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  1. My husband and I've tried the "Reality" female condom just precisely for the reasons that you've all talked about concerning size, etc. It is like a great big polyurethane (the same material they make Avanti non-latex condoms out of) bag with a soft plastic ring about 1 1/3" across attached to the closed end and a large soft plastic ring about 2" across attached to the open end. Anytime up to 8 hours befor having intercourse, you insert the smaller ring deep inside your vagina and push as much of the polyurethane tube up inside, leaving the outer end of the tube and the outer ring outside, basically ringing your pubic area. It certainly doesn't look very sexy and since the polyurethane doesn't stretch and is therefore designed to accommodate an erect penis, there's quite a it of the polyurethane tube that tends to hang out of your vagina. And did you know that polyurethane "crinkles" when it moves??? A little disconcerting!! If you want to have oral sex with the Reality condom inserted, the man either has to give you oral over top of the tubular shield (which actually would be not a bad thing if you wanted "protected" cunnilingus), or has to push the outer ring to the side (without pulling out the inner ring) so he can access your clit and labia directly with his tongue or fingers. Penetration is quite easy, but extra lubrication (which the package provides a little pouch of) helps to keep things nice and slippery so the thrusting doesn't threaten to pull the whole Reality condom inside with his penis, defeating the "area surrounding the penis and the vulva protection" issue which is a large part of the PURPOSE of the Reality condom. My husband is a snug fit inside me, and even with lubrication, it felt like he might pull the condom completely inside with him, so I spent most of the time holding onto the outer ring with my fingers to make sure that didn't happen (not a completely unpleasant thing to have to do as he loves me playing with the bottom of his shaft while he's fucking me, but not something you want to HAVE to do). The one really good thing is that it's nice and loose on the man, and my husband, who hates condoms cuz they're so tight (we now make sure he has large condoms and he's much happier), said the Reality condom didn't reduce his feeling at all, in fact it made him slide in and out EASIER, which he liked :-). The only thing that disturbed him was that rustle-rustle thing. Tonight we're going to try the Reality condom again (it's fun to experiment, if nothing else!!), but this time, I've put it in and have actually pushed the outer ring into my vagina as well (by twisting and squishing it much like those fold-up car windshield sunshades) so he can go down on me without him even being able to tell it's in (except I'll ask him not to put any fingers in me when he's going down on me. I hope, when we're ready for him to penetrate me, that I can fish around with my finger and pull out the outer ring, letting it flop open against my vulva as it's designed to. If anyone's interested in the result of this experiment, let me know & I'll give a follow-up report. I think the biggest problem with the Reality condom is its cost. In Canada, a package of three costs around $12 to $15 and like condoms, they are designed to only be used once, although given how they fit loosely in the vagina, the man CAN withdraw, leaving the Reality condom in the woman's vagina, play in other ways (say her giving him oral sex for a while) and then, with some extra lubrication, penetrate her again. The biggest advantages of the Reality condom are that it fits all men, that it's non-latex so there's no allergy issue or latex smell, and that it does provide more thorough coverage againtst STD's because it separates the whole vulval area from the man's penis AND base, not just the vagina from the shaft/head of the penis.
  2. On the outside, upper quadrant of the Gluteus Maximus. MrsOC
  3. Nope - I'm not at all interested in other women - I love men!! MrsOttawaCuple
  4. MulderNScully, I would assume Paramour2_99 is responding to MC_alter's post as they were the ones who said they had HSV & HPV ( :rollseyes this is what happens when people don't specify which post they are responding to) MC_alter, what do you mean by "soft-swing"? There are many definitions, but The Swingers Board dictionary defines it as "The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse." Not including intercourse CAN mean all forms of oral sex, and oral sex can be VERY risky when you're talking about herpes. MC_alter, there is no such thing as a "strictly genital variety" Go to herpes.org for verification of this fact. Yes, it is possible to transmit "genital herpes" of either strain to the mouth although it is more rare than transferring the other way around. This information is also found on the herpes.org website). Paramour2_99, although some people would not call them swingers, there are MANY couples who are members of swingers clubs who simply enjoy watching and being watched and have no intention of every ever having oral or genital contact with anyone but their own partner. My husband and I fall into that category - we call ourselves voyeur/exhibitionist swingers. As the website for one of our local swingers clubs says, "Many couples who have joined are just looking for a little extra excitement to spice up their own monogamous relationship while others are active in a swinging lifestyle. Some couples are exhibitionists, others are voyeurs, some are into fetish wear. Yet they all share one thing in common. They are all open minded, fun loving, courteous and tolerant of everyone." Based on some the statistics I've seen, here's something to think about: If 80% of the 1 in 4 adult Americans who have genital herpes are unaware they have it (that adds up to 20% of all adult Americans, BTW!!!!), what percentage of swingers do you think have genital herpes but are unaware they have it??
  5. HSV is NOT HPV. This thread was originally about herpes (HSV), but someone started talking about HPV and now the two acronyms are being thrown around as if they are the same thing. HSV is Herpes Simplex Virus, AKA herpes, cold sores (when on the mouth) or genital herpes (when on the genitals). HPV is Human Papillomavirus, AKA genital warts. For good, accurate, complete and current information on these two related but very different infections, go to the herpes.org website.
