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watcherone

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    West Virginia, USA
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  1. My wife and I have only done mfm and I have never really been interested in cpl-cpl swinging. We have been with married men only when their wife was aware of what was going on, but give us a nice, gentle single man and we can play for hours. We had the good fortune to play with one single man that was probably 15 years younger than us. He was a complete gentleman and was totally into pleasing my wife each time we met. We have done DP with him a couple times and he has licked her while I fucked her. Myself, I guess I am a little chicken to try it. Male thing I guess although I have done it after we both had her. Single men can be total jerks that think they are the best she has ever had ( not !! ) but there are alot more who will be what both of you can enjoy. It just kinda clicks when it works right and you can have a long term relationship with the right guy . This youngster could do it 6 or 7 times a night and we had him over many, many times over a three year period. We moved 5 hours away and had to end a very good thing. We both miss those long , hot nights. When you find the right thing, hang on to it. We are now looking for another and they are out there.
  2. I have also had this same situation come up after playing with a new single guy. The problem I had was not listening to what my mind was telling me and beleiving I was just overly paranoid. The truth is that if the chat and email between the two of them gets you upset then sex between them again may be a mind blower. In my situation the guy was laying alot of anti-watcherone talk on my wife and she wouldnt beleive he meant it that way. When he and I were alone he made it clear that she would be one of his women soon enough. After telling this to my wife, "I think she finally realized I wasnt so crazy and we both booted him out. The only big rule we have in swinging is if it bothers, hurts, or anything negative, either her or I, we dont do it. We are a team and only act together. I am not swinging alone and either does she. If it doesnt feel good, dont do it. There are alot of guys out there that are perfect partners and would not do anything to make you or her have second thoughts.
  3. Have done it few times with a friend and my wife. Absolutely blew me almost instantly the first time, and same with our friend. Next time I was more prepared and was able to go slow and feel him cum first. Is an unbelievable feeling having her get off on another man while you are there inside her. (also drove my wife crazy feeling us both inside her at once) I do recommend you have someone that you both feel comfortable with since you all get pretty close inside and out. Still gets me going just thinking about it.
  4. You know, the way society is going it wont be long before there will only be one person that can walk the almighty straight and narrow line. Years back I was in trouble because my hair was too long and i wore blue jeans to school-even got expelled for my hair touching my shirt collar. Since than this great society has laid more and more rules on us to where it is hard to be an individual. That is what life is really all about- be a unique person, enjoy your life and let society go its own way. My only real concern in my life is to not hurt anyone with my life, other than that, it is my life and I'm not going to worry about what society thinks about me. Maybe that is the lesson from 9/11. Life is so short, live it as full as you can and enjoy it to the max. Tomorrow may never come.
  5. I will probably catch alot of flak for how I got into mfm swinging but it worked for us. After being married for 25 years, i knew from past conversations with my wife that she was curios about how it would feel being with another man. She had shown an interest in a couple of our male friends, so one night when one of them visited overnight, I just asked her if she wanted to go into his room and jump into bed with him. She first thought I was kidding but after she saw I was serious, she got up the nerve and did it. I guess I pushed her into it but I knew she wanted to but was just scared to try. After that first time, she had no trouble just saying what she felt towards a guy and the rest just came natural. She never once regretted doing it and we have had many great threesomes since.
  6. Doesn't it seem to you all that swinging with others lets you be the person you have to hide from the rest of the world. I feel so much better just having a place like this to come to and be with people who feel the same or almost the same. When you swing with another person or couple, you become like kindred spirits. You aren't afraid to talk openly about sex or anything else when you are with them. One of the best times we have is always after sex with another guy. We can all sit and talk and sometimes get all excited and go after it again. It allows us to be free of the guilt trips that society throws on us all about what is right and what society sees as wrong. It is a coming out type of thing, no more hiding in the "closet".
  7. I have gone for years trying to keep myself closed on the way I wanted to be, always thinking that if it ever actually happened I might not be able to handle it or it would turn her off to the whole idea. As it turned out, we missed alot of years that we could have had in this lifestyle and the hiding was such a waste of time. I feel so releived now just knowing that I am not some wierdo freak wanting to have other men have sex with my wife. There have been many times that I would find myself being watched by the other man while I was with her. This was a side to it that I never knew existed inside me. I think that it is rediculous that we humans have to go thru our lives with all these thoughts bottled up inside, too afraid that we might be labled as a pervert, or worse yet a woman be viewed as cheap or worse. Letting yourself out and enjoying sex the way you want it to be and letting your partner do the same, feels unbeleivable. I only wish we had opened up to each other long ago. We all have too many hangups that keep us in a tight package to fit the public image we are told is right. I now know that what is right for some people doesnt mean you have to be the same as they are. I guess that the best after effect I have felt is the freedom I now enjoy and the feeling that I am who I am and nobody has made me feel bad about it.
