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Cpl2SwingNC

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  1. IMHO, you had a single male, representing himself as a female, who wanted to use your future wife as a means to masterbation. Forget about them with a "Certify That this User is Genuine."
  2. I used to classify myself as bi-curious, but after being with a couple who the male said that he was bi-curious as well, I've determined that I probably am not. Didn't even have the least urge to see it happen. I am not saying that I'd never try it, just do not believe I am what I thought I was. That being said, if I am uncomfortable with my wife around other men it has usually proven to be a valid reason. Call is spidey senses or intuition as things progressed she has become more uncomforable as well. I wonder if men who have problems with their partner with another male see themselves as adequate?
  3. OK, like I said was going by what a health professional had conveyed to me. Hey why we're at it let's just get out the Crisco and give it a shot. All natural and vegetable based, of course you may need to watch the saturated fats. LOL
  4. Rather not have the "think" in the process. I'm going by what a doctor has told me. Not to be a smart ass mywoneself.
  5. Vaseline is petroleum based and therefore is not recommended for condoms as it can cause failure. Never heard that it was bad for the the genitalia.
  6. While I can certainly understand one's desire for Creampie, which btw I always thought involved the cream filler to do , I cannot understand the total lack of protection and safety with so many riding barebacked.
  7. I don't mean to sound snobby or like a know it all, and I've not yet read the entire forum, However you are mistaken in your definition of Sadism and Masochism. Sadism and Sadistic, comes from the French Classics written by SadeComte, Donatien Alphonse François de. Also known as the Marquis de Sade. A Sadist enjoys giving or inflicting pain on another individual. 1. The deriving of sexual gratification or the tendency to derive sexual gratification from inflicting pain or emotional abuse on others. 2. The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from cruelty. 3. Extreme cruelty. Masochism: The masochist derives his name from Leopold von SacherMasoch ( 1835-95), whose books picture this. A Masochist enjoys receiving pain. 1. The deriving of sexual gratification, or the tendency to derive sexual gratification, from being physically or emotionally abused. 2. The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself. 3. A willingness or tendency to subject oneself to unpleasant or trying experiences. Just finished reading the entire forum and thought that we would chime in with some personal experiences. 1. In most D/S relationships in truth the submissive is really the one in control. In the song from the Police, "Wrapped Around Your Finger," there is the line at the end of the song that truly sums it up, "and then one day you'll find your servant is your master." It is the submissive that controls exactly what does and doesn't happen through the use of "safe words." When being submissive I can stop all activity with just one word. In truth the Dominant is submitting to the will of the submissive. Any respective Dominant understand where the control really lays, and will not go past established boundaries. As I explained in another thread, I have a top management position that is very public, and I make major decisions on a daily basis that effects others around me. I personally enjoy them times that it is my wife making the decisions, but it is by no means a full time position. There are times in which I like to be one who is in-charge, so to speak. But the times of submission are a great release from the pressures of life. Being a submissive is not necessarily able to be seen in a public setting. Most Doms/Subs that I know are nothing like the role they play on occasion. To meet my wife in public one would never be able to tell that she has a controlling domineering manner at times in the bedroom. Nor would you be able to tell that I enjoy being a submissive. To us, that is the beauty of this type of behavior. 2. A certain degree of pain can equal pleasure. It's not in the physiology of the pain as much as in who is inflicting it, and to what degree. The firm, yet stinging of a riding crop doesn't excite because of the pain or the warmth of the crop, but because my partner is the one that is administering this sensation. I've personally noticed that the breathing and excitement of my wife is heightened as she begins this activity. That very fact excites me to the point where I desire harder swats, but only to a certain degree: neither she or I desire such pain that there are welts that remain after the night, nor do we wish to draw blood. 3. Light Bondage heightens the sensation of the body that one normally takes for granted. When on cannot reach, touch, or see what is going on the body takes over and other senses take over for the ones being deprived. Ever notice how deaf people can see well enough to read lips, have you ever tried it being a person who can hear? It's very difficult. Or how about the blind individual that can hear sounds that you and I would struggle to hear? being blind-folded increases the sense of touch on the human skin; it's almost as if the hairs on the body become better receptors that transfer feelings to the central nervous system. Being bound and touched almost sends an electrical shock through the body as well. How many have ever tied a partner with a rope or used pantyhose, or even blind-folded a partner? It doesn't have to go the point where one is handing another from the ceiling to be considers bondage, and light bondage seems to be accepted by many. 4. What's known as "Forced Feminization" is also a form of the BDSM lifestyle and carries with it many of the same benefits. At my wifes request, not too long after we were married, she desired that I put on a pair of her panties and do a dance for her. She like it so much she asked if she could replace all my tighty whitey's with sexier panties. Being that the comfort level of the panties was better than that of my FoTL briefs, and even the Low Rise Bikini's that I'd worn I agreed and now own very few pairs of men's underwear and they would be more to the racier side. The silky, stretchy, lighter weight fabric of panties are more comfortable to me. However, to look at me one would never know of the choice of undergarments. I am a man's man on the exterior, very professional while at work, and very masculine when dressed otherwise. There is, however, occasions when my wife, while in Dom mode, has "dressed me up in other lingerie and used it as a means of humiliation saying things such as, "Who's my bitch now," or "Aren't you a pretty little Sissy Boy?" Again, because of my job it is as much as a stress relief than anything. And while feminized she makes requests of me that one would normally associate with a male asking a female to complete. When the children have not been home she has dressed me as a French Maid and asked me to clean the house, all while she took pictures of me. But this is not something that happens all the time. 5. Ever had female partner use a strap-on on a male partner? This to is a form of BDSM. Not the toy, but the role reversal is a Dom/Sub activity. Role reversal is usually the point to the Master/Slave relationship. 6. BDSM, IMHO, enhances communication in the relationship. The necessity of talking, "What do you like, what do you not like?" and "what is too far, did I hurt you?" lend to greater communication which only strengthens the relationship. This was a long thread, and I'm sure that I've left things out so feel free to ask questions.
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