and I thought you all gave good advice...I don't know anything about this kinda shit other then occasionally talking 'bout it with my wife...if i have to fucking clarify it a hundred times in this topic and ask the same questions...you could fucking help me or not fucking open this damn topic...all i wanted here was someone to talk to...

This is a confusing event for me...I like the idea of it...When it's for us, for our shits and giggles so to say...I don't like the fact that she's spending so much time into the personal side, while ignoring me it makes me feel like she considers it a relationship or some kind of attachment... I will say that so far she has been brutally honest...I say this for the fact that I check her cell phone and computer conversations...I cannot however vouch for her telephone conversations being I'm usually at work or asleep... And as much as I don't want to when I hear the details I won't lie it does excite me a little...Even though this isn't the exact kind of situation I had in mind and had told her about...The trouble for me is that I'm not sure this is pure sexual...If it were I wouldn't be here right now looking for advice...I'm not sure that this is for us, even though she always insists that it is... I can't test the waters anymore...I can't hold off any longer, some action or inaction is nesscary before Saturday...I need to know what her reasons she has for this and what her objective is... Do the pictures mean she's doing it for us... or Does her seemingly nonstop personal interaction with him mean it's something more...

Shit...! So you got me pegged...Can I curse in this forum...I'm on the verge of breaking some kinda forum rules... So I guess the answers here in front of me...But somehow possibly couldn't this be not as bad as it seems, or I think, or you all think...

I'm 25 she's 23....

Well swingers we aren't....the thing is it doesn't interest me in playing with another woman....I mean I would if she wanted that, but for me I like to see my wife be sexual....She knows this we've talked about it a million times about mfm's n' whatnot.... I'm sorry I know I must be confusing the hell outta all of you...AAAHHH

Does the pictures thing...make it for us...?

Honestly...I do feel excited but that flickers out when I think that she may not be doing that to excite me...I'm almost absolutly sure she is doing this as a kind of excitement and for her to feel desired...I feel kinda worthless when I ask her to spend time with me...I feel that maybe I've created this monster, by bringing it up...I would feel better if I knew for certain this was something for us, not a game for her...She said she was going to take pictures...I told her to do it here so I could do the whole "closet" thing she said no...I just have a sneaking suspision that if I let her go thinking that it still is for us...I think it'll backfire something fierce... I do appreciate all your time...I do need all the help and informatiion I can get... One other thing...why is it that my wife with someone would interest me...what the f' is that about...

Wow I was afraid of this reaction...I guess I knew it thats why I'd been all upset...I just don't want to believe it...And it's pretty unanomous feedback...What am I going to say to her that I haven't before...? Is there no doubt about her intentions...?

So what if it's a desire to be wanted...? She was a virgin when we met I just kinda thought she wanted to explore...I'm not sure what to think...So it definetely sounds like she's doing this for herself and not our fantasies...? Thats what you all are kinda saying...

Alright…Here’s the deal…Me and my wife are in our early twenties with a child…For a couple of years I always thought my wife with another man watching them and participating would be sexy…She never gave it any thought…Until January… She always enjoyed chatting on the computer…She’s a flirt but never would go to far…Since the child she’s gained a little weight and she used it to sort of help her self esteem…In January a guy she had been talking to came to our town to visit his family…She asked me if she could meet him, I thinking it was a joke said to go right ahead…Later that week she asked a second time…Still thinking it was a joke I said go ahead…She came home drunk and told me she had given him a blowjob…I was speechless I have always been turned on by that but didn’t know what to think I never thought it would happen…I was angry but I couldn’t be I gave her permission…I was hurt that I wasn’t included, or I guess that she would rather do that alone…And that was as far as it went…Until Last Monday…She has recently been chatting with another man daily for about a month…Calling him on the phone and staying up until the wee hours in the morning…I work graveyard so I don’t have an opportunity to see her that often and when I do she’s talking to that guy…We had previously agreed that in the future if there was to be a future with this kind of play that it would be for the both of us and not for just our singular pleasure…Anyway I had let it slide, until last Monday…She had been asking me for days if she could go meet him, each time I had to work that night I was hesitant I would’ve preferred to be there…On Monday she asked me again and after 4 times of saying no she wouldn’t let up so I said okay whatever…I went to work and tried calling her over and over again to tell her I wasn’t comfortable but she did not answer…Finally around two in the morning she called and gave me the details…She had given him a blowjob and described everything that had occurred…I guess the things that make me kind of uncomfortable would be that she behaves different with these men…I mean she’s more sensuous she usually when being intimate with me doesn’t go out of her way to seduce me or kiss but every time she goes out she does that kind of stuff…So the next couple of days I kind of was upset I saw this lack of attention and lack of sexual interest with me as a major problem…I spoke with her for a couple of days and told her that I felt ignored and well that she wasn’t into me anymore…She assured me that I was just blowing things out of proportion and that she did love me, she didn’t feel any different… So here’s the dilemma…She’s planning to meet again this Saturday night but for actual intercourse…This was never really discussed before I asked her if she wanted to fuck him and she said sure…I don’t know if I am comfortable with this seeing how it doesn’t seem to be for us, it seems this is solely for her…Am I reading to much into this, because it feels like she’s growing attached…She doesn’t spend half her time being with me then she does talking to this man…What am I supposed to do…? Is this bad…Is this good…Do I have to worry…Is it all in my head…AAAAHHHH