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SanDiegoM4cpl

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About SanDiegoM4cpl

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 05/09/1977

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    single male
  • Location
    san diego
  • Occupation
    technical communications
  • Swinging Experience
    8 years

Swinger Info

  • Favorite Club(s)
    thads any others allowing guys
  1. Hearing this really upsets me that other guys are do things like that. Now if I had a nickel for every time I attempted contacting a couple, got two a two line reply and then nothing, I would be very rich. I think that it is rude not to answer emails. If Cousin Fester and his bride make contact with me and I am not interested, I do respond with a sorry not interested at this time. I love it when couples do the same for me as well. Hey Im not Antonio Banderas. I think that some of you are dealing with people who dont respect the lifestyle. I think you have met immature people searching for sex. At age 22 a sexy beautiful 57 year old lady told me that swinging wasnt about sex. It was about the friendship. I took that to heart, raked alot of leaves that fall with some guys and found myself in total bliss. CURIOUS-I do think that it is a good choice to choose a certified contact, or life member. I am neither, but do have 10 years meeting couples in the lifestyle. VEGAS LEE I do agree that some guys are here solely for fantasy. They may be married or other but have 45 minutes or an hour to go online and seek some fun at the expense of hurting someone else. Its no wonder that some single guys ruin the fun for the mass of decent guys. I think that by meeting guys in a club you have ruled out the cold feet, but sometimes you do run across those missing the personality trait. I attend a club in San Diego and note some guys with odd and strange personalities. Joaninla- As I mentioned above, like you the alternative avenue for finding mates was very good. I was actually invited to a couples mixer by good friends of a partner. They typcially didnt allow singles but, they asked if I could attend and be the designated driver. In summary, I can only give one reason why guys flake out, and that is because the person sitting at the keyboard may not be the same person in real life. The anonymity of the net allows people to do this. Like NellieSC4 describes there are those great "Garage Sale" finds. Hope this helps. kyle
  2. i would hav eto agree with communication here. hea of teh moments arise and can turn a very great moment into a tornado. everyone just think of this, you are inside a woman unprotected and tell her "sweety im so close to squirting right inside you and you ll feel all my warmth" outcome a: she is happy with the event about to transpire, become overly excited at the thougth of your orgasm inside her, it triggers her orgasm and you ride the waves together. outcome b: she is brought back to reality, asks you politely not o finish inside her and she gives further instruction to joyously end her experince and yours. outcome c you dont mention you are going to come in her, she gets pregnant, she telll all of the couples at the next swingers meet and greet that she had a terrible experince with a guy........need i go on? i think that communication is needed until the point of total trust has been built. and as always you need to respect the choices of others in the lifestyle. no means no. kyle
  3. ideal swing partners. a bit older than me....late 30s early 40s. settle in the realtionship and in love. close. 15 to 20 miles away. they have a house with a garage, he likes to work around the house on the weekend and loves to have me over to help out. i become the friend to them that is beyond the bedroom. we watch movies together at home, goto dinners and enjoy sporting events. when he works late, he calls me to run by the house and check on things. when he is caught at work, she calls me to escort her to the mall to have someone to tlak to. we work on old porsches together (i have an 83 911) and we go to PCA events, go mountain hiking biking and to the beach together. he and i spend tme together and she and i can be alone too. when we are together sexually, its an event that is miraculous. love between them is awesome and im there to spice up sex. oh to dream..... kyle
  4. another single m point of view if you dont mind..... i as a single m would love it. i have been with a few couples that it was just oral or a hand job for me. i had no problems with it. it doesnt need to be discussed up fron because any male that doesnt understand you are in charge does not need to be naked with you, however, it would help being discussed earlier so that he doesnt persist or try to slip it in while youre aroused and not expecting it. rule 1 you are in charge rule 2 there are millions of single guys that are good looking that would love the opurtunity to massage your wife, maybe give her oral or particaipate in any way to make a memorable event possible. rule 3 see rule1 kyle
  5. here is the single male's perspective on it. i have been with many couples, its actually my favorite and its enjoyment within the man seeing his wife let loose and have fun. you are everything to him and i am the one that for a few hours will give you pleasure and butterflies inside your stomach while feeling something new. it could be his desire to see you with a younger guy, a guy more hung, or whatever, but his desire is to see you roll your eyes back in your head, and thoroughly enjoy the moment. for some they prefer the eye contact between them to be constant and some the man just hopes to disappear in the room and watch as you are enjoying the moments. ask him specifically what it is that he likes. does he want to see you kiss the guy? does he want you to scream his name while the other guy is inside you? does he want to slip away unnoticed while you enjoy? this event is yours. you need to seek the person that will abide by your rules and bring satisfaction to you both. talk to your partner about rules, desires, what you would like to happen or not like to happen. most importantly enjoy. enjoy each others love and if it happens enjoy the bliss that a 3rd can add.
  6. eight years. in a couple more years ill have to remove the socks. it started with a former partner of mine and i have continued since. in those years i have been on and off with work and location. location and structure have alot to do with me participating. for me i can be in a location with lots of time and ability to meet people but low and behold, they arent there!! other times im in a great location to meet peopl but my work s hectic or my hours shift or whatever throws my life out of equilibrium. for me sometimes the swing clubs work better for me as a single guy. if im avaialble that night i go, if not i dont. i really like couples, but the last thing i want to do is cancel a meeting with them because my work is crazy or im going out of town or some other thing. i understand what couples have to do to make appointments so when i arrange meetings or persue couples i make sure that the sun moon and stars are lined up. last thing id want is to have them send me a bill for the baby sitter, dinner, motel, parking and valet because it was my fault. most people understand but still i do my best to make sure things are rock solid. kyle
  7. I have one experience and some info I'd love to share with every man here. I guess I was just plain stupid, but once with a partner I had achieved a small orgasm. It was not a large orgasm and I only ejaculated a small amount of sperm, but it was enough that the condom became very slippery on my penis and as she began to dry a bit, it was sticking to her and slipping from me, I need not give physics lessons, but guys if you have any ejaculate or even a lot of pre-ejaculate, it is best to stop activities and replace condom. We both were tested and showed each other the results......pheeeeeeew. She was one I trusted, but I like to be safe. Again, moral of my story, any ejaculate or a lot of pre-ejaculate and you feel the condom slipping on your shaft....time for tire change. you could get loose and take a spill in turn 4 at high speeds.
  8. I like to kiss with both open and closed eyes. I can't really give a reason for either, sometimes when I'm lost in a kiss and my eyes are closed I will actually lose my balance....yeah that's getting lost in a kiss. Sometimes I like to open my eyes while I kiss and touch. It lets me lean things from a partner. I wish I were an octopus and had a few extra limbs. I'm very touchy-feely while kissing. so I need to open my eyes to see if she is receptive to my touch or not. Some people are just too ticklish and I want the moment to last not end so I like to check signs of receptiveness.
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