Just Curious

Let me introduce myself, I am the hubby of bigmama (the person who was the first post). First let me thank you ALL for responding to my wife's post. Now, I would like to remind you all that there is two sides to every story, and I would like to tell/explain my side of the story. About 6 months ago my wife and I met the girl in question, over time we BOTH were falling in love with her and her with us. We were all taking it slow to see how things were going to work out. On the night in question, yes I did know that my wife had started her period earlier that day. When I found this out I asked her "What do you want to do about tonight" and she told me it was up to me if I went ahead with the evening with the other girl. I was unaware that she did not want me to have sex with the other girl without her there, I guess I was just supposed to know this (I screwed up). As the evening went on it was time for the other girl to come over to the house. The evening started with 3 FRIENDS just sitting and talking, and yes there was flirting going on. I once again asked if it was OK for me and the other girl to have sex together, this is when my wife told me that she was uncomfortable with it and she did not think it was a good idea. Yes, I was upset and flustered but I understood. About a 1/2 hour had passed since I had asked the question, and there was still lots of flirting going on (everyone). At this time I was very hard, I had reached down to adjust myself so that I was a little more comfortable. My wife had seen this and she said "Why don't you just take your pants off," so I did. I was a little confused because it was first OK then NOT OK and now it was OK (so I thought). The two girls were sitting on one couch and I was on the other. My wife motioned for me to come over to them and then they both started on me. At this time we all went into the bedroom, I was giving them BOTH a message. About 15min. into the massage my wife gets up to leave I had thought she was giving us "alone" time. Yes, I did end up making love to her and this lasted for about 1 1/2 hours (If you were wondering when my wife and I make love it goes for about 2 to 3 hours). The next day I tried to talk to her and she would not talk. It was not until 3 days later that we talked. She told me that what UPSET her the most was that I got to make love to the other girl and she didn't. Now that being said, I HAVE NEVER, EVER cheated on my wife (in 12 years) and never will. I love my wife with all my heart and soul and would never intentionally do anything to hurt/upset her. After she put her post on here, the thing that she said was unanimous was EVERYONE said you need to talk to your hubby. I want to thank you for this because this made us sit down and talk. Then we both sat down and talked to the other girl, and now everything is "on the table" and we are all on the same page. Once again we would like to Thank you ALL for your time and would like to let everyone know that we are still IN-LOVE and everything worked out PS. Bigmama is not an accurate name for her, she is 5'9" and is a size 7...lol