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2inVT last won the day on July 15 2008

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  1. Size is not as important as attitude, and being comfortable with yourself. Sure, some folks aren't going to want to swing with you - for any number of reasons, not always your size. Other folks will want to swing with you. That's true of everyone, regardless of age, size, hair color, etc. When you do start swinging, try not to take the "no, thanks" responses personally. After all, YOU aren't going to want to swing with everyone you see. You're going to say no, and you're going to be told no - and that's ok. You just move on, no harm, no foul. I think you and your wife will be pleasantly surprised at the number of swingers who will make you feel comfortable, and who will be interested in both of you.
  2. What a very interesting comment. I like the way you said that.
  3. LOL, I've always liked older men - and since I keep getting older myself, well...
  4. I don't get it. Are you charging people to fuck your wife? I don't think that's legal, really.
  5. We're kinda lazy and don't like to drive far to meet people - so we would rather play close to home.
  6. What Pepper said, above, is exactly right. Another point, though - Neither Mr2 or I want to BE the one taken for the team. We don't want to fuck people who are not interested in fucking us. So, from the other couple's point of view, you might want to think of that. It's pretty insulting to them.
  7. I have only seen "F" used, not "W", as an abbreviation for women. Mostly, I think, because when you see "W," it stands for "white." (That never made sense to me, either - I would expect someone could tell your race from your pic, and if they COULDN'T tell, did it really matter? I have the impression that describing themself or who they're looking for by race means that the person/couple places a way higher emphasis on race than we are comfortable with. But I digress.) I have seen m4w and similar abbreviations on Craigslist, but I wouldn't consider that a swingers site. What I've mostly seen there is men showing their dicks with the intention of enticing some woman into giving them a BJ. (And wtf is up with THAT? Do they really think that the mere sight of their dick is going to make women line up to suck it? And what exactly are the women supposed to be getting out of this, except for the honor of being allowed to suck the mighty joy stick? Good grief. Sorry, I digress again.) In a picky and technical world, the order of the initials does make a difference in describing who plays with whom - mfm = 2 straight males, one female; mmf = 2 bi-males, one female; etc. - but not everyone gets that nuance. So, like all things in swinging, you still gotta discuss with prospective partners rather than simply assume that they know, when you suggest an mfm, that no male play is going to happen.
  8. "I'm not saying that the fault lies only with the OP's hubby, just that if they were not all playing in the same room/area; the OP couple and the SF were off in another room for hours while the other 4 people were wondering why on earth playtime was taking so long...and they weren't near enough to see the storm clouds gathering...then perhaps that is why the hostess's reaction to lana came as such a bolt out of the blue. Or perhaps the other 2 couples there were also interested in bill and lana? Still too many details left unknown. ' But see, unless you've made plans with people (key word being WITH people) it's not up to you how long other people's playtimes are going to last. You don't get to tell people how long their playtimes should be, or who they should play with. It's quite possible the single girl had no interest in anyone but the guy she played with. And if she didn't want to spend that much time with him, then it was HER responsibility to put an end to it.
  9. Absolutely. Single women, like any other swingers, get to choose to play or not play when asked. Single women are NOT expected to make themselves available to everyone at a party. If she didn't want to keep playing with that one guy, she would not have done so.
  10. In those cases, I think the one who is targeted is just as much at fault as the one doing the targeting. If you're having sex with someone and another person cuts in and takes over, it's YOUR responsibility to say, "Hey, not without asking" or ask your current partner "Ok if so-and-so joins us?" No does mean no. The recipient has to say no to those pushy people. I think it's extremely rude to join a couple with the goal of replacing one of them. If you join in with two people having sex, then you need to be either playing with both of them or, in the case of the straight folks, collaborating on playing. If you don't want to play with both or collaborate, then don't join in. Wait your turn. And NEVER join without asking and getting a yes from both people. As for the OP, I don't know that I'd have offered the hostess to finish off my hubby - that's his call, not mine, and I think I'd be a bit offended if someone made that offer in that way to me. I think she was wrong to make the comments about your hubby, though.
  11. Wow. This is NOT the norm for house parties. Certainly you could be invited if the hosts are not interested in playing with you, but it's pretty rude of them to make an issue out of it like that. That said, there are a couple different versions of house parties, and from what you posted, I can't tell which way this one went. There are house parties where many people are invited, and those who want to get together do so, sort of privately or with an audience. This is the sort that you might be invited to by hosts who don't want to play with you. Then, there are house parties where only a few couples are invited and it's sort of planned to be more of a group puppy pile style of playing. That is, the party is for the purpose of having that howevermany-some playtime. Which was most like your party? In the second type, the group deal, the hosts just would not invite people they don't want to have sex with. I'd have left that way, too, I think. The other thing is, why did this woman tell YOU about her issue with your husband? To begin with, why is she not telling HIM, if it's something he can fix? For instance, if he doesn't touch her the way she wants, she needs to tell HIM. And if it's something he can't fix (like, he reminds her of her uncle, or that she simply finds him unattractive) then a simple "no thank you" to play requests is all that she needs to say. Criticizing your husband to you is a really stupid move.
  12. Oh, almost forgot. There was a Nip/Tuck episode where some of the characters went to a swingers' club.
  13. An episode of 2 and a Half Men where Charlie and Alan's mother admits to swinging in the 60s - which is why she and her old gf don't want Charlie to sleep with the friend's daughter, since they might be half-siblings. Also, there was an episode of Dharma and Greg where Greg's parents mistakenly think that the "swap meet" that Dharma's parents invite them to is for wife swapping.
  14. I wouldn't tell them. Unless you're in the habit of sharing the details of your sex life with them. I know it's all really exciting, but for one thing, your wife may have strong feelings about not telling your friends. There's no reason this would slip out at a social gathering. If the new swinger friends can't be discreet, then don't include them. Any time we've had a mixed gathering, it's been fine - our swinger friends know enough to be discreet. As far as lying about how you met, just keep it basic. Met them at a club/the gym/mutual friends/kids event/stamp club/dance, whatever seems most likely. It's funny - the only ones who've ever asked us, "How do you know so-and-so?" are people we only see every 10 years or so. But, we also have some activities that are great reasons to know people - dance classes, etc.
  15. We give and accept certs because in our opinion, it simply says, Yes, we met these people, their description of themselves is reasonably accurate, and they are indeed who they say they are. No more, no less. Not all our certs, given or received, are from people we've had sex with. And we've had sex with people who have not certed us. For us, it's just part of the profile. Some people have certs, some don't. We tend to be a bit more skeptical of people who are unknown to us (it's a small swingers community here) who do not have certs - we're less certain they're actually going to show up, for instance. We'd still meet them - we'd just be sure to have a backup plan for what to do that night if they stood us up.
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