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    Delaware
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    family, friends, lifestyle people and places.
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    Making men happy
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    9 years

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  1. It is always good, with that many, to have what the industry calls a "fluffer." she will help the guys maintain their attention if you are going to allow her to have more than one ride with the guys. Julie hit it all on the head with her points. One other suggestion/idea. Are you going to play? if you are... I would suggest you get one guy, a friend or someone, that will act as security! Security, at the level of participate you are talking, is very important. What happens if there is alcohol there and someone (or more) get too fucked up and want to take rather than receive? Can you say rape? And if you are going to invite double the # you really want (and I agree with the reason for this as we have experienced the problem) what happens if 3/4 show and not only 1/2? What if someone shows up fucked up? Just food for thought! N PS and the hydration thing is a great idea too!!! Good call Tina and Bob!
  2. I loved my first MFM and it was our "cherry popping" into full swap. If he is what you describe, as our first MFM guy way, she will be fine. if he is ok with "no means no", it will work out fine. You never know, she may take to it like a fish to water and you will not be able to control her want for it. I know, its me that way. I really only like MFMMMM now Let her take baby steps. full swap is a big step for many. let her take the lead and do what she wants. you might want to talk to the guy first and just let him know, or let her know again, that its on her terms. But please, please, please and this is important. If you start getting bad feelings, they both have to know if you say stop, they have to stop, even if she wants to continue. You do not want to get pissed off. if that is not an issue, let her have her fun and enjoy the ride. Good luck!! N
  3. Troubled... As I understand it, you do not have trouble standing at attention with the wife... If so... Let me go off the board here with my Joker and off this.... When you guys start, have someone blindfold you and have wife start on you... At some point, trade off... this way you have a comfort level to start and the wife can encourage you. Do you like dirty talk? throw some of that in. Hubby can be like that with new people. While she is playing with him, I whisper things like "Baby, her mouth is taking all of your cock and you should see it appear and disappear.. I cannot want it see it get lost in her hot pussy...." Ok maybe that does not read as hot as I say it in a Marilyn Monroe-type voice (Happy Birthday Mr. President) but it works for him! Think outside the box to give him a little help! Good luck.
  4. G-Rated at first. there is always time for filth later! :) If you know what we mean! N
  5. It has happened twice and I kept it to myself. he does not have to really know about it. he does ask every time "was he better than me" and my answer is always "he was different than you... just different, and I love what both of you do to me." He might know but no need to go down that road. But when it is better.... HOLY SHIT is it better! lol
  6. Nipple Rings from NippleCharms.com is another site of non piercing jewelry. I love them and I do wear them often. I was too afraid to get piercing while I might get pregnant, but now I just hear too many "War stories" and do not need that. I do have a piercing "down there"!! that one I love!
  7. We seldom play on first meetings. I we have tried this and let each know its just a meet and greet and no play is expected or offered. that way, its all very above board and all expectations are known. This way, if we do not click with someone, we do not hurt someones (or more) feeling by saying, ok, get a room you, you, not you, not you and you two can watch! Not a good way to start. There was one time that we asked one guy to wait for us and we did play with him. We had a number of emails and calls back and forth and thought we might be compatible but wanted to see each other face to face too. he did stay and we played. but that was an exception to the rule. Later, if we like someone and vice versa, do we then make a play date. and we have had a few MFMM also. And hubby took the pictures! Yea, I can be slutty too! lol N
  8. The behavior is rude. period. But how would you handle this in a vanilla bar if someone came up to your date or someone you were trying to hit on and the same thing happened? You would either say something or leave. Sometimes silence is the better part of valor. Later, go up to Ms Rude and let her know that sometimes when people are talking, its not polite to barge in. Tho rude people never get that! There are always more fish in the sea! So of us girl are straight and just want more cock! (can I say that here?) N
  9. Personally I do not like many of my cousins but that is another issue! lol I would not let that get out tho. Lifestyle is seen as the devils work by most anyway, adding "relatives" in the mix and you are just under child molesters and rapists. Just be careful. And as socolais said, use precautions if there is penetrating sex to completion (Cumming inside her to those in Rio Linda) LOLOLOLOL My two cents.
  10. We ALWAYS provide the condoms. They are always name brand and this way we know they have not been tampered with. "Oh my god, how did that thing break?" is unacceptable. So to answer your question, its really never a factor. you dont wear, you dont fuck me! Sorry, move on. Next, serving number 6, number 6?
  11. YES YES YES!~!! hubby loves to watch me with other men. when we go to the club (not that often unfortunately), I will try to hook up with a single guy or two and let him watch us. Hubby gets off and later fucks the hell out of me! All I can say is we have never been happier sexually! And on other levels also. takes a lot of the BS out of the rest of our relationship also. N
  12. M is 47 (male) and N is 43 (she). We have been in the lifestyle about 8 years although if you add it all up, its really be 6 months. We only play a few times a year as we have younger kids and their social life is chock full. more then us!
  13. Welcome welcome and welcome. Its great that you two are thinking about the lifestyle. One bit of advice. Make sure you are sure. And have you talked about it over coffee and a danish and not just in bed? As for your question, I like to kiss and M does not mind. In fact, he like to watch me kiss. The only problem for me is that M has spoiled me as he is a great kisser and most men (and some women) do not meet my standards. I guess he ruined me! So its up to you two but whatever you decide, make sure you are both ok with it. like everything else in the lifestyle. Then one day you will turn around and wonder where all your "rules" went!
  14. Point well taken. But if you can keep it together for the children and and try to make the marriage work, I would give that a try of course. If you and your spouse cuss, fight and threaten each other in front of the kids, then no, get out and be done with it. either way, the kids are going to be scared, no way around it. I guess what I meant is today its too easy to divorce, and couples do it without taking into account the concentric circles and what effect that has. Sorry I too may have hijacked this thread. No more from me! Thanks SexCupid for the counterpoint!
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