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SnsualPrsuasion

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About SnsualPrsuasion

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  • Birthday 09/25/1973

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Ohio
  • Interests
    Karaoke, horror flicks (watching & making...we do short films like Tales From The Crypt type stuff, it's cool! Reading.. etc...
  • Occupation
    Crash Test Dummies
  • Swinging Experience
    Appx. 4 years or so.

Swinger Info

  • Favorite Club(s)
    Never been to one!
  1. I was using BBW in my ad as a sort of generic term, just to let people know that I'm a big gal. Though I do think I'm boootiful, or well, at least cute! I have rethought this though & think I'm going to change mine to BBBBBW Big Bootied Big Breasted Beautiful Woman and damn the consequences!
  2. Sounds like we should start a support group! Hi, I'm Dee & I'm a swinger too!
  3. My guess would probably be this: They want people that are professional because they want to make sure that whomever they hook up with is on the same financial level, that way when they want to pick up and go out to a club, house party, trip to Atlantic City or the sweet B&B down the street, they KNOW the other couple will have the funds. We state on our own ad that we've got kids, & we have to plan almost everything ahead of time so that there are no strains on our limited budget. Anyone else think that's what it means?
  4. LMAO I Have to add one to that list that I just saw on SLS. It's SCHLONGO lmaooooooo
  5. Humor is at the top of my criteria. Well, not just humor, but wit! Once again, LMAO I have one thing to add here: SLS is our primary means of meeting people in the lifestyle, and I know on there that single guys that are free members cannot initiate contact, only receive it & can continue the mail from there. We are wanting to look for a single male at this time, but haven't made contact with anyone due to a few things. You guys should specify what type of people you are looking to interact with. (I'm a BBW & obviously I want someone that would love my Rubenesque physique) I am not about to contact a man whose profile just says "looking for fun with fun couples". That's not specific enough for me to be comfortable enough to write. We've had one MFM (our first experience in swinging) and the guy I ended up talking to was the one that kept me intrigued. It wasn't erotic chat, it was humorous, down to earth, witty and genuine. It wasn't 'wut u into' 'wunt to webcam' 'i have a huge schlo** and i cn rok ur world'. (That was an actual conversation I had just the other day) And if that's how you're spelling on your ad, I wouldn't talk to you. I want someone to stimulate my mind as well as my body. But that's just me.
  6. Yeah, well, I guess I just woke up this morning thinking I was the poster child for fat chicks everywhere! I re-read this thread tonight, and realized I was bitching at NOTHING. Well, almost nothing. I mis-read/mis-interpreted a few things & jumped right up on my soapbox without further thought. For one De & Ci were quoting an article on a local club & it was the article that referred to the overweight crowd as skanks. Later on however, That was the one that got me. Left me wondering if obese=skanky? But I DID realize that the point was, why would anyone patronize a club where the majority of people weren't their type. I GET IT! REVELATION! I'm sorry that I jumped the gun, because though you'd not return to a club with obese people in it, it wasn't because everyone was overweight, it was because ALL OF THEM WERE NOT YOUR TYPE. Duh! I wouldn't go either if every single person in there wasn't my type. What's the point then? Not only was I using my own insecurities about attending a club to take comments out of context, y'all were saying that you LIKED the mix, LIKED the diversity, and weren't downing overweight people. Well, ya know, sometimes when I'm up there on my soapbox I gotta get knocked down with a ball bat, cuz I'm just too damned stubborn. Wow, nothing like making an ass of yourself the first few days in the forums, huh? Oh well, it was bound to happen. That's part of bein' me.... now, anyone up for an argument about religion or politics? Seems I'm on a roll!!!!!!!
  7. It's not that I'm not all about personal preference, like I mentioned earlier, we have our own! If someone doesn't like the way I look, it's ok, and I fully expected to run into this when we first started swinging. There are people that love BBW's & people that don't. It was the whole "I don't want to even be in the same ROOM & have to look at fat people" mentality. I was seriously going to inquire about how BBW's are received, and I'm not terrified because we have expectations to play & are afraid that nobody would based on our size, (We didn't expect to do anything our first time there beyond observe anyway & I DO know it's harder to find partners that don't mind BBW's) but at the reception I'd receive even as an observer in my ever-so-concealing street clothes. My point was that our worries were confirmed, and we probably won't be attending. There might be a few great people there that wouldn't mind striking up a conversation with us, but if the masses would think us 'skanky' or that we aren't fit to breathe the same air, then why put ourselves through it? Ya know? I kind of just assumed that there would be variety, and that if someone approached us, cool, if not, cool...I didn't realize that people would even stop attending if bigger people started to frequent the clubs. Hey, it's all good. We're still having fun. We have a playdate tomorrow night as a matter of fact & expect to have lots of it! I am not knocking anyone that doesn't like a little cushion on their play-mates. Just irks me that there are those out there who think we're not fit to be in the same room. Ain't like I'd have my huge boobs & jiggly butt up in anyone's face! LOL