  6. This is a quote from the U.S. Food & Drug Association website: "There are currently two FDA-cleared blood tests that accurately determine if a person is infected with HSV-1 or HSV-2, the HerpeSelect ELISA Kits and the HerpeSelect Immunoblot Kit made Genital Herpes: A Hidden Epidemicby Focus Technologies of Herndon, Va." Another quote from the site is: "... most people with genital herpes don't know they have it, and are unaware they may be spreading it to others, says Warren. Many have no symptoms or mistake their symptoms for something else, such as jock itch, insect bites, hemorrhoids, yeast infections, razor burn, or allergies to laundry detergent."
  7. Thanks for a great thread!! So far I've noted down 7 videos to look for Our cable company (Rogers) has a movie channel that you get when you order The Movie Network that puts on 2 Adult Films every night after midnight. They're pretty good quality, have Romance-Novel-Gone-Wild plots, and most show LOTS of him going down on her, which really turns my crank. We're usually not up at that time, but we record them for viewing another time. Watching porn can be a great way to let your partner know what sends you wild. All you have to do is mumble "Oh, I LIKE that!!" when you see something particularly appealing going on, and with any luck, he'll try it out on you right then and there MrsOC
  8. That reminds me of my husband and I - we have an agreement - I'll stop getting mad at him when he stops being an asshole To answer the thread topic: My husband and I met on an on-line presonals site - Lavalife - TWICE. The first time, we chatted on-line a bit and then met for an after-work drink. It happened to be the evening before I met another man for the first time as well. I liked both of them, but the other man called me back the next day to set up another date ... my husband didn't call for a week, by which time I was already seeing the other man. Fast forward 6 months, by which point the relationship with the other man had petered out .... I went back on-line to keep searching for my Mr. Right and my husband was still there. He saw my profile and emailed me. We chatted agin for a bit and then met again at the same pub for a drink. This time the drink turned into dinner then after-dinner drinks and he called me the next day to set up another date. He wasn't going to lose me again!!!! That was 2 1/2 years ago. We moved in together 1 1/2 years ago and got married 2 months ago And ya, sometimes he's an asshole and sometimes I get mad at him, but we always make up and we love each other despite (and sometimes because of) our differences. MrsOC
  9. I agree with Mrs LOL that a single woman approaching a couple would likely be more welcome than a single man, by virtue of the fact that a single woman would likely be interested in playing with both halves of a couple whereas the single man would likely just want to play with the female half. (Likely, being the key word here, as there are some couples who like MFM play as well, though I don't think there are as many as those who like FFM/FMF play) Perhaps, when you're interested in joining a couple to share the pleasuring of the female half, if your wife could arrange to be already occupied in a FFM threesome with another couple (which I'd think she'd have no problem setting up), then you could approach another couple for a threesome without them feeling like your wife is dissing the male half by sitting it out. MrsOC
  10. Spoomonkey, you raised a very valid point there & I should clarify my previous post where I said Before I met my hubby, when I was looking for a partner on the on-line personals sites (which, BTW, is where I met my hubby :-)) I realized that 1) I generally (although there are always exceptions :-) like younger men cuz they more often match my "semblant age", and 2) men often limit their search to younger or same-age women, thinking that they'll be sexier, better lovers, etc than older ones (again, a generalization, right?). I figured, rightly, that if I put my real age down, they'd never even see me on their search lists because they'd be searching for younger women. So here's what I did ... slightly devious, but ultimately honest ... I posted my age as "xx" (4 years younger than my chronological age) ... and THEN, because I didn't want to be accused of out & out lying, down at the BOTTOM of my profile description (because everyone should read your whole profile before contacting you, right??), I put "xx is my SEMBLANT age. My birth certificate says I was born in May, 1951" (which when they'd calculated it, would have told them how old I really was). My ruse had the desired effect .... I was included in their search lists, yet I didn't actually lie about my age because I indirectly 'fessed up in the profile itself. I never had anyone tell me they were offended by my deviousness and I had quite a few admit to me that if I hadn't done that, they would have never even seen my profile. So do I recommend people lie about their age?? Not at all ... but do I recognize that rightly or wrongly, some people (myself included, though I try not to) are going to prejudge you based on your age?? Most certainly. And I don't think there's anything wrong with a clever twist that shows them that they shouldn't judge a book by its cover (or a person by their age) MrsOttawaCuple
  11. Even though everyone says "you look 10 to 15 years younger than your age" and that "you have a body that many 35 year olds would die for", I've always given my real age on on-line personals sites. I'm PROUD of being 55!! In a way, 55 is the new 45. MrsOttawaCuple
  12. This is what happens when people read the first few posts and then skip to the last page. This thread was started 12-28-04 by Mogambo from Australia. It died out 12-30-04. On 05-17-06, bigman99 from Halifax posted a posting about his wife & gangbanging & it's been active since then, primarily talking about bigman99's gangbang issues, with Mogambo replying every-so-often. It IS a very confusing thread .... who's gangbang are we talking about, and could we possibly just stick to one man's gangbang issues at a time???!!!
  13. I don't think you should feel the least bit "responsible" for what happened to you. The person who slipped the drug in your drink should, and if it's at all possible without risking "outing" your swinging, I think you owe it to future victims to find out WHO is responsible and do whatever you can to protect others from having the same thing happen to them. My heartfelt sympathies to you both. MrsOttawaCuple
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