We are also voyers, till this day the extent of our experience is we have been in the same room with other people having sex while the other couple was having sex, we watched each other mansturbated watching them and they mansturbated watching us.
We also got in the hot tub and there was some touching involved.
We are both in the medical field so we have a fobia to STDs because all the things we see on a daily basis.
Furthermore we just dont feel comfortable with the idea of having sex with other people, but we have absolutely no problem doing almost anything on a club with most clothes on.
I get a kick watching her being fundled and felt in almost anyway by other guys and she likes to see me have fun with other girls.
Bottom line, we consider ourselves soft and we do consider ourselves swingers but we just dont know If we will ever have full intercourse or even oral sex with others.
Mainly is because of STD fear.
Maybe someday we will find that magical couple where we both will feel so hot about and so comfortable about that we will go all the way...but we are very happy as we are right now.
Another problem.... we are trying to get pregnant so we are not using any birth control. Condoms are by no means birth control so no way Jose.
I know many full swap swingers get frustrated when after playing with us they cant go all the way but we dont lie, we tell everything upfront and of course they make a move hopping for more, that is why many full swaps dont like to consider us as swingers...not even soft.
Our rule is a very simple one "No exange of any body fluids" and yes, that also means kissing.
The friends we have met that are happy with that go home very satisfied and those who expected more.... well they go unhappy.