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nwincouple17154

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About nwincouple17154

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 12/15/1970

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Indiana
  • Occupation
    Swing Club Manager
  • Swinging Experience
    12 years

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    weswing4funin
  • Favorite Club(s)
    The Meeting Place
  1. Just a quick note to the couple who doesn't disclose that information to potential play partners. There are some states where there are laws against knowingly passing on a STD. For you or anyone else who is infected with anything and decides to take those risks with other peoples health, you better take a good long look at your states laws and find out besides being jerks, if you can also be arrested for passing along an STD. I know if it was me and I got something from someone who knowingly didn't tell me ahead of time about the extra risk involved in playing with them, I would use the laws in my state in my favor. I won't go into personally what I think of people who wouldn't say anything and just play anyway. To those of you suffering from any STD, especially those brave enough to bring up the discussion here, you have my sympathies. I hope that some day soon they find a cure for Herpies and all STD's and this won't always be an issue for you. What a wonderful lifestyle swinging would be if the only complication we had to worry about was pregnency and the occasional jealous/insecure spouse. Trish
  2. This is a very interesting question. We over the years have heard the negatives associated with the labels: "experienced" , "seasoned" and even "newbies" I'm not sure why we feel a need to label each other but I guess it's a way of talking about our level of experience. For swingers in gerneral maybe we need a color scale or something better to work from to give others our level of experience or our preferences in the lifestyle. Green for instance being new, blue being less than 5 years in the lifestyle, yellow more than 5, etc. Something that hasn't come to mean something bad. For us personally I would have to say we are experienced and seasoned, but we're so much more than what those labels say we are. We are very selective, very secure, we spend a great deal of time talking with and helping new couples find their way. We run a swing club, so the opportunity to socialize with like minded people is always there, but the opportunity to play rarely exists, which is why we are pretty selective in our choices. We don't have the social hang ups or insecurities sometimes associated with "newbies". We also aren't bed jumpers, we are those people who like to make friends first, or at least know something about those we choose to have sex with. So I guess instead of using the terms "seasoned" or " experienced" I will label us Educated Open Minded Secure Swingers. Trish
  3. Our club has no security cameras or recording devices of any kind. We take people's privacy seriously. We do have security staff who walk around inside as well as the parking lot. We also don't allow anyone to bring in any recording device, including camera phones. We do check cell phones too at the door. We have a cell phone parking area in the kitchen, totally away from the guests for people who have kid and work issues and need to bring them in. Trish
  4. My Score was 720 You live and breath kinky!! I never really thought of it as Kinky though, more experimental....oh well what ever term it's been fun. Trish
  5. I have to say I agree here. We've had one of our profiles online now for about 8 years. In that time I think we've met probably 3 couples from that profile that actually worked out in the least bit. That was one of the reasons we and so many of the couples we speak with went in search of a club. Even though we maintain these profiles now for the club we work at, we no longer agree to meet people from them, in fact all of our profiles state if they want to meet us they will have to come to the club to do so. Not because we want more business for the club (that's a bonus if it happens), but because we have come across so many fakes, people who will actually take the time to talk for weeks and then set up a meeting and not even show up. We've had much more luck in clubs, the people are real. We will talk with club members we know on some sites, just because we know them from the club. We also answer all of our e-mails, but we make sure everyone knows upfront, we are for real, we don't play games and if eventually they want to meet they will have to come to the club to do so. The fakes generally disappear after that statement. We also don't share our X pictures anymore, simply because we've found that's what most of the fakes are after, so we do share face shots and tell everyone up front anything else they'd have to see in person. In the past 5 years of talking with people online from our profiles and even some at great length, we have only had 1 couple take us up on the offer to meet at the club, and they've been regular members ever since. In our eyes real lifestylers among a sea of fakes. So online ads don't work for us or many people we have spoken with. I think that's eventually why so many end up at clubs and house parties, just to find some real people, not people looking for pictures or cyber or what ever it is they're looking for online. Trish
  6. I agree totally with Tybee, try a club, this will give you both an idea of what swinging is all about. I know at our club the majority of members are willing to sit and openly discuss these things with you without putting pressure on either of you to actually do anything. You idea about having sex in front of a third may be a difficult one to achieve only because the third may feel left out. If you were in a club situation though and go there with the agreement if you decide to play it will only be with each other, this way you can find out what it's like to be watched, and yet not have any obligation to upset what sounds like a delicate situation between the 2 of you. From a personal perspective, my husband and I started dating when I was 16 and he 17, we were for a very very long time each other's only sex partners. This was something for a long time that kept me from wanting to swing. I wanted to preserve that between us. I thought it was really cool to be 25 and be able to say my husband had been the only person I had ever had sex with. Looking back now some of that was insecurity on my part, and once I felt more secure in our relationship and spent a lot of time reading and learning more about swinging, I edecided it would be ok for us to give it a try. I'm glad now that we did, we both love our lives and it has enhanced our own sex lives. Swinging also improved communication between the 2 of us, not that we didn't before then, but we do spend more time talking now and concentrating on us, which is a good thing. I think though for all couples you need to move at your own pace, take things slow and work your way up to where ever it is you want to be. Talk constantly along the way, and realize that sometimes fantasy is better left to fantasy, not everything you fantasize about will turn out great in reality, and if something does go badly you need to be able to communicate well enough with each other to work through it together. Good luck which ever direction you choose. Trish
  7. We've done MFM lots of times, and have done both ways with a close friends and someone we didn't know really well from the club. Both ways worked well for us, I think for my husband he actually prefered the club guys. They were respectful to both of us, and yet I think there was less of a chance for him to feel threatened because there was no chance for a real connection. Being on staff at the club helps us out a lot with meeting the single guys, we do the majority of the interviews with them, so we get to know them pretty well without other people being around. My suggestion to you would be first, what ever guy you choose, make sure it's someone your both comfortable with. Someone that can hold a conversation with both of you not just one or the other. Your question about married guys, we've tried a few of those and they never seemed to work out really well for us, me being straight sometimes playing as a foursome just doesn't work well, and there have been a few times when we though just he was going to come and play and she end up following. If your going to play with a married guy and really want it to be MFM only make sure that's a possibility by talking with both members of the other couple. A final suggestion, if your first time isn't exactly how you pictured it would go, sometimes as someone else said fantasy is better than reality, I would still encourage you to try it again. We've found that sometimes someone is just having an off night, or maybe we just chose the wrong person, or what ever the reason, but if we decided to not try again after something went wrong the first time we would have quit swinging 10 years ago. Our first experience wasn't the greatest, but all our experiences in one way or another we've learned something from, even if it was not to make the same mistakes a second time around. If after a couple of times your still not finding a reason to continue and your not having any fun, then maybe it's time to look at doing something else. Trish
  8. For us he introduced swinging and it's not exactly equal with online, it really depends on the site and who placed the ad more than anything I guess. We help manage a swing club so we have ads on almost all of the match sites. The ones I put up I keep up with and the ones he placed he keeps up with. I know because of the club I have many more than he does, but I also have more time. I know our situation is unique, so other was the best choice for us. Trish
  9. At our club I have never seen that many and we have been going there for 5 years. I guess though there have been times it has happened, just not something I've seen. I tend to agree that 3:1 is probably the most I have ever seen and seems to be about all I would want to handle, and even then worry it would be too many. 2:1 is a lot of what we see on a regular basis, 3somes are very popular on both sides. I don't know exactly when I would think it would stop being sexy, I guess that would be something I need to see to determine, with that many men I immagine it would be hard to see a lot of anything really going on, a few would have to at least just be standing around waiting. Trish
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