simplynina

funny you should say all that. i am so seriously thinking of divorce. i don't even know why i was even trying to make it work. and he still isn't talking to her, i checked his phone bill, but i actually met someone else and he and i have been talking for about 2 weeks now and he has already made me feel more special than my husband ever has. i know i should get a divorce before i start meeting other people. but, i am a little afraid of my husband and i don't know how to tell him. but it feels a little good too, to do to him what he done to me. and the new guy knows that i'm married, so i am not lying to him.

just to update everyone my husband called me today and said it was over with her!!! She called him up and he told her to lose his phone number, that it was causing too much problems with me and that it just wasn't worth it. I am so happy. He was home this past weekend and I was down and just really didn't talk much. He said he would show me his phone bill at the end of the month, just so i could see there would be no more phone calls, texts, or pics from her or to her. No more secrets. A big sigh of relief. i am on cloud nine. thanks to all who have listened to me and cared enough to reply. thank you

everything everyone is saying i know already to be true. i just didn't want to face up to it. This scares the shit out of me and i feel like it is all my fault, because we started the swinging thing and i asked him to look for other women. but for us, never for him alone. we made that clear. i thought. i brought this subject up again last night. and he got really pissed off, saying he knows he made a stupid mistake, and why can't i just let sleeping dogs lie. that i keep throwing it up in his face like rubbing a dog's nose in doo. but, i can't help to think that i wouldn't bring it up if he would just quit talking to her. i don't know? i love him and he says he loves me and it would kill him if he ever would lose me, but i can't help to just keep thinking about it over and over and over head bang .........................thank you to everyone for listening

it is so nice just to get this stuff off of my chest. because you can't just tell anyone because of the sls tie-in. i will update as i know things.. ps...should i call her?

he gets mad at me if i even bring her up. i have tried. he says there is nothing there between him and her and that i am his life. so, i shouldn't have any problem. he just gets mad at me for not trusting him

Me and my husband are pretty new to SLS. However, I have always wanted to get intimate with another female. Bi-curious I guess you would say. My husband has always wanted to see me with another woman, and I get off by watching him fuck other women. So, we did it a couple of times and it was wonderful...it brought us so much closer together. Like, after we would have sex with the other female, we would have sex alone and it was phenomenal!!! And since we started, we have been constantly looking for another woman/women. About 2 months ago, another female and I took pics of ourselves while we were alone (my husband is a truck driver) and I was going to send them to him. He has always said if I and another woman want to get intimate it is ok, just send pics or call and let him know. So, I sent the pics, then I started feeling dirty/weird about him not being there. So, I went on-line to his phone service to delete the photos before he got them. While I was deleting the pics (I can see all pics and text messages we send or receive with our phones on-line), I found several pics of this girl. No nudie pics. A couple of just her, one with a friend, and a couple of her and her little son. I didn't know this girl and it freaked me out at first. So I saw a text from her saying how happy she was, and then one from him to her on how happy he was that he had met her. I wrote down her phone # and called info to see where the number was from. Portland, Oregon. Where my husband had been running a lot in the truck. I was scared shitless! I didn't know what to do. He called me on the phone, so I just asked him who she was? He told me her name and told me she was a lesbian and someone he had met on a dating service for him and I, that it was nothing sexual. I asked why he didn't tell me? All he could say was I don't know. He said he wouldn't talk to her anymore if that was what I wanted. A couple of weeks went by and on father's day while we were out eating with our children she texted him to tell him Happy Father's Day! I got mad and checked on-line again to see if he has been calling and texting her still, and I found pics of him masturbating that he had sent to her! And she had sent him pics of her tits (with a bra on). First of all, if she was a lesbian would this really turn her on? So, I confronted him again and he said that he never had called it off with her. I told him he had to right then in front of me. We fought and fought. He felt I had betrayed his trust by snooping around. But I totally trusted him before I found the first photos by accident. He said he didn't know if we should try to work things out or not. So he left in his truck and said we shouldn't talk for at least 2 weeks to cool down. We eventually talked and I told him that I didn't care if he talked to someone on the phone (text and stuff) but there has to be absolutely no sexual stuff unless I am around or know about it. So basically, i don't care if he talks to her, but just as a friend. He keeps saying he has never met her face to face, there are no feelings for her, but, I don't know if I can believe him now. One night while we were out together, he sent her a pic of a superman symbol behind my back, and from then on, her texts read from superman's girlfriend. I can't stand this. He says I should believe him and trust him. But, I know how some women can be, trying to latch on to something. She knows he is married and I once asked him what she thought of me and he said, "she says well, don't she have any guy friends she talks too?" I don't like her judging me at all. I do have guy friends I talk to, but I do not send them pics of me masturbating. I don't know what to do. Now, we are at a point where on the outside we look happy and in love. But, he is still texting her. He turns his phone off anytime he is home. I know he is happy. But, I don't like feeling like there is another girl. I hate her. What do I do?