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Good god, this is complicated- the poly thing that is, seriously.

Strange for being in a semi-poly where the second female stays about 3 nights per week, compared to folks like intuition who are committed swingers... You're 72% Poly 76% tolerant of the poly lifestyle (But... you're 24% just in it for the sex =)) Ooooooohhhh Aaaaaaaaahhhhhh You're poly. You're tolerant of poly lifestyle. (Good for you you like yourself!) You're not just here for the sex. And you won't lie to your mate. I *Like* YOU. LOL, -seriously

I see everyone wants to go on about your lack of communication... To my mind, if you have been in the life style for 9 years then I bet you guys know a thing or two about communicating. My spouse and I have been ver-r-r-ry clear with each other on this issue. A lie of any sort about an issue like this is dangerously close to cheating. This is one of the dangers in the lifestyle: playing with someone without the other's consent even though you might have done it last Tuesday with consent is cheating in my opinion. If you want to keep this together tell her you don't want anyone else for the time being and think you both should just work on your primary relationship, i.e. stay way from others. See if she is willing to work to keep it together. Good luck, I sincerely hope it works out -Seriously

R, don't worry you're NOT gay. For that matter, neither am I! That being said.... jennjenn, I like your fantasies. Our first experience with mfm, with her as the center of attention, has left me far less threatened by another erect cock in the room. While we didn't do a dp, I did finger her ass while he was inside her which of course led to some incedental contact through that thin membrane between. And admittedly I angled my finger so as to maximize his pleasure and of course hers..though I'm NOT gay.. I found that it was pretty cool to give them both this pleasure. Since that experience I have become a bit more curious ...For instance, my wife tells me that women give better head to other women since they know the equipment so well. By the way Tempest, maybe we should arrange for a friendly competition one night, LOL. If this is true then I think I'd be interested in recieving some oral from a guy, preferably one who's done it before. -seriously....btw I'm not gay

For the sake of closure: Suffice it to say that Tempest's gf came over and we all three had a very erotic night earlier this week. And as you might expect I feel much less threatened by this changing relationship now. This of course leads us well into very uncharted territory ...undoubtedly there will be a few monsters but I think it will be a whole lot of fun exploring.

curiousagain & hotblond 47 Turns out that Tempest was right. It is not an exclusive relationship after all. Looks like gf will be staying late tonight, wish us luck. -seriously

Joplin, I agree with StacyCat. Slow things down a bit. Try just going on a getting-to-know-you date with the couple before you go any further and slowly graduate to a full swap. Or you might try finding a single male, if your man will go for it, and make it a night thats just for you or at least mostly . That way you get tons of attention and if your new friend can't perform your husband is there to make sure you have fun. While I'm still somewhat new to the "lifestyle", I suspect these feelings (he had fun, now where's mine?) are quite common. Try to bear in mind that things are not always exactly 50-50 in terms of who gets what on a particular night.

Well, I should say that my wife had a short physical relationship with her now best friend like 6 years ago, with my full knowledge and approval. Actually they met off a local "singles" line under bi-curious, long story. So in some ways it is not such a huge jump to pick up where they left off. R, before taking the plunge we talked about it for a year. Though I've got a lot mixed/complicated feelings about this particular scenario, excited and worried about opening the door to a relationship that is more than sex.

My wife and I are relatively new to this lifestyle. We took our first plunge only about a month ago when we finally went to a club. The first night (we went on a Friday and the following Saturday) we hit it off with a guy who was there as a single. The vibe was really good so we invited him home. The two of us worked on my wife well into the wee hours. Unfortunately, while I enjoyed it, I never really got "closure" that night. After a while I started to get tired and gave up on the possibility of an orgasm though they both had a very nice time. On the second night, the Saturday, I thought, "Ok, tonight is my night to really have some fun". That is, my turn to have sex with someone new. yay! Well of course, the vibe was not as good as the previous night, plus we were both a little worn out. So once again, I'm feeling a bit left out in the cold- though admittedly we had some super awesome sex Saturday morning. Now a few weeks later, being the freaks that we apparently are , we are each feeling a bit more open and have been flirting lightly with certain friends and acquaintances. And in the past few days my wife's single, very yummy, best friend has voiced some interest in playing around. Last night she came over and they ended up giving me quite a show (actually she's here now and they're probably playing...I'll catch up in a few minutes). My wife says that she is not ready to have a man directly involved though the friend has given me some positive signs. Me and the best friend have yet to have a really candid conversation about the boundaries. While I respect the best friend's wishes of course, this is leaving me a little frustrated with the situation. There has also been some suggestions that maybe they should just play alone together (which I letting them do at this very moment). Not getting any attention is starting to bug me! Darn it! I want some stranger (novel) sex! Am I crazy? To top it off, my wife has put the breaks on any of my other possibilities that I've been pursuing more on my own, though I've been very open and honest with her about them. So I'm frustrated and beginning to wonder whether this is only about her pleasure and not so much about mine. Any advice?