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Curious S

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About Curious S

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    Married Male
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    OverlandPark KS (Kansas City)
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    Wife and kids, Porsches and fast things on wheels.
  1. Intuition, Thank you for the reply. In one post you addressed every question I had. Even the ones I couldn't remember to ask. In the last couple of days we have talked about it. Funny how in the middle of the day how a topic like this can carry a different tone. In the evening, relaxed with a glass of wine things are always a little more easy going. Any way...I sat her down and told her about the board and everyone's post. I explained the more I thought about it the more I really wanted to make sure we were ready for such an adventure. So I proposed this....several times a week we both bring something different while we are together. Meaning something new to the sexual experience. Nothing like the next door neighbor with her but something she might have been uncomfortable with in the past because it was not the norm, seemed out of place for a good girl etc. I would do the same. Like we were younger. The difference this time around (emph, many years later) is that we both are a lot mature, we are stronger than ever before and she is interested in something like this. In the past she wasn't. She wasn't in regards to another partner. Work up to what ever comes next. If another partner was it then so be it. My point is I want to explore every possibility with her,but first just with her. I want us to be comfortable with what ever happens next and we we completely have an understanding of all of our limits what ever they may be then we can move forward. Seem a little conservative? Maybe. Any way I look at it is a big step in what every direction it may go. While we have fun with one another I want us to completely get away from routine and explore like we did when we were younger. Once this is done then I think she and I would be better equipped to go in to something like this. Someone please tell me if this makes any sense or am I just over analyzing it to much?
  2. Actually I have done both. We talk a lot and we say what we want, but we also own a business together. At the end of the day we see each other but the ability to say what we want when we want sometimes is hard. So I will then put it into an email. Terrible eh? The other point is when I want her to be able to go back and reread what I said an maybe not how it came out or what she thought I said it is always there. Maybe a club is the best thing. I suspect that would be the easiest for her once she was there and loosened up a bit. That is the key. Not sure inviting her to scroll through the board would help. I think being around real people would invite a deeper conversation.
  3. Thank you for the responses. This is all new to me so you can imagine my thought pattern is all over the place. I am certainly not a prude, but in the 22 years we have been together neither of us have strayed or even talked about it. While I know this isn't straying the reality of turning a fantasy into a real life action carries a certain amount of unknown. We do talk allot. We have no issues talking about what we want or need. That was always a promise we made way back in Jr. High. That and most arguments are about someone being right. Which is not important in the scheme of things. This I believe has led us to a very successful relationship. I personally do not think that something like this would change much if anything, but I don't know that either. Hence the questions. I imagine it would be easier if she had someone in mind. Thanks again for your thoughts. I will keep you posted.
  4. Please excuse me if I am truly in the wrong place, however I know most of you must have an open mind about sexuality. I am happy married and have been with my wife since we were 13. We have been married 13 years and have two wonderful boys. We own a small business and between that and the boys our lives continue to grow more hectic. Our sex life is still pretty good, although being a male I assume it is never enough. Gathered from porches in the summer evenings 2-3 times a week is not the norm. So I am lucky I guess. My question is a simple one. While our sex life seems to be ok, the edge that we had seems to come and go. It seems that it only is in true effect on the rare occasions we get out and she loosens up and has a few drinks. Upon a recent date she informed me of her fantasy. It is to have a third female partner. She said it would have to be a stranger and she wanted to make sure she could watch me. I suppose to most guys this is a dream come true. I must admit that I was taken back by such a comment. I would be interested in fulfilling her fantasy but only if it really wasn't Pandora's box. We have a wonderful relationship and have for 22 years. We are in our mid 30s and not so sure about me but she is still extremely attractive. Why would I want to risk this if there is the possibility the outcome would not be good. Believe me I want to spice up our sex life and would love to fulfill her fantasy. I do not want to do it if there is a remote possibility it would disrupt us or our lives. We both are very secure in our relationship and I really don't worry about it, but talking hypothetical and reality are two different things. Hopefully someone could share their thoughts or experiences with me. I would be very grateful for any insight you might have. Thanks. S
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