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TNTCouple

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About TNTCouple

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    Contributor
  • Birthday 09/28/1970

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    San Diego
  • Interests
    Karaoke, e-Baying, dancing w/the girls

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    tntcouple
  • Favorite Club(s)
    club cb
  1. I'm a court reporter (I went to court reporting school with a lot of wild women, one of which I had my first bi experience with:facelick:) Hubby works as a customer service rep for a home building company.
  2. This is exactly our attitude, especially what you said about the aggressive ones! Let me know how it goes at your club. I know you'll have fun. We do at ours, albeit "non-swinger";).
  3. Definately an option. But I get really self-conscious at others watching me. I'm not an exhibitionist. I need to desensitize or something which brings us to your next comment... I never even considered this. I'm definately more comfortable when it's just the group of friends over at each other's house. We play strip poker or strip pool so getting naked in front of them isn't too big of a deal for me anymore like it was in the beginning. It's just we usually leave before the heat really gets turned up. I'm just not ready. They don't seem to mind though because they keep including us. We do have a ton of fun together.
  4. I feel like our new friendships with the owner and their friends is what your reply is all about. They make me feel like what I'm going through is okay. They're all levels of swingers so it's nice to have such a mixture of personalities around me. I feel lucky to have been so welcomed by them. uh-huh...just as I suspected. Thanks for confirming that. Wow! I can understand your frustration. I don't want to be labled as the couple who goes to the swingers clubs but won't swing. I don't mind being labled the picky swinger though. I don't fully understand why I get all guarded once I feel pressure. I guess in life I'm like that too. I have my own comfort timetable, which might not sit well with some. I guess I just have to expect it. Thanks so much for saying that. I understand it takes time for some people. I don't think we'll be nonswingers forever but no one's been able to get my juices flowing enough for me to throw caution to the wind. Although I have to say I've come closer than usual with one particular guy, who also happens to be in the circle of friends we hang with. He's never made a move but I know there's some interest on his end too. Time will tell.
  5. hubby and I have been in the lifestyle for about 3 months, but not actually in the lifestyle, if that makes sense. We found an awesome on-premises club and have become friends with the owner and his g/f and have been welcomed into their little inner circle where we get invited to do stuff with them outside the official parties. We're fun and (I'll just say it) attractive, IMHO. I would never just blurt that out if I didn't think it factored in. Anyway, when we were in the talking-about-it stage, I was so into the swapping factor. Now that we're actually around it and I get approached all the time, I've backed off. It actually freaks me out now. I'm really turned off by the aggressive ones especially. I have no problem with jealousy and it has never been an issue with me or him. We've been together for 16 years (married for 13 years) and have a rock-solid bond and a very satisfying sexual relationship. There's absolutely no pressure from him, especially since it was my idea. Now for the question: Are we (well, I) making the seasoned couples angry? I love to flirt and dance sexy and kiss. Most everyone knows I'm just not close to being ready for the deed. I'm not even comfortable enough to soft swap. I'm wondering if I ever will be. We've been to the common room to hook up with each other but then suddenly I get self-conscious. When I start getting smiles and those "come over here" looks. Could it be in my imagination? Is there some sort of term for people like me? I love to be around it and the people and want to keep going but eventually will I overstay my welcome? Most everyone's cool and understanding and respects where I'm coming from because I let them know up front. But are they just being nice and are secretly thinking otherwise? I'm sure this question has been asked before but I did a search and couldn't find anything to solidly answer my question.
  6. My personality doesn't allow me to have a one-night stand. I didn't when I was single and dating. It just isn't in me. The way we meet other couples is at an on-premises club. And if you want to "party" with us, you'll have to get to know us, and us you. Yeah, it takes time. We rarely hook up when we go, by our choice. We love to sit and chat, dance and just socialize and be crazy. Flirtatious kissing, suggestive hugs and touches is a great build up for me. I've been pressured by aggressive couples (especially the man) and I've learned to put it out there: NO! We're into the more low-key couples. I like to get to know them and have some chemistry. That is always a turn on for me. Luckily where we go, we've developed some great friendships, that do stay at the club. I think because of it, we're always receiving invitations to go to the club owner's home on off nights for more intimate socializing, like games and watching sporting events and afternoon naked swims and various kinds of strip games. I'm much more inclined to hook up with these couples. We're in it for the sexually-charged atmosphere and the adult-themed comradery. As a matter of fact, I've never seen the more aggressive couples get invited to these non-club casual events. Not putting the one-night standers down because we hang out with those couples too. They just know that it takes time for us. And an aggressive leering handsy man will dry me up in two seconds.
  7. Like most of the women here, the mood has to strike me too, maybe every other month or so, although Mr. T seems to think it all depends on the alignment of the planets, whether the wind is blowing north or south, etc. :rollseyes: Butt ( ) what makes it painless for me is, of course, lots of lube and to ease into it with different size butt plugs we have starting with the thinnest one, about the size of Mr. T's pinky, then working it to a little thicker and so on and so on. By the time we get to the last one, I'm begging him to enter me (I love it when he teases) and can even take it rough sometimes if I'm really feeling frisky. To try it with lube and just him right from the start, OUCH !! He loves it, but he always says afterwards that my "pookie" is warmer and softer and is just better, in his opinion. But my orgasms are out of this world with anal, with a little help from my vibrating friend .
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