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    Couple
  • Location
    Michigan
  • Interests
    Theater, Yoga, Art, Fashion, Photography
  • Swinging Experience
    nearly 2 years

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    Princeton

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  1. Cat - How awful for you!!! OMG what a jerk! I hope you will be ok. I have been really lucky to have found a single male friend who is the utmost gentleman. I have never had anal sex with him but I would let him only because I know he wouldn't hurt me. We tried a DP last time we were together but it just didn't work. We will try again next time I think. For all you ladies out there considering trying this on a first MFM, I would recommend reconsidering this. You need to have a comfort level with the male joining you that just won't be there the first time you meet. If the first MFM goes well, and you trust the guy to respect your needs the next time then go for it then. Talk about the rules before hand, like, "If I say stop, you will stop immediately." Make that very clear and then have FUN!!
  2. I agree that differences of opinion can be healthy but that is not why you are here. I was ready to welcome you to the board before I saw this comment. You originally seemed level headed and willing to participate in an open discussion but this is a red flag for me. If I wanted to be preached to, I would attend church. Obviously you came here to tell us all how wrong we are in choosing this lifestyle, not just to enlighten us to some of the negatives. After ready this, I hope you choose to move on and take your negatives with you. We are not here to judge each other but to discuss and to support.
  3. We are pretty new to this also but I would say that communicatioin and respect for your partners wishes are at the top of my list of importance. I know that my hubby would not be comfortable with me meeting a guy alone. We even have a single guy friend that he is very comfortable with and still wouldn't want me to meet him alone. That is a perfectly reasonable request, in my opinion. Maybe in time our feelings will change, and maybe yours will too, but for the time being it is a no go for us. I think you should tell her how uncomfortable this makes you and ask for her understanding. Communication, communication, communication......If you are not ok with it, then you are not ok with it.....that's it. Many couples have this rule....you are not alone. Good luck and don't feel bad that you don't want to do this. It's ok.
  4. A friend of mine views it this way......mutually assured destruction. They won't tell on you because then their secret would be out too. Most swingers are pretty discrete. I wouldn't worry about it and just make sure you play with couples that understand your need for discretion. If you chat with someone that seems to want to shout it to the rooftops then don't meet or play with them. That is one of the reasons we like to talk with people online a few times before we decide to meet them. Gives us a feel for the kind of people they are. Good luck and don't stress too much about this issue. BTW.....we are in SW Michigan, not too far from Chicago and not in your area code!
  5. Ok...gotta speak from the other side. I never thought I would like it or ever want to do it but recently that has changed. Not only do I like it....I can have multiple orgasms with anal, sometimes. That has never happened thru any other type of sex; vaginal, oral, manual stimulation. So to answer your question directly....YES there are some of us women that like anal sex. Although, I must say, it does not happen every time and is more like an addition to our sex life. A very nice addition.
  6. Glad your first meeting was nice! Now you won't feel so much nervousness the next time. We don't feel nervous like that anymore. We have had a few meetings with new people and always think of them as meeting new friends. Sounds like you met some new friends. Good luck with your next meeting!
  7. Ok, what about the pizza guy? I had a really hot piza guy deliver to our house last time. I was drooling but the kids were home so no attempt was made to seduce him. Maybe next time.......
  8. The club we go to has one but I have yet to try it. That might be a way to try before you buy.
  9. Plumeria, We are very new to the lifestyle and although we are a couple I can relate to the jitters you are feeling. We met our first couple at a bar for drinks. Before we walked in I sqeezed my husband's hand so hard his knuckles turned white! I was soooooo nervous. But, after we walked in and started talking to them the nerves went away and we had a great time. We didn't play that first night. Maybe if you state that up front, that you do not want to play on the first meet, it will take some pressure off of you. Just an idea. Good luck and have a great time!
