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    Indiana
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    Quilts, gardening, Hiking and swinging
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  1. I will would feel wierd and awarkard in the situation you are describing. To have agreed not to swing and then have another couple show up and then swing with them by being made to feel guilty by your husband with him reminding you of the fact that you have had more action than him in the swinging lifestyle ( I don't think keeping score is a good idea) would most likely make anyone feel wierd and awarkard the next day. I agree there needs to be more communication and a disscussion on how to deal with such a situation like this if it should arise again. I also would feel used by the other couple. Did the guy of the couple know that you and your husband were in the lifestyle? Maybe he assumed you would go along easily with the sexual encounter. If he knew he should have talked about a possible swing encounter first and got both of your feelings on the subject, instead of the two of them showing up and springing into action without letting you and your guy discuss your feelings about it. Sorry if I don't make much sense with my words here. Just trying to be helpful. Hope things work out.
  2. I really enjoy kissing and carressing to warm things up. Grinding on each other and touching as foreplay. I love giving and receiving oral sex from a woman. From time to time not to often though we have toy night. Where we get out the vibrators, strappons, double headed dildos, and lotions and go to town and have a good time. I even do that with my spouse. We sometimes get out the toys and lotions and experiment it is fun. I have to share my favorite experience with a double headed dildo. My spouse, myself and another couple had spent the night at a swing club and were on our way back home. Had our toys packed up in our bags. Me and my girlfriend were still feeling frisky. We had not used our toys at the club and decided to use them on the way home. The back seat was awesome for using the doubleheader. We were facing each other crocth to crocth, using the door frame for leverage for pushing into each other. It felt awesome and oh so good. The poor fellas had a hard time concentrating on the driving.lol. It felt like we covered the 30 some odd miles in no time flat. lol.
  3. Sadie I feel for you, I believe you have let yourself fall for this guy and he for you.But I agree with everyone here you should take yourself out of there relationship. I read on here that you said You think she is jealous of any swinging relationship he has with any woman. I beg to differ with that opinion. My reasons are she would not be going to a swing club with him if this were the case and letting him be with other women sexually if she had a problem with jealousy. I think she has a problem with you because she feels that you are a threat to there relationship. I know I would feel threatened if my SO. developed deep feelings for another woman and she for him. Be honest if you were involved with and cared for a man wouldn't you be upset if he constantly called and emailed, and had deep feelings for another woman he swang with?? Try putting yourself in her situation and honestly try to understand her side. I think this will put a different perspective on things. I think the best thing to do would to be to step out of the picture totally. Let them work it out or let them break up. If they do break up then he is free game but don't let him think that you will be waiting in the wings if he should break up let him know that you care enough to cut it off and let him live his life without being torn between the two of you women. Goodluck. I hope you make the smart choice and save yourself alot of heartache.
  4. I totally agree with Corwyn. Well said.. Should have never started swinging if you did not want to do it in the first place. Never let people bully you into doing things you are not comfortable with.
  5. When we decided for sure that we wanted to swing it took us about five months. Just a matter of finding a compatible couple that we both liked.
  6. Hubby wears boxers on those special occasions and briefs during the work week. I wear thongs a lot but when working and I want to feel comfortable I wear briefs. I like boxers on men. They make nice tents when they get excited. lol
  7. Have had sex in the woods one time with my hubby. Brought a blanket along to avoid getting scratched from the debris on the ground. I enjoyed it and would do it again. Had sex with another couple on their boat in broad daylight. That was awesome, so pretty outside. Except for the little bit of paranoia of thought of getting busted. lol
  8. It looks like the majority of the people who answered this post think that people who have pics posted on pay sites and swing on there free time are still considered swingers. I totally agree. But alas we all have different definitions and ideas of what swinging means to us. Yawanna it seems your opinion does not agree with my opinion of swinging in this instance. But thats what is so great about the world everybody is different ( thank goodness) and each have there own opinion. I would like to thank Julie for having this site it is awesome. I love coming on here and reading all the posts and replies. Some posts have been really helpful to me personally.
  9. I think it would be safe to say the single guys you meet in a club would be respectful of your wife. They go thorough a more interview process than couples do. The flaw I see in meeting with another couple for a MMF is that the wife of the other couple will feel left out. I know I would in such a situation. But that does remind me of a few couples we have met where the wife is bi ( so am I ) and she will play only with a female but he can full swap with me if he wanted to. Also met a couple whom the husband full swapped and wife was straight but she was soft swing. I don't do that. I will play with the women and then go play with hubby in a situation such as that. We only swap in a full swap scenario that way no one feels left out. The club is definitely the way to go in making your fantasy a reality. They have a lot to offer and if the chemistry is not there with someone you meet you can make new friends and continue on in your search.
