I've been in the lifestyle now for about 2 years. I have a wonderful partner that I live with and swing with. Here's my question - do you ever get used to seeing your partner with someone else? It is not my favorite part of the deal I have to say. To me, its only fair for me to allow him to be with someone else. I have to be kept busy so to speak in order for him to do this. If I am not, I have trouble with it.