  8. Wow, I was going to ask a question about being a BBW attending clubs, but I guess it's all been summed up for me in this thread quite succinctly. I would be absolutely TERRIFIED to attend one now. Though we've met plenty of people through our various ads that don't mind the BBW factor, apparently, there are WAY more people that mind it, and I'd never get through the door. I DO realize 'to each his own'. Not a problem, but it just seems mean to me to hear people say they wouldn't attend because they don't even want to LOOK at an obese person. I keep myself well groomed as well, and wear nice clothes that suit my shape, I never felt myself unattractive simply because the body I inhabit isn't what I'd wish it to be. (I've had four kids, and that's NOT an excuse for being out of shape, laziness is on my part, I admit it) On my part, hubby & I both prefer playing with heavier people, not because we don't appreciate a fit body, but it is actually what we like. We like more to hold onto..etc..our reasons are our own just like everyone else's. I just hate feeling like I'd make someone throw up or run screaming if they saw me walk in the door. Wow, though, I'm SO glad I saw this. (Not being sarcastic, being quite serious) Now I won't ever have to find out what it feels like & I can stick with meeting on my ad so that everyone knows up front what I look like & I don't cause anyone's eyeballs to melt from their sockets and leave a big mess all over the club floor! Phew!!!!
  9. It's not that I don't ejoy myself without kissing, with a previous couple it was a no-no for them, & hell, we were allowed to kiss everywhere else...neck, ears, everything downward. It wasn't uncomfortable, it was just that we had to be concious all evening of not breakin' their rule. The thing is is that we haven't run into this particular situation before; he does, she doesn't. Should I still do it, since I like to, & he does, or keep it out altogether because Mr. Snsual won't be doing it? We've just never had the split thing. It was either no for both or yes for both. [Maybe you just haven't met the right non-kissing girl yet?] I tell ya what the last lap dance I had, I NEVER saw boobs! LOL But it was the most erotic thing I've ever had happen to me. She was so distracting other ways, that I never noticed until she was done & way across the room and I'd parted with a twenty! LOL So maybe you're right. I never would have thought to enjoy a lap dance so much that didn't involve seeing those, yet I did!! ~Mrs. Snsual!~
  10. Long story shortened: With a couple, spent MUCH time together. Movies, dinner, all that, might as well have been dating. After all this time spent together, one evening in bed, she calls her SO by Mr. Snsual's name. (Not during an intimate moment, but on the verge of sleep) The S*** hit the fan (He was totally jealous) , after much talk on my part (I'm a Libra, smoothing things out is in my nature) things were all right. So the guy SAID... He said everything was cool, we'd still get together for regular fun & lifestyle fun. They seemed to have a GREAT sense of humor... for an ice breaker, the next time we go over, I make name tags so we can all keep things straight. HAHA they laughed, it was a joke for like five minutes, we took them off went on with a tv night & it was cool. Next time we get together, I make a joke about his lawn furniture & this guy goes ballistic & starts screaming at me & hubby, telling us that he didn't appreciate our sarcasm, etc... (Mind you, they knew how we were for a month before this bedroom incident! Knew we were always joking & even joked back w/us!) Anyway, they picked this fight outside for their neighborhood to witness, & proceeded to tell us they hadn't appreciated the name tag thing. Ok, some ppl might find it funnier than others, we understand that. But the public humiliation thing was WAY overboard. We think the guy was just too chicken to say he was uncomfortable with the name thing, and that was his excuse for an out instead of being a man about it & discussing it with us. My point.... have any of you had anything happen like this that was totally unexpected? How'd you deal with it? Did it make you want to quit the lifestyle? Thanks!!! Mrs. Snsual
  11. You had it right. We prefer kissing, the male half of this couple does as well, but she only kisses the female. It's not a jealousy issue, it's her personal preference. I have a feeling it's due to the fact that they've had a lot of FMF play, but limited full swap...but still...her choice. I guess my real question is does it come up often, & how do people deal with it, and also is it wrong for me to kiss him when hubby won't be getting the same treatment or should we just keep kissing out altogether. We'll def. be talking to them before getting together & it will be discussed....just wanted the feedback. Thanks! ~Mrs. Snsual~
  12. We have a fun night coming up soon & my deal is this: We have no kissing boundaries, for both of us it is part of the turn on of the whole swinging thing. We feel like it is more erotic, and actually feel kind of funny if there's no kissing involved w/the other couple. (Doesn't mean we're knocking it, it's just not our preference) Our cpl interest is something we haven't run into before, he likes to kiss, she doesn't (FF is okay, but she doesn't kiss the other male) I realize ppl have boundaries, however, considering we don't have any on that issue, should I not kiss him just because she'd prefer not kissing my hubby? (I plan on talking to DH about it, just would like general feedback from y'all...) I don't NEED the kissing to feel the pleasure, but it's a definite PLUS to the whole experience. Or should I just keep that out of it so hubby doesn't feel left out? (He did say, teasingly, that if he doesn't get to kiss, then neither do I, hence we're going to be talking about it for sure before it happens....but have any of you run into this?)
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