  10. I think they are still swingers if they still do the same things off camera on there free time as they do on camera for there personal enjoyment. Example I am a quilter. I love to quilt. I can do it for my own pleasure or I can make one and sell it. I am still a quilter even though I am getting paid to do it. The best job in the world is doing something you love and getting paid to do it. Such as swinging and have pictures tooken while doing it. I still stand by my opinion though that a couple who has a pay site askes you to donate or give money to them after just meeting them. That is just plain tacky.
  11. I have used altoids and they work great. Played with balls also always got positive respone. I have also used the lotion that when you rub it on your skin and blow it gets warm. I take and massage it all over my sweeties erect penis and take my hands and massage his penis and blow on it getting it all nice and really warm and start licking all the lotion off and sucking him until he cums. He really enjoys it alot.
  12. I have never had anyone ask for donations either. That doesn't fit my definition of swinging. I would call that just plain rude to ask for a donation of any kind be it for there pay site or to contribute to there vacation fund. That would be way to forward. I would not call it swinging if the couple asked for cash I would call it prostitution.
  13. Only had one swinging disaster that was a little humorous after the fact. It was around holiday shopping season when we decided to meet a couple we had been chatting with on the internet. They seemed nice and had a sense of humor which we like in a couple. We traveled to their town and met at a restaurant of their choosing. We showed up on time. They were late. The restaurant was crowed and seating limited. The fastest seats would be ones located in the bar area. The woman did not like this but we all went ahead and sat there. They were somewhat misleading in how they portrayed there appearances but only a little. She was a few pounds heavier and he was shorter but no biggie. Look past that. We ate our food, and conversed trying to get to know each other. Unfortunately I learned more than I wanted to lol. I heard about in detail a series of operations the man had done to his feet to remove calcium deposits. I learned about how he did not get along with his mother-in-law. While he was discussing his mother-in-law you could tell his wife was not happy about it and kept giving him dirty looks. He discussed his brother-in-law and how he was a loser. I couldn't blame his wife for being ticked, I would be, but she seemed to take most of it in stride. When they asked us if we wanted to go get a room to have some fun, I had to hold back a giggle and keep a straight face and say sorry the attraction just wasn't there for me. They were cool about it. The guy seemed letdown but his wife acted like she couldn't care one way or another. They were a case of a couple where opposites attracted. Him - outgoing talkative. Her - quiet and laidback, uptight. Me and hubby drove home and chalked up the meeting as a "you never know unless you have tried" experience.
  14. I thank everyone for there advice. I went adhead and went with my gut instinct which was to tell him. I am glad I did. I am not very good at keeping stuff from my husband he can see it in my eyes. He did feel betrayed but was glad that I told him instead of keeping it a secret. He still loves me and I still love him. He is one of the most importatn people in my lives equalled only by my kids. I told him I never want to be with anyone again without him there. He said I could be with my girlfriend alone if I wanted but I don't want to do that either. I enjoy it more when we are all together. I am going to tell the other man that I told my husband because I can't keep a secret from him ever. And what he decides to do is up to him. I don't think he came over with the intention of having sex. But I could be wrong. The optimist in me always tries to see the good in people. The reason I think this is because wouldn;t he have tried something like this way before now? I am glad I told the truth. I was scared but could not take the sick feelings of guilt and disgust for myself of letting my lust take over and keeping a secret from my hubby. I think everything will work out ok. Thank you again for your advice.
  15. I have a situation I need advice on. If I had it to do over again I would do differently. We have been seeing another couple for nine months now and we are friendly comfortable with each other. Drop by and visit each other frequently. My spouse and the couple work day shift I work second. Well the male half of the couple stopped by the other morging to see how I was doing because he was out running errands and his hours are flexible. I had been down in the dumps a little and he stopped by to say hi and make sure I was doing good. Well I was still half asleep and he mentioned he would like to cuddle and I said sure. We do this sort of behavior when we are all together. Well he kissed me and started rubbing on me and we got carried away and had sex. My husband has let me have sex before when he was not there but I always asked him beforehand for permission. I did not plan on this happening. I was going to tell him that it did happen but the male half wants me to keep it secret because he doesn't want his wife to be upset or my husband. I think my husband would be upset but I think he might understand. The male apologized for his behavior and I apologized for mine. Nothing like this will happen again. I want to tell my husband but am afraid he will be upset. Is it better to telll him or let it go and make sure never to put myself in such a situation again????????
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