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beardedone last won the day on July 25 2015

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About beardedone

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  • Birthday 07/11/1954

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Single Male
  • Location
    tennessee/north ala.
  • Interests
    programming, movies, playing with people, motorcycles, scuba, flying, chess, reading, camping, dirty jokes, clean jokes, etc.
  • Occupation
    job?
  • Swinging Experience
    years

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  • SLS Name
    BeardedOne7
  • Favorite Club(s)
    familyoffriends
  1. My thoughts are that some women (mostly who've let themselves go) have vaginal muscles that are practically nonexistent. That creates zero friction for the guy and while we can get her there, it's just not wonderful for us. A couple times there have been women who were so tight it was just painful. Both types, in my limited experience, had all the body signs that they were truly aroused. However, the vast majority have been wonderful.
  2. Also, if the jealousy does NOT go away, with more exposure, it probably won't and the lifestyle is not for you. That's not a bad thing and it's not a good thing. It's just YOUR thing.
  3. I can relate to the expense and effort, though! 'Tis a lot of money and sometimes we do not get our "money's worth," whether a single or couple. But that is not the location's fault. Sometimes the magic happens and sometimes it doesn't. You pays your money and you takes your chances. We know what we'd like to have happen but it isn't always so. That's life. I had a dry streak once, 3 different parties, about $150 per, with zero success. Point is, it's not about he money or the driving, but they do factor in. Such is life. No, we don't expect "return on investment," but it's always more fun when it happens!!!!! Don't get me wrong here; i don't wish anyone to change their behavior because of my expenditures. Sometimes, I just like to gripe in public! And this topic is germane.
  4. OP, I get the impression you haven't quite bought into the lifestyle yet, as much as you want to. You received good advice to enjoy only each other but in the same room with others for a few times until you get more comfortable. And they're right, a guy can tell when you're not ready for him and that does causes us to not get or maintain an erection. Take it slower until you are ready -- and if you never are ready, that's ok too. Don't push faster than your emotions, else there will be bigger problems down the road.
  5. Davdia, were you possibly in the "whiskey dick" zone (too much booze to get it up?) And sometimes we just aren't in the mood. Either way, it was your first time, so a little jealousy is normal. I don't know if it was sexual jealousy or the "I didn't have much fun and you did" jealousy, or a combination of both. If it was a small thing to you, you might chalk it up to first time jitters. If it was indeed a big thing for you, you and she should have a heart-to-heart that this swinging stuff is not for y'all. There is no shame in either case. It is what it is. I suggest you don't force yourself in either direction, but listen to your real emotions and respond responsibly, else sex can drive a HUGE wedge between you and your loved one. By all means, talk it over with your wife but don't include the other couple as this is just between the two of you. If you don't want to swing and she does (or vice versa) it's usually best to go with the most conservative desire -- far fewer problems down the road.
  6. Agreed that was rude on her part. However, some people get caught up in the moment and don't notice the other people around them. I just bet if you'd started playing with her at the same time, that would have been just fine. When emotions are high, we tend to get a little careless.
  7. There are some single (yes, even men!) who value all kinds of fun and conversation. Sometimes, you and your wife just want to be animals. That is fine. Sometimes you'd rather take the subtle approach -- and that is perfectly fine, too. People are adaptable. Seems to me that the ones who send those dick/pussy pics have the conclusion that that is what is expected of them. There are those of us that don't do that, as well. How to attract the one you want for the mood you're in? That's the art of people-pleasing and your judgement of what you guys and they want at the moment. Sometimes it's hard and sometimes y'all just click! Enjoy and be safe.
  8. Oh, I understand, "no" and it's not normally a problem. I've had more yes'es than no's but that was years and pounds ago. Mostly, I just don't want to come off as pushy or anything equally repulsive. Of course, some women LIKE pushy... :) Just getting back into the lifestyle after a 23 year hiaus (marriage where she did not want to swing.)
  9. No apologies necessary! It's just important that none of us lose sight that we are all consenting and we all are on equal footing, in this respect. Now, who is better than whom at BJ's is a whole 'nother topic! Hahahaahaha. Enjoy your sojourn.
  10. Intuition, I like your empowerment speech for your girl. However, also be sure to tell her that SHE has to have the same considerations for her partners, too. It can never work if it is just one way.
  11. Ok, long and short of it - 61 year old, single male, overweight (of course), and I'd like to know how many of you are turned *off* sexually because of those three facts? I've been to several parties over the last couple of years, and everyone has been friendly, and I rarely get turned down for a dance or two, but I've not been invited to anyone's room for fun lately. Fearing the 'single male' stereotype, I have resisted inviting a couple or more into my room because I don't wish to seem pushy or as too aggressive. That is possibly all in my head, I admit. I'm not ugly, according to most (polite) women. So, I hope that isn't a factor. I try not to be rude, obnoxious, or cavalier. People will cut up and we all have some laughs but that is usually as far as it goes. I'm not sure if I'm sending the wrong signals or even sending any at all! Dazed and confused. Thanks for your honesty.
  12. I hate condoms. They are a necessary evil if pregnancy or STDs are a concern, though. Still clean, after all these years.
  13. Because as a young male, the driver was sex, of course, and some loneliness to be truthful. Then, after it dawned me these are real people (2nd time playing!), it got even more fun!!!
  14. All kinds of sex has occurred since man was invented. We just go through times when no one talks about it in public, to times with it is flaunted in public. Pick your era... "Victorianism" inhibited the openness of it in the Anglo-Saxon culture for far too long. I prefer everything in it's own time and place, regardless of cultural mores of the moment.
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