  8. There is something different about friends you swing with. Some get embarrassed and it takes a little work on our part to help them feel okay about just enjoying the sex and not having to deal with any intimate relationship afterwards. We have added new friends with and without sex. One younger guy in particular has become a very good friend and he just happened to be in the right place at the right time. He is now probably closer than some friends we have had for many years. Not from sex but just because he found he could be himself around us and we weren't critical of who he was. He is also my wife's best and favorite swing partner-outside of me that is. That is another funny thing about getting into this lifestyle. My wife has not once found our sex life to be less exciting after having one or two other men in her. It is just the opposite, she seems to need me more somehow and that has made me more at ease and affectionate. PS: I am sorry that she never does the posting here. I seem to be more open about this to "strangers" such as this board and she is still a bit scared that family or straight friends will find out and think less of her. Myself, I am a better person for being true to my feelings and not hiding what I am. There are worse things to be and we are only being natural.
  9. We haven't been with another couple, a couple of guys-yes. After we did it the first time, it was with a friend of fifteen years, it was a bit awkward on his side but my wife and I actually felt closer to each other and to him. He was more at ease after the next time and became closer after each time. My own after effects were all good. I had been trying to do this for so many years that finally doing it was pure ecstasy. I totally enjoyed it and actually had a ball with the first friend, having my wife flirt and enticing him in front of me really made me boil- not mad but in a hot and sticky way. In our situation I think the other guy has a little bit of problem understanding that I could actually sit "calmly" and watch him get of with my wife. Two guys with her really makes for some interesting after talk. Doesn't being able to freely be what and who you really are sexually give you such a great feeling. My wife and I feel more real and honest now. It is like taking a mask off and showing the true you to the rest of the world. I love it and so does she!
  10. I can relate to what Liza is saying. I had always wanted to watch my wife with another man but I have no desire to be with another woman. Its not a matter of my wife or I wanting to be accepted by anyone though. It is about what we both enjoy and about having such a close relationship that allows us to be what we are. It would be terrible if we both wanted to do something but were unable to talk about it with each other. We are completely honest with our feelings and it has made us stronger. It still bothers me that most men may have a problem performing with other men around. That is what gets me going, knowing another man is satisfying my wife while I watch or join in.
  11. We are not into single females but one thing I do know something on,single males in the lifestyle. It is our feeling that none of the men we have played with are affraid of having sex with another man present. Myself, I get off better with another male present. The other men have never had a problem with me being there either.
  12. After reading the last couple days of discussion, I am beginning to wonder what it is that you all are into swinging for. To me and my wife, we are into it for the fun and enjoyment you get from sharing with someone else. I also have talked to the men we invite in and they basically are into it for about the same thing. Maybe singles and couples have the same basic needs in the lifestyle and that is why they are in it.
  13. Also STD's but two others. One is getting to know someone new and deciding he would be okay and then have a guy that gets too rough with my wife. Have had one experience with a man that played a little rough. Didn't care for it. Another thing is to play with someone that brags or talks too much to other guys about his times with us. We can only get into it with men that respect our privacy and understand what this is all about. I have seen men really getting off having sex with my wife and enjoy that a lot but trust the guy to keep his experiences with my wife to himself. I couldn't take it if a guy thought that he had had a night of sex with a slut or some other cheap name. There have been a few guys that didn't get her because we saw that he didn't really understand what this is all about.
  14. We have had nothing but single guys and threesomes. They have all liked the sex with my wife but have kept the relationship with both of us, except for one and he may have other ambitions. I consider each of them swingers and friends. Truthfully, until very recently I wasnt sure you would consider me a swinger. As for married or single guys, I could care less as long as the married ones arent cheating on their wife. If a guy is married I would have to be possitive that his wife was aware of what we are doing. One married partner we have had for about seven years has a marriage that has very little sex. His wife doesnt like having sex except very occasionally and she is releived that her husband has my wife to play with and not someone who is sneaking around in the dark. The best we have had was a young guy that was a credit to his gender. He could cum six or seven times a night and could keep it up for hours, and come back every night for more if we wanted (we wanted many times!!). I guess we dont have any preference, married or single, as long as it is all out in the open.
  15. I guess the most unforgettable time was probably about a month after we started. We started with a long time friend one night after getting pretty loose on a couple bottles of tequilla. That night my wife finally admitted she wanted to have sex with another man and that night she did. We played with him for about a month without even thinking about doing it with someone else. One Friday night we were having a birthday party with a few friends, After partying for awhile, most of our friends headed home. Our friend sat with us and another younger guy nodded out on the couch. My wife, myself and our friend decided it was cool to go into the bedroom and play awhile. In the middle of our fun the other guy wanders in and just stood there not beleiving what he was seeing. I looked at him and told him to get undressed and come on in. He did and the three of us tried all night to please my wife however we could. The younger guy proved himself very worthy and after that night he would stop in very frequently for hours of terribly hot sex with us. To this day he has been the best we have found and I wish it were possible to link back up with him. We have missed him since moving to these hills.
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