  10. Love that story! If ya can't hang out with swingers, theater people are the next best thing! Right now there is a guy in my cast that I have some serious sexual tension with. He ID'd us as swingers after rehearsal one day at a bar. We had some of our swinger friends with us but we were being very vanilla until we started talking about vacations. They mentioned going to Hedo and he got a big smile on his face. He said, "Soooooo, you're swingers, I knew it." Then he pointed at us and said, "That means you're swingers too!" He proceeded to tell us he was a swinger with his ex-wife but his current wife is not into it. So my secret is out with him. I told him the next day, "I have 3 words for you: mutually assured destruction, keep your mouth shut." Every since that night, whenever there is a sexual overtone to the lines in the play or to conversation we are having with the other two people at rehearsal we just look at each other and laugh. It's our little shared secret. If they only knew! confunktion - Love to meet other theater people! Thanks for the cast party story. kindred spirits
  11. I've had so many of those moments recently. The one that come to mind right now is about my stage manager at the theater. She has a boyfriend but is drooling over a single guy in our cast. I keep thinking......if she only knew that she could probably have both of them!!! I totally agree with her assessment of him and I would love to have him, too. He's simply delicious. facelick Maybe after the show is over........cast party could be a fun time! Oh, and btw, thank you MJ for posting this thread. It's going to be a lot of fun reading the stories. I'll post more if I think of them.
  12. We are really new to the lifestyle, about 3 months since we signed up here. We have played 3 times, twice with the same guy, so I guess we are about average, once a month. But, we have met swinger friends on many occasions over those 3 months that could have turned into play times so I have no idea where we are headed from here. We could get very busy really soon since we have a lot of new friends.
  13. Kissing is half the fun for me. I LOVE to kiss. Deep, hungry passionate kisses, and fun light playful kisses, its all good. I agree with the Alura's....I don't think I could, or would want to, have sex without kissing.
  14. Yes vanilla and feminine...he is trying to appeal to women, right? We like that! At least I do and the LOL shows he has a sense of humor, a big turn-on for a lot of women, including me. I have a feeling that the problems the day after have nothing to do with lack of crude behavior the guy was exhibiting the night before. It probably is chemistry or technique or something that didn't go right during the night. I, for one, do not want to be treated like a prostitute or a porn star. I see swinging as a kind of dating. I want a guy to be respectful of me and my relationship with hubby. I want to find guys that can carry on a conversation with me, guys with a sense of humor. I would not ever answer an ad or an email that was crude. I don't want to date that kind of man nor would I want to play with him. If my hubby treated me that way when we were dating he never would have gotten a second date. Hubby and I have built a great deal of trust and if we talk dirty with each other it is a turn on, with someone new to me it would be a big turn OFF. Sorry Clem but I just don't agree with you.
  15. I was looking for another place to post this, adding it to another thread or just adding it to the first part of this one but decided it would best stand alone. I felt bad for Intuition when I read her first MFM post with the very rude, unapologetic, late single male. How horrible and on your anniversary too! Well here is our story of our first MFM. Its long so hang in there with me. It all started with First Meeting from SLS ad. A few days after we had started talking to the first couple we met, we got an email from a single guy. He had been out at a bar talking with them and we came up in conversation. They had said they were talking to a new couple on SLS and he asked if it was us, he had seen our profile also, and liked it. So on our third date with this couple, female issues on her side so we weren't going to play, we all agreed to invite this single guy so we could meet him. A single female swinger friend of theirs showed up at the bar also so we have 6 swingers at the table. What fun! We all had a blast! Anyway, we kept talking with this guy through IM and struck up a nice friendship with him, he and hubby have some things in common so they like to talk to each other, its not all about getting me into bed. Well, last friday we were trying to get a babysitter so we could go out, even if it was just the two of us. We mentioned it to our single guy friend but he thought he had plans that night. During that week we met another couple that wanted to go out for drinks, just to meet and see if there was any interest. So we agreed to meet them early for drinks. During our meeting, the single guy called and said his plans fell through and he would be available if we wanted to go out. We did. So after our meeting with the couple we ran home and changed in to appropriate clothes for a dance club, and I did a quick shave just in case. That would prove to be a very good decision! We got to the club first. Had a couple of drinks while we waited for him. When he got there the conversation was great. We talked, flirted, touched, kissed at the table and when I was sufficiantly tipsy we went out to the dance floor and put on quite the show! I was soooo naughty dancing with my 2 dates. I think some of the other girls were mad that I was hogging 2 men. It was a blast! We went back to the table and were very naughty there but not for very long. I leaned over and asked him if he had enough of the bar and wanted to go out to our van? (we had talked about the van many times and he liked the idea of a naughty van "ride") So we left the bar and headed to the van for some fun. We had to move from the parking lot to a "safer" place. Hubby had a very clever idea. He parked in a small used car lot down the street! And there we had our first MFM in the back of the van! I was so fun! I loved the spontanaity of the whole night. We didn't plan it out, it just all fell into place. No nerves, no reservations, no jealousy on hubby's part, just a really fun night for all of us. facelick
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