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BiDrywallChick

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About BiDrywallChick

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    Swingers Board Addict
  • Birthday 08/19/1974

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    separated female
  • Location
    Rowland, NC
  • Interests
    outdoorsy things, reading, civil rights, law, native rights... basically anything I can argure about! I am not all about confrontation.. I will try just about anything once. I would love to learn to swim, scuba dive somewhere warm and maybe to ski
  • Occupation
    You name it.. I do it
  • Swinging Experience
    I would say off and on for over a decade.

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    bidrywallchick
  • Favorite Club(s)
    I havent been to one yet. I do stress yet

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  1. I totally agree with Ves on this one. Let me add a few of my thoughts, in general. It is also probable that you have your rose colored glass on when you are looking at the other man. You see your husband when no one else can. You are the one who gets the raw man. You get him when he is mad and happy.. when is he being an absolute ass and when he is the best thing since sliced bread. You have to deal with his sparkling personality and he has to deal with yours. All of that is real life marriages. On the other side, you have your friend. He is showing you his best. He is talking to you about all the things he does, his wants.. his desires.. but you dont see him behind closed doors.. You dont see him picking his belly button lint or drinking soda right out of the bottle and putting it back in the fridge. Too often in a marriage, we forget all the things that we came to love about our spouse and focus on the negatives that get on our last nerves. We see someone who throws their underwear in the general area of the laundry basket instead of seeing someone who is just so tired that they want to lay down and sleep for days. They saying goes something like " the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence." You jump over and find out that there are just as many weeds on this side as the one you were on before. Here is the bluntness that tends not to make me any more friends.. You need to get your priorities in order. If you truely love your husband, you need to stop seeing the other man and get into counseling. There are plenty of marriage counselors that can help with an unbiased nonjudgemental opinion. There is more going on here than you are letting on. Secondly, you said that your husband said that if you need to leave, then leave and that he is passive aggressive.. Perhaps that is his way of dealing with what he may feel is the end of his relationship with the woman he loves. Sounds like he is throwing in the towel so to speak to try and make it easier for you to make up your mind. You didnt fall in "love" with the other man overnight. So, your husband saw you changing, withdrawing from him emotionally and didnt stop you from turning you back on your relationship with him. Men tend to try to be strong and not let on when something hurts like this. Place yourself in his shoes.. what would you do? Like I said.. just my blunt take on things. If you truely love your husband, leave you lust for the other man at the door and start working on what is left of your relationship. There is no such thing as being too late to find your mate again. Think back to what has been going on in your relationship before you began seeing the other man. What was stressing both you and your husband? What was the main arguments? The relationship with the other man was not the begining of when things were changing in your relationship. It was just the catalyst... the stepping stone.. better yet.. the excuse for what has happened. Again.. just my horridly blunt opinion based on what i drew from your post.
  2. lmao.. lets not wonder too much side note: I do not swallow.. I dont wanna, dont like too ect ect. I am a visual person. I like to watch someone come on me.. my fav places are belly and breasts.. it gets me started for round 2 or 3 or 12
  3. well we havent played in almost a year. We took a time out for us to move, get reestablished ect ect. Before, we played on average about 3 times a month... However, we do play with each other quite often
  4. We have gone bareback a time or two. For me, I have to know the couple really well for that. It's just my preference. MR BDC doesn't like condoms. However, he does use them if the couple/woman prefers. I am not a pregnancy concern since I have had my tubes all but yanked out. Mr. BDC is fertile though. So, for us condoms are more of a birth control than an STD factor. As far as the STD factor, since the people we have played with, we have known really well, it wasn't a big deal. That sounds kinda relaxed but it really isn't for us. However, we still get STD testing done every 6 months just to stay on that groove. We made it a habit and it has stuck with us. As for asking or being asked for documentation. We can always provide it for anyone who is interested if and only if we are hitting it off and looks promising to play. We don't ask everyone we chat with or meet to provide that to us since it is very personal.
  5. just a little side note.. you can always go to county mental health in your state. they have a sliding scale and also have programs for those who cannot afford to pay or who do not have insurance.. just something to think about
  6. i just snipped this from my answer on the poll because I am too lazy to come up with another way of saying it I am one of those people.. I have been morbidly obese. I wouldnt have wanted to swing with me. I have had a bypass surg.. no regrets.. and I do have excess skin... and ice it off with scars from surg as well as my fair share of scars that tell the story of my life. Now.. my opinion.. it doesnt bother me in the least if someone doesnt want to swing with me because of what I look like. That is their groove. Physical attraction has to be there for good old fashioned lusty sex. thats just the bottom line. However, that being said, I would like to think someone wouldnt rule me out as a swing friend just because of looks. I am one damn fine looking chick now but I also have one hell of a brain to go with that.. add my sparkling personality, wit and sarcasm... If you just judged me on looks.. you would be missing out. Not every person I meet in swing land do I want to jump into bed or on the counter with.. but then.. there are some that just get me right in the nuts
  7. lol we are for the most part a nude house... My youngest was outside climbing trees naked the other day. I would be naked all the time if I could, gravity be damned. To me.. it's all flesh... we all have it... some of us have more than others... and like me... some of us have boobs that look like oranges in a tube sock. I have never seen "the perfect" body on a real person. I just go with what is comfortable for those I care about. The girls are less modest than my son. He has to have his boxers... The girls... they could care less and will moon anyone. I have no idea where they learned that from. Must be Mr. BID
  8. preach it sista!!! that is a no go here. I do not submit, period. Its not my groove.. well, unless there is some warm oil involved
  9. I forgot to put what I was raised. I was brought up Independant Fundemental baptist.. Completely subserviant to the males of the church.. never even said Amen out loud in church.. went to a non accredited church school.. never wore pants... then I met my current hubby.. life started
  10. Personally, i was swinging when I was a BBW. I find its more of a matter of confidence in yourself. Carry yourself like you are the "cock of the walk". No matter the size, everyone has their own tastes and desires. I found out the other day that now, one of my reg playmates isnt sexually attracted to me anymore.. No biggie.. She likes her women on the fluffy plump side. We are still great friends. Its all about having the cake.. the rest is just icing
  11. ok.. I am going to say just this... only she can allow herself to remain a victim about this... no matter what 'side" you are on. On the other hand, she can take charge of herself and become a survivor. Only you can let someone make you a victim... no matter the relationship.
  12. I would like to consider myself a pretty open-minded and relaxed person. I voted not naturally for no! Not even with a case of beer... that's just not my groove.
  13. i thought about that too. I wondered if people thought that those who are married without together pics were really just one or the other person just trolling. I really hadnt even thought about it until my mom pointed out last night that I havent taken any couple pics of me and my hubby in quite a few years
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