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arami

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About arami

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    M.Male
  • Location
    Nantucket, Ma
  • Interests
    Mostly outdoors in nature.
  • Occupation
    semi=retied
  • Swinging Experience
    New to this lifestyle

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    arami

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  1. Thank you all for taking the time to share your insights and suggestions..very helpful to me and I am going to encourage the couple to join this board and read your comments..again, thank you.
  2. I am (male) going to have the opportunity for my first 3 some (MFM) and feel nervous wanting it to go well. Not specifically sure about do's and dont's wanting to be respectful to all. Especially not sure how to get started....don't want to look clueless (frail ego). We have emailed etc about interests. Will meet for drink first to be sure all are comfortable. This is a first for the couple as well. Appreciate suggestions/thoughts.
  3. I am new here, married 35 yrs, my wife simply is not very interested in sex or me being with anyone else...so I can certainly identify with this situation from the married mans perspective. I feel like a very important part of my life experience is dying each day that yearns to be alive, nutured, and enjoyed. Acceptance is the problem as I see it. I have to realize that things aren't broken or unsatisfactory from my wife's viewpoint. She doesn't feel sexual activity is that important to her at this point. She is happy the way things are sexually in our marriage and knows it is different for me. In my mind it has a lot to do with whose view you look at things. My experience is that we change as people over time both physically, intellectually,and emotionally as we walk down the path of life. Some things are what they are and you have to look at the big picture. It is my belief that they are folks who are not as fortunate in being mutually compatible sexually throughout their marriage. It doesn't make them or their marriage bad or necessarily needing to be fixed. It is what it is, and that can be very good. Personally, I am enjoy being married to my wife, we have accomplished a lot together, like to laugh, and share some important common ground. If I accept my wife for who she is today and where she is now as it relates to her needs for sexual intimacy/play, them I am left with some choices: 1. Accept the situation as is and forget about my needs and desires around sexual play. 2. Find a soulmate in similar circumstances or couple where we may find a fit of mutual needs and interests. I subscribe to the "TINSTAAFL THEORY" that says: There Is No Such Thing As A Free Lunch. It boils down to choices that all have consequences less than the ideal. Many in earlier posts have put labels on these choices so there is no need for me to duplicate that effort. I can only say they are not always easy ones to make...who is to judge what's best?
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